*Question, is it wrong or bad to be spoiled? Fellas, do you have a problem with a spoiled woman? A woman who usually gets what she wants.

A woman who likes nice things and expect the finer things in life? With just this being said, most of you would probably answer yes.

You would say yes, because you are probably thinking she wants these things from you and you may see her ass as needy, right?

Now, let me put a twist on the question, would you have a probably with a woman who spoils herself and you at the same time? The answer to this question would probably be no. I have been called spoiled all of my life, from friends, family and foes alike. I have been called bourgeois, stuck up, and it really doesn’t bother me. It doesn’t bother me because that’s someone else’s perception of me and not reality. It’s funny how people think they know you when they don’t know you, but when they get to know you the first think they say is, “Wow, I really didn’t know you.”

I had an associate that I known for years and his perception of me was that I was spoiled, stuck up and a Gold Digger, yes a Gold Digger. His ring tone for me was Kanye’s “Gold Digger” of course this was before he really got to know me. Once he really got to know me he said, “Damn, Nel, you are nothing like I thought you were, you are cool as hell!” So, this is why I don’t really get irritated or agitated when I hear that someone was talking itsh about me. As Katt Williams say, “If you got 7 people hating on you at the beginning of the summer then it is your job to have 20 by the end of the summer.” And this motto works for me.

Now with that being said, I don’t see nothing wrong with being spoiled, if you are spoiling YOURSELLF and don’t expect others to do it for you. Am I spoiled? Yes, but I spoil myself, so therefore, if this is something that I choose to do, then so be it. However, I also like to spoil my man, I like to show him attention but I want and expect (spoken like a true spoil brat!) that attention to be reciprocated.  With me it is all about reciprocity, if you do for me I will do for you, and if you don’t then more than likely the itsh won’t last. It is what it is!

So, let me pose the question again, “Is it Wrong to be Spoiled?”