*Recently I learned of something called “Courtesy Sex”, not to be mistaken for a Booty Call.
Let me break it down so it can forever be broken. A Booty Call is when someone calls you (It can be a man or a woman making the call) either asking you to come over or asking to come over to have sex, but it is not considered a Booty Call if the call takes place before midnight.
Courtesy Sex is when a person (usually a man) has sex with someone out of pity. You may be asking, then why have sex if you really don’t want to have sex with the person?
Well, the reason being is because they usually have a history with the person. I was out with a male buddy the other day and he explained it perfectly to me. He told me back in the day he used to date this petite pretty girl who had a banging body and he used to love to have sex with her. Recently he ran into her again.
Unfortunately, one of her relatives passed away and she was in town for the funeral. He said the first moment she had him alone she asked when was he going to give her some? She told him she rehearsed this moment in her mind for almost twenty years. He said she damn near cornered him against the wall and started taking her clothes off.
He said she was no longer the small petite woman he was attracted to, but he literally said, (his words not mine) she looked like a little bowling ball, round and short. So of course I asked, “Did you give her Courtesy Sex?” and of course he said yes, but he never told anyone because he still couldn’t believe that he did it.
I had several male friends tell me they had Courtesy Sex because they didn’t want to hurt the woman’s feelings. Most of the men had a previous relationship or a sexual history with the women and that is why they had Courtesy Sex. I had one man tell me he had mutual Courtesy Sex with his ex. He stated that they knew it was over and they both agreed to have sex one last time before he moved out. I think that’s different because at least in this case both parties knew the situation. However, when you are the one giving the Courtesy Sex nine times out of ten you’re the only one who knows about the Courtesy Sex situation.
So my question is, why not just say no? Seriously, I rather have a man tell me that he’s just not attracted to me like that anymore, or shit, just straight out lie to not have sex with me because the last thing I want is some Courtesy Sex from a man who is not attracted to me anymore. It’s just not that deep for me.
I’m just saying…
C Double R!
Chanel Rhoads-Reed aka C Double R! was born in raised in West Philadelphia, PA. Chanel has a B.S. in Marketing and a M.S. in Organizational Leadership from the University of Pennsylvania.
Chanel has always had a passion for writing which prompted her to start the blog Crazy Azz Women. The blog deals with the male/female relationship in all aspects.
The blog discusses topics from self independence for woman to how a woman likes to be pleased sexual. Chanel intertwines her own experiences along with the experiences of her friends, family, and acquaintances to keep the blog 100%.
Chanel is a single mother of a 7 year old son and currently resides in the state of Delaware.