Busta Rhymes turns 38 today
Just like the headline says, this page/board is where you can discuss the stuff that we didn’t cover in today’s issue. (It’s sort of like feedback with a twist) Remember, NO name calling, racial taunting, graphic sex talk and vulgarity in general, PLEASE.
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EUR MOTIVATIONAL NOTE
Today’s ‘Live Better With Willie Jolley’ Tip: You Can Lead a Horse to Water, But. . .
Today’s ‘Live Better Tip for Success’ is focused on helping you over come this challenging economy. Helping you to Turn Your Setbacks Into Greenbacks!
The old adage states “you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink. You can take a fool to wisdom, but can’t make him think.” There is a story about a man who was looking for the secret to success. He came to a wise man and asked, ‘‘What do I have to do to become a success?’’ The wise man said, ‘‘You have to change your thinking and change what you do and change how you act. The young man paused to reflect on the wise man’s words, and then he walked away. He didn’t want to stop doing what he was doing, because it would be uncomfortable.
Many have heard what it takes to be successful, but refuse to change and therefore, choose to fail. Ladies and gentlemen, it’s as old as time: You are what you think about. Change your thinking and change your life!
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CELEBRITY BIRTHDAYS
May 20: Rapper Busta Rhymes is 38. Singer-actress Naturi Naughton (3LW) is 26.
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BLACK HISTORY
May 20, 1961: Mob attacked Freedom Riders in Montgomery. Attorney General Robert F. Kennedy dispatched four hundred U.S. marshals to Montgomery to keep order in Freedom Rider controversy. (Source: www.BlackFacts.com)
Today’s CHOCOLATE JAM is “Steelo” by 702
OMG, THAT’S MY JAYUM!!!! LOVE the video!!!
Good Morning. Happy Birthday Busta Rhymes. Skip the cake and booze.
Do you really wanna party with me
Let me see just what you got for me
Put all your hands where my eyes could see
Straight buck wylin in the place to be
If you really wanna party with me, in God we trust
Yo its a must that you heard of us yo we murderous
A lot of niggas is wonderin and they curious
I’m makin my niggas deal with it so mysterious
Furious all of my niggaz is serious
Should niggaz be walkin around fearin us
Frontin nigga like you don’t wanna be hearin us
Gotta listen to the radio be playin us
30 time a day shit’ll make you delirious
Damagin everything all up in your areas
Yo its funny how all the chickens be always servin us
All up in between they ass where they wanna carry us
Hitcha gonnana hit em off with the illiest
Varias chickens they wanna marry us
Yo its Flipmode my nigga you know we bout to bust.
Good morning family. How you be?
Legendary boxer Muhammad Ali’s daughter, Jamillah, 39, and former State Sen. Jeremiah Joyce’s son, Michael, 42, tied the knot in Naples, Fla., last weekend.
It was the uniting of two families with deep Chicago roots: Jeremiah Joyce has been one of Mayor Daley’s closest political advisers in the past . . . and both families have Irish ancestry.
Sneed is told Michael Joyce, a lawyer and a boxer, asked “The Champ” for his daughter’s hand in marriage when the couple accompanied the aging pugilist on a trip to his maternal grandmother’s hometown in Ireland last year.
” ‘The Champ’ said, ‘Yes,’ and so did Jamillah,” said Joyce’s brother, Kevin, who told Sneed: “No one ever thought Mike would get married. For the last two years, he’s been the happiest anyone has ever seen him. At the wedding, Mike said, “Muhammad, you’ll always be ‘The Champ,’ but ‘The Greatest Ever’ is my mother, Mary Joyce, and she’s going to pass that title on to my wife, your daughter.”
Ali, who suffers from Parkinson’s disease, was able to walk his daughter down the aisle at the beachside wedding before 140 friends and dozens of onlookers at the Ritz-Carlton hotel in Naples. The wedding was performed by the Rev. George Clements.
“Muhammad Ali sat throughout the whole reception and invited people to come up and take pictures with him,” a wedding source said.
