*Is light skin still preferred over dark skin, when it comes to our sistas? I was listening to the radio driving to work and I caught an interview on how Gabrielle Union constantly compares herself to other women, especially light skinned sistas.
She made a statement in a magazine interview how she has a complex about her nose and how she always scan the room to see if there are any light skinned women in the room that looks better than her?
WTF!! Are you serious?? I have personally met this woman and this woman is simply gorgeous, naturally (no plastic surgery of any kind)! She could easily pass for twenty-something, the woman is pushing 40!!
Why do women, especially beautiful women always compare themselves to other women? Are we that uncomfortable in our own skin that we can’t accept ourselves as we are? I will admit, I noticed as early as kindergarten that the boys always liked the light skinned, light eyes, long hair little girls. Us little chocolate drops with nappy hair didn’t stand a chance.
True story, when I was a kid in grade school I had a major crush on this guy, I use to send him little notes asking him to be my boyfriend, check the box; yes, no, or maybe (Yall Oldheads remember those notes?). I use to daydream about him all the time. Of course he always went for the light skinned, long hair pretty girls and never paid chocolate drop, nappy headed me no attention.
Now fast forward to a few years ago, I ran into this dude and he was all over me, telling me how beautiful I looked, and how I filled out well (I was a flat-chested string bean all the way up to high school) and how sexy I was. I was like dayumm, I felt like Mike Jones, “Back in the day you didn’t want me!” The ironic thing about the whole story is that he ended up marrying a short hair, beautiful dark skinned sista. Go figure!
So do most men still prefer light skinned women or dark skinned women? When I was younger I always wished I had straighter hair, but I never wanted to be light skin. I love the complexion of my skin, I wouldn’t change it for nothing in the world. However, when you turn on the television and you see these actors, athletes and even politicians with either a very light skinned black woman or white woman, it really makes you wonder, wow, a dark sista just don’t stand a chance!
I think some black men today just like a variety of women, dark, light, different ethnicities, short, tall, etc., and some just still prefer light or white and would never look at a dark skinned women as being beautiful. The ironic thing is most of these brothas are dark brothas! So I ask these brothas, do you have self hatred? Do you dislike yourself because of your skin tone and/or your race? Because what I have learned is that you can’t hate the root of the tree and love the tree. You must love yourself as a whole. Embrace that chocolate skin that you are in. I personally love my black, dark chocolate brothas, wouldn’t have it any other way!!
So I ask the question is light skin still better than dark skin?
I’m just saying???
C Double R!!
Chanel Rhoads-Reed aka C Double R! was born in raised in West Philadelphia, PA. Chanel has a B.S. in Marketing from Rosemont College and a M.S. in Organizational Leadership from the University of Pennsylvania.
Chanel has always had a passion for writing which prompted her to start the blog Crazy Azz Women. The blog deals with the male/female relationship in all aspects.
The blog discusses topics from self independence for woman to how a woman likes to be pleased sexual. Chanel intertwines her own experiences along with the experiences of her friends, family, and acquaintances to keep the blog 100%.
Chanel is a single mother of a 7 year old son and currently resides in the state of Delaware.
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