Kandi Burruss turns 34 today
Just like the headline says, this page/board is where you can discuss the stuff that we didn’t cover in today’s issue. (It’s sort of like feedback with a twist) Remember, NO name calling, racial taunting, graphic sex talk and vulgarity in general, PLEASE.
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EUR MOTIVATIONAL NOTE
Today’s ‘Live Better With Willie Jolley’ Tip: The Mind Tattoo
Today’s ‘Live Better Tip for Success’ is focused on helping you Turn Your Setbacks Into Greenbacks!
Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, the author of the landmark book The Power of Positive Thinking, shared a story about a drunk man coming out of a tattoo shop and with a new tattoo on his arm that read ‘‘Born to Lose!’’ Dr. Peale watched the man stumble down the street and then noticed that the tattoo artist had come out of the shop and also looked as the man stumble away. The old tattoo artist sadly shook his head and said, ‘‘I asked him if he was sure that he wanted that tattoo and he was adamant that he did.’’ Dr. Peale then said, “…before he had it tattooed on his arm, he had tattooed it on his brain!’’ He believed that the man really was born to lose and therefore, he acted like he was born to lose. None of us were born to lose. Yet the choice is up to us!
Visit my website at www.williejolley.com for more information on turning your setbacks into greenbacks, and make this a great day!
CELEBRITY BIRTHDAYS
May 17: Singer Taj Mahal is 68. Singer-guitarist George Johnson of The Brothers Johnson is 57. Guitarist O’Dell of Mint Condition is 45. Actor Hill Harper (“City of Angels,” ”He Got Game”) is 44. Singer Darnell Van Rensalier of Shai is 40. Singer Kandi Burruss (Xscape) is 34.
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BLACK HISTORY
May 17, 1875: The first Kentucky Derby is won by African American jockey Oliver Lewis riding the horse Aristides. 14 of the 15 jockeys in the race are African Americans. (Source: www.BlackFacts.com)
Today’s CHOCOLATE JAM is “Off On Your Own” by Al B. Sure!
Good Morning Family. The weekend went by so quickly. I so look forward to my vacation in June.
Anybody see the Boondocks last night? Funny. Does anyone watch the Brandy whinefest show on VH1 otherwise known as The Brandy and Ray J something something. She is the biggest whiner I’ve seen.
The concert gods have heard my cry. The Jill Scott Maxwell Tour will be headed to Nashville. I AM GOING TO BE UP IN THAT PEACE WITH FEATHERS AND BELLS ON!!!!!!!
Melanie Fiona and Eryka Badu are joining the concert tour. Eryka is already slated to come her in August so I bet she won’t be there.
Went for a bike ride yesterday after the Celtics beat the Magic, and as I was riding a car passed me and a woman yelled out the window “Sexeee!!” Made my evening.
Good morning family. What’s good?
Morning fam!
Question? What exactly is the role of a Matron of Honor?
G’morning
LETMEIN – I think Matron of Honor is just the head chick (besides the bride) who is already married and is the Top Bridesmaid. She’s already been through everything so she’s there to take charge of a lot of stuff. I’ve never been one so I don’t know. Matron of Honor gives a toast and handles small details with the bridesmaids so the bride doesn’t have to be bothered with it. Matron of Honor also plans the bridal luncheon or bachelorette (sp?) party and all that crap (with the assistance of the bridesmaids).
Have y’all heard that the tension in the Cleveland Cavaliers’ locker room is due to Delonte West doing LeBron’s mom?!!!
Jazz, I heard that on Saturday… the chick who told me said she got it off of Media Takeout. M.T. has never been a reliable source of info so I’m not giving it much credibility.
jazz….I read that on a couple of sites. Wonder if it’s true?
Thanks Lovely!
SNORK!
Matron of Honor = Freakin Slave for a day…… If not more than that….
Yogi! How they hangin’?
Pre Wedding
Help in going with the bride to look at different locations for the wedding. Many times the Bride needs help in choosing where to have the ceremony and party besides what day and time to have the wedding. Ask if you can participate in this process since it can be a very stressful.
