*Draws in the drawers, but no money for the bills, when should you ask your new live-in lover to help pay bills? I think we all have either experienced this or know someone who has experienced this situation.
Ladies, you meet your new guy, and everything is going well. You guys are hanging out almost every day, going out to dinner, dancing, the movies and the sex is banging! In the beginning your new Boo packed an overnight bag and stayed overnight and then left in the morning.
Fast forward three months down the road and this man has completely moved into your damn house, unbeknownst to you!! Dude is no longer packing an overnight bag he has taken over your underwear draw and half of your damn closet!
Now you feel like you’re stuck between a rock and a hard place because you like having him there, but at the same time your food is being depleted faster than you can replace it and the utility bills are slowly creeping up, not to mention the laundry load.
You feel uncomfortable asking him to contribute financially because technically he doesn’t live there and he is still paying bills for his own house. And on top of all that, dude already have a key to your front door!
My question to you is, “Why are you the one feeling uncomfortable, especially in your own damn house?” If anyone should feel uncomfortable it should be the Guest That Wouldn’t Leave. What kind of man just takes it upon himself to move into his woman’s house without even thinking about offering to pay a bill? I tell you what, no man of mine! I think when we are in that “Honeymoon” stage of our new relationships we are so caught up that we really don’t see what is really going on around us. Ladies and men too, it’s ok to fall in love but don’t get caught up to the point where you’re feeling uncomfortable in your own home. Your home is the one place where you should feel comfortable and also feel respected in.
So just pay attention, if you feel like things are moving too fast then be like Roy Rogers and Slowwww Down! And always, always, always have “The Financial Responsibility That Comes With This Key Talk” before you decide to hand over your key because the last thing you want or need is a grown ass man as a dependent!!
I’m just saying…
C Double R!!
Chanel Rhoads-Reed aka C Double R! was born in raised in West Philadelphia, PA. Chanel has a B.S. in Marketing from Rosemont College and a M.S. in Organizational Leadership from the University of Pennsylvania.
Chanel has always had a passion for writing which prompted her to start the blog Crazy Azz Women. The blog deals with the male/female relationship in all aspects.
The blog discusses topics from self independence for woman to how a woman likes to be pleased sexual. Chanel intertwines her own experiences along with the experiences of her friends, family, and acquaintances to keep the blog 100%.
Chanel is a single mother of a 7 year old son and currently resides in the state of Delaware.
If you would like to contact C Double R, please email her at: [email protected].