*In her blog on Vibe.com, Brandy comes clean about the romance rumors surrounding her relationship with “Get Low” rapper Flo Rida, particularly in light of paparazzi pictures showing the two cuddled up at her 31st birthday bash in February.

“I’ve seen the photos of me and Flo Rida,” Brandy writes. “I don’t want to say that we’re a couple. I can definitely say that he’s somebody in my life and I’m definitely interested but I’m not serious with anybody. I’m a little bit afraid to give my heart away right now. It’s very scary.”

One reason for the hesitation is her 7½-year-old daughter, Sy’rai, from her marriage to producer Robert Smith that ended in 2003.

“My daughter hasn’t seen me with anybody in five years,” she writes. “I’m very, very selective when it comes to that because I want to make sure that it’s real. I don’t want her to see me with just anybody because she means everything to me.”

So, what is Brandy looking for in a potential beau?

“You have to be a strong guy to be in a committed relationship,” Brandy writes. “If you’re not ready for that, then don’t tell me that you are. Be honest with a girl … Don’t tell somebody they’re your girlfriend and then you go out and act like you don’t have a girlfriend. That’s not right.”

While admitting her own reluctance to take the leap, Brandy gave some encouraging advice to her fans.

“I’m scared to give my heart away,” she wrote. “I don’t know where to find a good guy. I just think that they’re around and I think you have to be good and at some point you’ll attract that. I really believe that. First, people should stop looking. The looking thing does not work. Just let love find you.”

Brandy’s blog coincides with last night’s premiere of her new VH1 reality series “Brandy and Ray-J: Family Business.”