Help the bride choose her wedding invitations as well as possibly address the invitations if she needs your support. Many times a bride may outsource her invitations but if they need to be addressed by the family, your help will be key in reducing the load of tasks to complete.
If the bride needs help in ordering and choosing decorations and favors, your opinions may be helpful in making decisions for narrowing down choices and making sure the decorations are in on time for the wedding, shower and bachelorette parties.
Go with the bride when she is shopping for her wedding dress as well as the Bridesmaid Dresses. It is very important to help make sure the dresses are ordered and arrive in enough time for alterations! It is helpful for you to attend the multiple fittings in giving your friend some feedback in how the dress looks and fits.
Many times the groom does not want to go to register with his bride-to-be. You can be very supportive by going with your friend to register for her wedding gifts as well as letting other guests know where the bride and groom are registered. This is a very fun experience so take part in the choosing if she needs help.
Help the bride in the seating arrangement. This can be a very difficult process with the more people coming to the wedding. Many times it makes it easier to draw out the tables and move people around until you have a close to perfect fit. Note: It is very helpful to bring this drawing to the wedding just in case there are any mix-ups, you will save the day!
Host and Plan the Bridal Shower as well as the Bachelorette Party!
Help keep order and organization with the other bridesmaids.
Attend and help out during the rehearsal dinner. Many times the bride, groom and their families are pre-occupied and forget about things which is where you can save the day by being organized.
Field messages for the bride and her family to make sure you are up on any changes (especially if they are last minute changes that affect the other guests).
Attend all bridal fairs with the bride as well as cake and catering tasting.
Wedding Day
Make sure the bride arrives to the ceremony and that she has everything on the Maid of Honor Checklist that we have created to make your life easier.
Assist the bride in getting into her dress and makeup
Be the messenger if the bride wants to communicate messages to the family or groom so you are always up on what is going on.
Visit the reception room and party room (if possible) to make sure there are no problems or issues. It is much better to be proactive.
Help make sure the bride has privacy if she needs some quiet time before the ceremony.
Be the witness in the signing of the marriage license which is an honor!
Help the bride with her veil and train (if she has one). I have seen many weddings where brides have tripped on their train which takes away from her experience for a moment.
Be your friend’s “right-hand-woman” at the altar. She may be very nervous and you can be the calming source with your presence.
Keeper of the brides bouquet during the ceremony. Make sure you have a free hand.
Keeper of the groom’s ring. It is your task to also make sure the groom’s ring is in your possession at all times until you give the ring over to the bride!
Make a toast and/or speech during the wedding party since it is tradition and most people love hearing these friendship stories!
Make sure you lock up the bridal/groom money bag after the bride and groom dance with all of their family and friends so someone does not steal or pick it up by accident.
Last, but not least, provide moral support and be a great listener throughout the process since it is a very wonderful and “positively” stressful time for your friend. You can really make the difference!
Too often, the duty of “straightening/fluffing” the Bride’s dress is overlooked. If the Bride is staying on a level, straight path, then this can be done before her descent down the aisle. However, if she is turning, or stepping up steps and/or turning to reach her destination, then the Maid/Matron of Honor should first adjust her train before accepting the bouquet to hold. This is most easily done by holding the train at points about (2) feet apart, and gently “shaking” the train (as if shaking a rug!) one good time, and it will fall beautifully in place.
http://www.bridesmaid101.com/maid_of_honor_duties.html
that’s the website I got that info from.
In a lot of movies, the Matron of Honor duties seem to include having slept with the groom at some point in the past – from the morning of the wedding to several years before!!
Jazz – me and my friends have yelled things like that at men as jokes…
Matter of fact, last week when we were out I played along with a short man who REALLY thought he had a shot. It provided us with an entire night of comedy.
Hopefully the woman who shouted “sexy” to you meant it and wasn’t just trying to get her giggle for the day.
I’ll just tell myself that she was serious!! ;o)
jazz.
No comprende YLY.
To the corner for that comment about the Matron of Honor duties having included sleeping with the groom.