Joyce, a former prize fighter known as “Irish Mike Joyce,” promotes young boxers and opened a boxing club at his alma mater — Leo Catholic High School in Auburn Gresham.
“Mike has always been consumed in helping others and has been the best man in at least six weddings,” Kevin Joyce said.
Jamillah, one of Ali’s family of seven daughters and two sons, works at the Secretary of State’s office. Joyce’s dad, Jeremiah, was a Chicago alderman for four years and an Illinois state senator for 14 years.
Could there be a Hollywood ending to the Gulf oil spill?
Enter “Waterworld” star Kevin Costner, who has invented a device that cleans oil from sea water.
British Petroleum – desperate for ideas – gave the okay to test six of Costner’s gizmos Wednesday, after the Army Corps of Engineers gave the machine a thumbs-up.
Costner’s $24 million centrifuge machine has a Los Angeles-perfect name, “Ocean Therapy.”
Placed on a barge, it sucks in oily water, separates out the oil and spits back clean water.
“It’s like a big vacuum cleaner,” said Costner’s business partner, Louisiana trial lawyer John Houghtaling.
The “Field of Dreams” star told reporters he started paying a team of scientists millions to create the device after the 1989 Exxon Valdez spill in Alaska, while working on his epic 1995 flop “Waterworld.”
“I’m just really happy that the light of day has come to this,” Costner said.
“It’s prepared to go out and solve problems, not talk about them.”
Costner’s has 300 machines in various sizes, with the largest able to clean water at a rate of 200 gallons a minute, WDSU-TV reported.
A minimum of 210,000 gallons of oil per day is gushing into the sea from the well that exploded April 20. BP has tried several novel ways to stop the leak, but none have worked so far.
Meanwhile, the 50 or so tar balls that washed up this week in the Floriday Keys are not from the BP spill in the Gulf, the Coast Guard announced Wednesday, temporarily calming tourism jitters.
Oil from the spill is being drawn into the Gulf Stream, prompting fears that the slick could threaten the Sunshine State’s tourist industry.
But if the oil is coming to Florida, it hasn’t arrived yet.
“The results of those tests conclusively show that the tar balls collected from Florida Keys beaches do not match the type of oil from the Deepwater Horizon oil spill in the Gulf of Mexico,” the Coast Guard said in a statement.
“The source of the tar balls remains unknown at this time.”
Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/2010/05/19/2010-05-19_gulf_oil_spill_bp_oks_tests_of_kevin_costners_invention__device_to_clean_oil_fro.html#ixzz0oTRNg2J8
The stepfather of Celtics guard Marquis Daniels was arrested Tuesday night at Amway Arena during Boston’s Game 2 victory over the Orlando Magic, according to multiple media outlets.
Orlando police arrested Willie L. Buie, 55, and charged him with resisting arrest with violence. According to the Orlando Sentinel, Buie was tased during the incident.
Buie has a long criminal history, including an arrest for second-degree murder. He spent 11 years in prison.
The newspaper reported that police responded to a disturbance in seating behind the basket at 10:55 p.m. When police tried to remove Buie from his seat, he said, “I’m not going, [expletive] you,” according to the police report.
The Sentinel reported that it was uncertain why Buie was asked to leave. The disturbance continued at a nearby security office outside of the arena. According to the report, Buie continued to refuse to be handcuffed, which prompted an officer to use his taser, according to the newspaper:
. . . An officer pulled out his Taser, put it up against Buie’s back and shot electricity into him for five seconds, the report shows. After he was stunned, Buie put his hands behind his back and was handcuffed.
Daniels grew up in the Orlando area.
THE ASSOCIATED PRESS
Thursday, May 20th 2010, 8:44 AM
BLANTYRE, Malawi — A judge sentenced a couple to the maximum 14 years in prison with hard labor under Malawi’s anti-gay legislation, and crowds jeered the two men as they were driven from the court house to jail Thursday.