Oh, don’t act like I’m the ONLY one!!
– Supreme Court rules federal government can keep some sex offenders locked up after they serve their sentences.
I’m not sure how I feel about this. On one hand, it’s great for the general public’s safety…maybe. On the other, it’s one more erosion of individual rights. Why not just sentence the offender to life rather than say “OK you’ve paid your debt to society, but we’re going to keep you anyway.”
Saw Avatar this weekend. Great film!!!!!!!!!!!!!
A South Side woman activated an emergency signal in her car while at a currency exchange with a gunman who had taken her and her husband from home to cash their check for him.
“It was only a push away,” the woman, 61, who spoke to the Tribune on Sunday on condition of anonymity, said of the OnStar button.
After she pushed the button early Friday, Chicago police were requested by OnStar to respond to the 300 block of West 79th Street, the currency exchange’s location.
After police scuffled with parolee Jerrell Arterberry, 24, he was charged with home invasion with a firearm and aggravated battery of a police officer. A Cook County judge ordered Arterberry, of the 3200 block of West Fulton Boulevard, held in lieu of $500,000 bail.
The ordeal started about 4:30 a.m., when the woman’s husband, dressed in a bright red suit and alligator boots, was returning to his home in the 7500 block of South Harvard Avenue from singing karaoke at a bar, his wife said. The robber, standing on the corner smoking a cigarette, told him he looked like a pimp and demanded his money, the woman said.
The man said he didn’t have any money and led the man into his house, where he woke up his wife.
“Babe, come here,” the man said to his wife.
“I told him it’s 4 in the morning and I’m sleeping,” she said. “But he insisted I come downstairs.”
The husband told his wife to get some money, she said. She went to the back of the house to retrieve $700.
When she gave the money to the robber, he said: “This isn’t enough,” she said. She then wrote a separate check and told the robber that they could cash it at a nearby currency exchange.
The robber then led the husband and wife to the car at gunpoint and ordered them to drive him to get the check cashed, the woman said.
At the check-cashing business, the woman, her husband and the robber were standing outside when the woman said that she dropped the check on the floor of the car. She went inside the vehicle and tried to activate the OnStar system, but it didn’t work because the keys were not in the ignition.
She came back out with the check, but then told the robber that she was cold, and he allowed her go back and get her coat, the woman said. Back in the car, she got the keys from her coat pocket, pressed the OnStar button, prompting an operator to ask her about the nature of the emergency.
“I slammed the door real quick and whispered for the woman to call the police,” the woman said.
At the currency exchange, the robber tried to cash the check but was met by two police officers, Assistant State’s Attorney Michael Cheronis said. The robber hit one officer in the left eye with the handgun and threw the other officer to the ground before being arrested, Cheronis said.
Arterberry is on parole for a 2005 felony armed robbery conviction, in which he was originally sentenced to 10 years in prison. He was released from Robinson Correctional Center in August, according to the Illinois Department of Corrections.
“I’m considering moving,” the woman said. “I’m just paranoid. I just don’t feel safe here anymore.”
Why did the husband lead this buster to the house? Quick thinking on the part of the woman. As for the robber, some people don’t know what to do with the second chances they are given. Oh well, he will be locked up for a long time now for sure.
OJ, we finally finished it (it took an entire week)… I thought it was really good too. I’m not usually in to movies like that but I enjoyed it. Didn’t they say it’s the highest grossing movie ever?
A mother and daughter charged a South Side elementary school principal’s office Thursday afternoon and started a scuffle with police and school officials after they learned that the mother’s son had been arrested for assaulting a teacher, prosecutors said today.
Patrice Marshall and her daughter Katie, both of the 6500 block of South California Avenue, were charged with aggravated battery of a peace officer in connection with the incident. Both women appeared this afternoon in court, where Patrice Marshall was ordered held in lieu of $10,000 bail and her daughter’s bail was set at $30,000 by Cook County Judge Maria Kuriakos Ciesil.
Prosecutors said that Patrice Marshall, 36, was called to Marquette Elementary School in the 6500 block of South Richmond Street Thursday afternoon after her son, a student at the school, had been arrested for assaulting a teacher and a police officer. Her daughter Katie, 20, and at least two teenagers believed to be relatives went with her, said Asst. State’s Atty. Michael Cheronis.
The mother and daughter Marshall “stormed” into the principal’s office, where two police officers were stationed, one uniformed, the other plainclothes, Cheronis said. The women allegedly acted loud and unruly, prompting the officers to eject Katie Marshall from the grounds, he said.
Patrice Marshall “became belligerent” while still in the office, Cheronis said, while Katie reappeared in the office later. The younger Marshall pushed one of the officers, sending the officer to the ground, then hit the officer while down, Cheronis said. Katie was then tackled to the floor and restrained, he said.
Patrice Marshall ran out of the office screaming and flailing at the other officer, Cheronis said. By that time a large crowd of students had gathered to watch.
“At this point the school was in chaos,” he said.
From the ground, Katie started yelling for help from the teens she came with, Cheronis said. At one point, one of the teens allegedly started yelling for a gun “and someone to shoot the officers,” he said.
The women were taken to the gym to separate them from the students and teens, and arrested. Tensions cooled and the crowd dispersed, he said.
Cheronis asked that the women be held on $250,000 bails for “almost causing a riot.”
But their court-appointed attorney said that the request was “way out of line,” noting that neither woman has a criminal record. Patrice Marshall has custody of seven children, she said, while Katie is pregnant.
Mother and daughter walked out of the courtroom and back to jail. The mother didn’t express emotion, but her daughter, dressed in pink flannel pajama bottoms and a red jacket emblazoned with the number “56″ on front and back, sobbed.
Wow. A mother to 7 kids and a pregnant woman attacking folks at a school? WTF is this world coming to? What are they teaching their children by behaving like this? It kills me. You have to have a f*cking license to fish. You get grilled when you go to a shelter to get a dog. You have to get credit checks and drug tests to work at many jobs. But any ole body can pop out a baby and raise it. Un -f*cking- believable.
jazzfan…WHAT? You slept with the Matron of Honor?
Hell Naw, I’m saying don’t act like I’m the only one who hasn’t seen it as a plot device.
Lessons to be learned here:
1. Have your ass home before 4:30 am.
2. Don’t wear pimp clothes
3. Don’t take the robber from the corner to your home.
YLY, In Chi and Detroit bright red suits and gators aren’t pimp suits, those are church clothes!!
YLY, that seems cruel and illegal to keep a prisoner AFTER they’ve served their sentence. How can they possibly justify doing that? And is it just sexual offenders? Why not murderers?
Well the Supreme Court just made it legal. That’s my question too…who’s next?
*cough* Hello, *cough!cough!*
slenda, most handsome! Are you feeling better?
The Supreme Court has ruled that teenagers may not be locked up for life without chance of parole if they haven’t killed anyone. By a 5-4 vote Monday, the court says the Constitution requires that young people serving life sentences must at least be considered for release.
I’m on the mend, YLawdY.
That is the same suit Huggy Lowdown wore at his last comedy show here. I couldn’t believe he has the audacity to call people bamas after wearing such nonsense.
His name is HUGGY LOWDOWN. I would expect no less.
Once again thanks Lovely. Seems like the MOH is damn near the wedding planner! **sigh** My MOH AND Bridesmaids got off easy. I didn’t run them crazy.
Correct, letmein. The MOH is very damn near the wedding planner. slendarella would never agree to being a MOH again after her one and only experience.
Slenderella is SMART!! This chick has ruined the thought of me EVER being in another wedding! I just don’t see why she can’t make any decision without me. It is HER day after all. Hell pick it and go with it. Sheesh!!
I mean if you’re somewhere and you see something YOU like, what is the purpose of waiting to get it until I see it?! I don’t give a fuck for real.
Morning
On a scale of 1-10, me wanting to be in bed is a 284,729,463
Why do we run ourselves ragged knowing we’ll regret it later??!!