The harsh sentence for unnatural acts and gross indecency had been expected after the same judge convicted Tiwonge Chimbalanga and Steven Monjeza earlier this week under laws dating from the colonial era. The case has drawn international condemnation, and sparked a debate on human rights in this conservative southern African country.
Chimbalanga, a 20-year-old hotel janitor, and his unemployed partner were arrested Dec. 27, the day after they celebrated their engagement with a party at the hotel where Chimbalanga worked — an apparent first in Malawi.
“Maximum sentences are intended for use for worst cases,” Magistrate Nyakwawa Usiwa Usiwa said as he delivered his sentence. “We are sitting here to represent the Malawi society which I do not believe is ready at this point in time to see its sons getting married to other sons or conducting engagement ceremonies.”
The lawyer for the two, Mauya Msuku, said they would appeal.
Chimbalanga remained composed as armed police officers handcuffed him to Monjeza.
“I am not worried,” he told reporters as they were taken to a police vehicle.
Monjeza broke down upon hearing the ruling and was still sobbing as he was helped into the van.
Hundreds of onlookers inside and outside the court house showed little sympathy. There were shouts of “You got what you deserve!” and “Fourteen years is not enough, they should get 50!”
Michelle Kagari, deputy Africa director of Amnesty International called the sentence “an outrage.”
Her rights watchdog has adopted Chimbalanga and Monjeza as prisoners of conscience, and would “continue to campaign on this matter and to work tirelessly to see that they are released unconditionally as soon as possible,” Kagari told The Associated Press by telephone from her office in Kampala, Uganda.
Mark Heywood, director of the South Africa-based AIDS Law Project called the sentence “outrageous and a violation of human rights.” He said activists should hold protests around the world against Malawi.
Malawi’s government has been defiant in the face of international criticism over the couple’s prosecution.
Betsy Chirambo, an adviser to President Bingu wa Mutharika, expressed concern over calls by some activists for the West to withdraw aid to Malawi because of the case. Up to 40 percent of Malawi’s development budget comes from foreign donors.
“It is not our culture for a man to marry a man,” Chirambo said this week. “That is not even in our constitution. Some of these rights are not good for our culture.”
The government has been backed by religious leaders in the country who have equated homosexuality with Satanism.
But the debate also has emboldened some rights activists in the southern African country. The independent Centre for the Development of People was recently formed by Malawians to fight for the rights of homosexuals and other minorities.
Gift Trapence, executive director of the Centre for the Development of People, was at the court house Thursday and told reporters: “How can they get 14 years simply for loving one another? Even if they are jailed for 20 years you can’t change their sexuality.”
Gay people forced underground in Africa are unlikely to seek counseling and treatment for AIDS, activists say. In Malawi, nearly 1 million people — an estimated 12 percent of the population — are living with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS.
Homosexuality is illegal in at least 37 countries in Africa including Malawi. In Uganda, lawmakers are considering a bill under which homosexuals could be sentenced to life in prison and “repeat offenders” could be executed. Even in South Africa, the only African country that recognizes gay rights, gangs have raped lesbians.
G’morning everyone.
Hey Lovely!
Hi mamacita! How’ve you been? What’s new?
Nothing much. Life is good!
I wish we could trade lives for about 4 more days. May is my birth month and unfortunately it has been the most hectic, stressful month of my year so far.
I’m so on edge… Everybody expects me to always be Lil Miss Sunshine but when I’m stretched this thin, I can become quite a mean-@ss.
Anyway, how’s Kitty and the fam?
Morning everyone. It’s a lovely but cold Thursday in Durban. In the words of YLawdY, What it do?
OSB, I thought that Kevin Costner thingy was a joke. Seems it’s for real. Bravo to him.
Question for the ladies, brought about by “Women dating men who make less money”(http://www.eurweb.com/?p=24763).
- Would you do it? If not Why?
- Why is it an issue worthy of reportage in newsstands?
I have to say I’m not surprised so many black women are not getting married/can’t land men then. Why would you consider a man earning less than you not worthy of your love?
Hi Slenda.