A favorable ruling however once again the usual 3, Scalia, Thomas and Alito, dissent.
Supreme Court limits life sentences without parole for young criminals
In a 6-3 decision, the court strikes down laws in Florida, California and 35 other states that allow life terms with no chance for parole for a crime that does not involve murder.
By David G. Savage, Los Angeles Times
8:59 AM PDT, May 17, 2010
Reporting from Washington
The Supreme Court for the first time put a broad constitutional limit on prison terms Monday, ruling it is cruel and unusual punishment to give a young criminal a life term in prison with no chance for parole for a crime that does not involve murder.
In a 6-3 decision, the court struck down the laws in Florida and 36 other states which permit life prison terms for criminals who were under age 18 at the time of their crimes. Currently, 129 prisoners are serving such terms nationwide, and 77 of them are in Florida.
In the past, the Constitution’s ban on cruel and unusual punishment has been used mostly to limit use of the death penalty. The justices have been wary of limiting prison terms.
But Justice Anthony M. Kennedy, speaking for the court, said a life prison term with no chance for parole is too extreme for a juvenile criminal whose offenses involve robbery or assault. He also noted that prior to today, “The United States is the only nation that imposes life without parole sentences on juvenile non-homicide offenders.”
Kennedy said these young criminals are not entitled to a “guarantee” of eventual release, but they do deserve “some realistic opportunity to obtain release” if they can show they are no longer a danger to the community.
The ruling came in the case of Terrance Graham, who as a teenager in Jacksonville, Fla., was sentenced to life in prison for his role in the armed robbery of a restaurant and a later home invasion robbery. He was 17 when a judge sent him to prison for life with no chance for parole.
Kennedy said this sentence would mean “he will die in prison without any meaningful opportunity to obtain release, no matter what he might do to demonstrate that the bad acts he committed as a teenager are not representative of his true character, even if he spends the next half century attempting to atone for his crimes and learn from his mistakes.”
Justices John Paul Stevens, Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Stephen G. Breyer and Sonia Sotomayor joined his opinion in Graham vs. Florida. Chief Justice John G. Roberts Jr. concurred in Graham’s case, but did not go along with Kennedy’s broader ruling.
Justices Clarence Thomas, Antonin Scalia and Samuel A. Alito Jr. dissented.
Most states that have such laws are not currently using them. Besides Florida, 10 other states have inmates who were sent to prison for life for crimes that do not involve a homicide, Kennedy said. They are California, Delaware, Iowa, Louisiana, Mississippi, Nebraska, Nevada, Oklahoma, South Carolina and Virginia.
Human Rights Watch hailed the decision as bringing U.S. law into line with international standards of justice. The group said 2,574 people are serving life terms for juvenile crimes, but its figures include murderers. “The United States is the world’s worst human rights violator in terms of sentencing young offenders to life without parole,” said Alison Parker, U.S. director for Human Rights Watch.
david.savage@latimes.com
Letmein, here’s what another site says:
Here are some of the duties of the Maid/Matron of Honor
1. Provides the bride with advice and moral support when she is frustrated and ready to pull her hair.
2. Helps with pre-wedding activities such as addressing invitations, making phone calls, and running errands. Often accompanies the bride when meeting caters, florist, bakers etc.
3. Helps the bride pick her gown and the bridesmaid dresses.
4. Acts as the head-bridesmaid: organizes bridesmaid’s gown fittings, schedules all wedding day hair and makeup appointments, spreads the word about the bridal registry.
5. Pays for her own wedding attire (excluding flowers).
6. Attends all pre-wedding parties.
7. May host a bridal shower (with or without the help of the bridesmaids).
8. Helps the bride dress and stay calm on her wedding day.
9. Precedes the bride down the isle.
10. Holds the groom’s ring until ceremony exchange (only if there is no ring-bearer).
11. Arranges bride’s veil and train during ceremony.
12. Holds bride’s bouquet during part of the ceremony.
13. May stand in receiving line.
14. May sign the wedding certificate as a witness.
15. Helps the bride get ready for her honeymoon when leaving the reception.
16. After the reception she gathers up any gifts, and makes sure they are brought safely to the couple’s home.
17. In the days following the reception she will make sure any rental items are returned to the store. She may also take the bride’s wedding gown to the dry-cleaners so it can be preserved properly (Hint: The sooner the gown is dry-cleaned, the less chance there are of permanent stains!)