Regarding your question — at my old gig, I made more than my man and it was fine… When I was laid off, I took a job making less money with considerably less stress and our salaries are pretty much even. Since we don’t live together it’s not a huge issue. He still believes in being ‘the man’ and taking care of whatever I need but I see to it that I never have to ask for anything.
I believe his mom makes more than his dad and it doesn’t appear to be an issue for them. Our focus just isn’t on money that much. Our basic needs and pretty much all of our ‘wants’ are taken care of so there’s not anything to argue about… My biggest issue with him is that I think he should be more aggressive about planning for his/our future.
Love, I know in the past you’d mentioned that you weren’t in a rush to get married. Do you think eventually thatyou and crip walker (I don’t know where that name comes from, but I hope he ain’t in a gang!) will get married?
LHM – probably… I’ll get my mind right eventually.
And the name Crip Walker comes from the fact that he’s so athletic and he’s always injuring something. I think Crip Walker came specifically from him snapping his achilles a year and a half ago and I kept calling him a cripple. I guess the man needs a new name now.
Word of the Day
May 20
bully pulpit
BULL-ee-PULL-pit
noun
Meaning
: a prominent public position (as a political office) that provides an opportunity for expounding one’s views; also : such an opportunity
Example Sentence
Mariah has used her position on the city council as a bully pulpit to denounce the corruption in the mayor’s office.
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Did you know?
“Bully pulpit” comes from the 26th U.S. President, Theodore Roosevelt, who observed that the White House was a bully pulpit. For Roosevelt, “bully” was an adjective meaning “excellent” or “first-rate” — not the noun “bully” (“a blustering browbeating person”) that’s so common today. Roosevelt understood the modern presidency’s power of persuasion and recognized that it gave the incumbent the opportunity to exhort, instruct, or inspire. He took full advantage of his bully pulpit, speaking out about the danger of monopolies, the nation’s growing role as a world power, and other issues important to him. Since the 1970s, “bully pulpit” has been used as a term for an office — especially a political office — that provides one with the opportunity to share one’s views.
slenda….I have been in both positions and it was not a problem. The reality is some professions pay more than others and if a woman limits her choices based on salary, then she could be missing out on her great love. Then again, maybe not, because crossing someone off based on salary differences displays a shallowness that may indicate she isn’t READY for a great love.
I think we’re going to see even more salary discrepancies because of the current recession. There are a lot of men (and women) taking jobs paying far less than they’re used to just to survive. I would hope their marriages survive the change in income.
Having said that ^, I would write off dude who has not progressed past working the drive thru window at Burger King. If he and I were 18, I probably wouldn’t, but since I’m $39.95 plus shipping and handling, drive thru dude would get a pass. Unless of course he was the former chairman of Goldman Sachs and had a temporary change in circumstances. Wait, he’d still get a pass because to work at Burger King shows a distinct lack of foresight and planning. Scratch that.
Cuzzin, we think TOO MUCH alike with the fast food reference…
You are a mess!
Slenda> Lovely and YLawdy have pretty much summed it up. I have dated a few men who made less than myself and it wasn’t a problem with one but it was with the other.
Good Morning Kings & Queens!!! How y’all durin? Okay, good…Ummm, can anyone in the free world (& those that are locked up) PLEASE tell me why 3 fights broke out at my lil’ cousin’s graduation last night???
How the ef you gon’ get your diploma then go straight to jail, WTH???? SMH 
12…..just str8 ignorance!
yeah, I can spooge a dude who smells like he’s been flipping burgers and squirting mustard all day. You need to be able to move out of your mother’s basement and support yourself.
Since we’re talking about deal breakers, my girls and I were having a round table and this was thrown out. If you met a dude or dudette that you really clicked with, had the same values, goals, liked the same things, etc, but he/she told you they had herpes, would that end the budding relationship?
This was actually the topic of yesterday’s Strawberry Letter, that would be a hard one. I mean, what to do when I get a hard one.
) Well, what if you reconnected with the long-lost love of your life and everything was going great and they told you that they were HIV-positive, but that it was being controlled by meds?