Lovely….um #’s 16 and 17 is a NO go. After they say I do (literally), I’M DONE!
Letmein – hahaha! You can make her family do that then.
Hell, I’m pretending I didn’t even read it.
Like I said up yonder, slave for a day, or much longer. And the list is lacking on general fact, she is to instruct how the proper technique of teabaggin for the wedding night/honey moon….
Letmein – I say if the bride doesn’t specifically ask you to do it, you don’t have to.
MWM – really? on the honeymoon? that’s not romantic.
And don’t get me wrong, I love her dearly and feel honored that she wanted me to be her MOH BUT I already have a lot going on with work, things with my son and things at church. There are only so many hours in the day…days in the week. Wanting to meet at 7 on a FRIDAY NIGHT, then get there and it’s a bunch of yukking it up and pretending to be tipsy off coolers (one of the bridesmaids) cuts into my foreplay and spooge time with hubby. I’m selfish when it comes to ‘our’ time. 3 hours later and the bouquets are still not totally complete and you say Sunday that you want to change them?!
Yeah see that’s NOT working for me!
Not romamtic?
Morning … err … afternoon folks. I’ll be mostly “out” this week due to depositions and depo. preps for a case. Hope all is wonderful with ya’ll. And don’t list to Juice’s hate at Brandy.
Brandy can do no wrong and I love her just the way she is. 
Boo-Boo, Lovely thinks the wedding night is suppose be like some romance novel, little does she know the man gone try the freakiest shat he knows cause he didn’t have the balls to try it when they was dating…..
I am soooo sleepy. Who will keep me up?
Hey people!
I’m so sleepy too ceegirl.
I meet Tallchix this weekend. On accident. lol I went over a former coworker’s house. Tallchix said “aren’t you arkansas chick from…..” I was like huh? Then when she said her name, I knew she was talking about eurweb. She was in town visiting from Texas
This is a small world.
I just hit my head on the dining room table. I think I saw stars. So glad no one was here to see me do that!
Hey everyone! Hope y’al are ok.
It is a small world. A friend that I met on EUR knows my sister from when they were kids.
Yogi..Lovely’s been reading Harlequin Romances. Now meanwhile, back in reality, what you said. LOL
Ark,
It’s cool that you met Tallchix. The combo of EUR F4A and Facebook makes the world even smaller.
Is she really tall?
Is she really a chick? Just kidding…
You know what would make the world smaller? If more of you guys were coming to Punta Cana
Hey folks… I am CTFU at Jazz and MWM. Spoken like a true wedded ninja.
I’ve been a MAID of Honor a trillion times. And ain’t nothing honorable about all that slaving you are expected to do.
I plan to have a destination wedding with my sister as my maid/matron/bridesmaid of honor. I ain’t having 45 of my closest friends as my bridesmaid. No way. MWM is going to be thes best man so that he can teach my future husband some stuff at the bachelor party. Cuzzin Lawd is going to be the officiant.
The end.
It is indeed a small world. I met my cousin’s childhood best friend on here and was able to connect them again. She was even a guest of honor at my cousin’s 50th Birthday Bash.
CORRECTION: Cuzzin Lawd is going to be the officiant at my wedding, and then Ex is going to be the divorce attorney to get me HALF! LOL
CEE– I would have loved to meet up with you ladies in Punta Cana but the flights were RIDICULOUS. I was able to get flights for me AND my sister for Punta Cana in August for the price of ONE ticket in June.
I hear you. I am hearing the same sad song from others as well.
Have a good afternoon everyone… I’m Audi 5000… I have 600 million things to do this week and none of them are in this office…
Holler at ya’ll tomorrow.