I read in Essence that 48% of Black women have herpes and most don’t know it.
*upping stock options in Valtrex*
Oh well, my other responses to Lovely are awaiting moderation. EUR!!!!! We are adults!!! Why can’t we say sh.oe.s? Trying again.
Lovely, nice to hear that. If I may ask, does it make a difference that when you were at your old gig and earning more than him, you were already together?
I have a suspicion that the problem is at a dating stage where women are not willing to consider men who earn less or don’t have stuff. I was of the opinion that that’s a high-school/college thing as I experienced it myself despite my ravishing good looks lol. Just seems odd that there could be so many people who should be old enough to know better who put such requirements at the forefront so much that dating someone who earns less can make headline news. I mean, if as a guy I can pursue women on both sides of the earnings scale, why can’t a woman do the same?
I knew you’d come around to the ‘our future’ way of thinking sooner or later. Brother has no urgency to think about the ‘our future’ part, is there? What’s to look forward to, other than little kids? On this I’m just putting myself in his sh.o.es and I could be wrong. I needed something like that to light a fire in my behind and want to bring my finest closer. Everything was a mission, as long as we lived apart.
Slenda– here’s my take on it.
I don’t mind AT ALL if a man is making less money than I am. I would never emasculate him and make him think he is less than because of his paycheck. On the other hand, if he is working at McDonalds, he’d better have the AMBITION to own a couple of franchises one day. Compensation isn’t my problem, complacency is… I hope that makes sense.
I have, however, dealt with men who had a problem with my success & worldy possessions and looked at it as a competition. Whiskey Tango Foxtrot moment. I look at it like this– let’s lift each other UP to that NEXT level. I’m not looking for a a man to ‘supplement’ my needs by paying for me to get my nails and hair done, etc–, I’m looking for a man who will strike a balance to ‘compliment’ my needs–i.e. be the man of the house, be a good father, help me spiritually, etc.
I’m still single, though…
LMAO
Speaking of little kids…..Someone has a 2nd wedding anniversary coming up soon. I’m just asking.
Good mernin all! Hope all are well.
On the issue of women dating men with less overall annual earnings, I can offer that I made more money then first husband and it was a big issue between us. Not so much from me, but from him.
Teach by example: In my stuation, first husband would say things to friends like, ‘well she may make good money, but there were dishes in the sink when I got home.’ Or things like ‘she may make more money and run an office, but I run my house.’
OK, so in turn, his public criticism would turn into private blow-ups between us. Not because I made more, but because he had no problem criticizing me publicly…evn though it wasn’t deserved.
LS-S, I got the bad rep for not wanting to be married to a man who made less than I, but in reality, I didn’t want to remain married to someone who simply thought so litle of me, and our family tht he would criticize me the way he did. He was insecure. My thinking was if I made $2 and he made 50 cents, together we had $2.50. The source didn’t matter.
Apparently, it did to him.
I dreamed I flew to Africa with my family and the babies. I had to fly back home because I forgot the baby bottles, then back to Africa. I was exhausted! LOL
Life partner #1 had a LOT more money than me and it wasn’t an issue because I still made my own.
Life partner #2 generally makes less than I do, because he is a social worker. He has worked for Child Protective Services for 23 years. It is his calling and he loves what he does, so the salary discrepancy has never been an issue except on occasion when I have wanted to do something that he felt was extravagant given his salary. We compromise as in I do what I want. He can join in or not. LOL
Maybe Life Partner #3 and I will make roughly the same. LMAO
Morning Fam. Birthday is in 4 days(on monday) please see FB status for requests…inbox me for address….*carlton dream arms back into my training session*
I’d date Boney T from the mailroom in ‘Boomerang’. Besides, he had ALL the good gossip!
By the time you woke up, YLawdY, had you met me? If not, wait for tonight. It’s gonna be one hell of a dream.
A friend of mine is dealing with this issue right now. She is 50, makes really good money. She just started dating a man who make probably half of what she makes. He does not own a home.
So anyway, from time to time I ask how things are going, and she says it is what it is, but you know can’t mke this last. Why? Because he doesn’t have the income. She said she is pass trying o scrape up money take a trip, and when she wants to go somewhere, she just wants to go. Have money will travel. He on the other hand is not at that level.
But, she said its so hard findng a good man, that she’ll just hang on for the company. She said he’ll never live in her house, and unless he grows financially to a level near or in excess of her annual income, she will never move the relationship beyod where it is at.
I wonder if she’s been this frank with this man and allowed him to decide if he wants to roll like that or if she’s a waste of his time.
Second wedding anniversary will be way better than the first. Just saying.
jazz…I think I could deal with herpes because you can always use a condom and it’s not life threatening. HIV is another matter. Even though it controlled by meds, there is the chance of spreading something to someone else that will KILL them.
I think my biggest issue would be the long term health issues associated with HIV. I don’t think I would willingly tie myself to someone that is terminal with ANY illness. I would’t desert my mate if he BECAME terminal (well if he contracted HIV AFTER we were together, it would be a different story) after we were already together, but I wouldn’t walk through that door voluntarily.
slenda I LOVE YOU. LMAO
Pene– your friend is destined to be single with those expectations.
My former boss made about +/-$300,000. Her husband didn’t work. Actually, with her salary he really didn’t need to. But, he was a hell of a father and was indeed the head of their household.
Penny…I think your friend is limiting herself. If he has a career that he is satisfied with and is able to take care of himself, what’s the problem?
As for him not owning a home, surprise, not everyone WANTS to. I know that if I were single again, I would be living in an apartment where someone else is responsible for fixing crap and cutting grass. Yeah, I said it. I find home ownership to be restrictive in the sense that I’m “tied” to one place. I love the IDEA of being able to just up and move if the feeling strikes me that I want a new environment.
Slenda – we met in college and we were both on the same playing field. Both of our families are really comfortable financially so we never really ‘wanted’ for anything… neither of us worked. After graduation, it just happened that my grandmother got me a good position at a good company. He didn’t want his family’s help so he basically started from the bottom up. I was totally fine with that (and I guess it helps that ‘the bottom’ didn’t equal “broke”). After a couple of years, he went to a different company, made and we were on equal ground but then I got a series of promotions that increased my salary alot… Money just wasn’t an issue… He joked about me making more and that he was going to stop spending all his money and let me spend mine. (that didn’t happen).
What happened was since I made more, I took on more responsibility. Then, at that new company, he shattered his elbow right after he started working there and he wasn’t able to get ‘disability’ pay and his insurance didn’t cover it all. Between me and his parents, we literally paid EVERYTHING for him for about 6 months.
I feel like I’m rambling… what it boils down to is that I don’t care how much he makes, I love him, he loves me and we’ll always work it out.
LawdHvMrcy, you’re good by me(even though you haven’t called me splenda in months. Has marriage been that bad to my sweetness?). I’ve seen your example of competing guy in person. Girl got house, girl got guy, girl bought car, buy bought car(even though he can barely afford it), girl changes car, guy changes car. Stupid if you ask me.
The man in the LawdHvMrcy house sure gotta have his priorities straight. I’m not mad at that. Biggest problem is some of us men are just losers who can’t see a good thing even if it slapped them in the forehead.
Thumbs up Lovely. The two of you were made for each other. If it sometimes doesn’t look like it to you, it does to me. Everytime you tell a story, I kind of see Gina and Martin. You’re good together.
Chat later, I’m going home. Now stick around while I drive for a change and talk about Greys, Lebron, The President’s swagger, JayZ’s Bushisms or something. Speaking of JayZ, is it me or he’s not wearing his age very well? Can you imagine, JayZ at 50 and Bey at 38/9? What a sight. Later.
I think my friend is limiting herself as well, and I don’t think she is serving her situation, or being honest with herself about the present course of this relationship.
I personally think she’s in it, but not opposed to the next best thing. Unfortuantely the next best thing by her standards in a Black man is a rare find. IMO, I think she’s in a catch-22.
Also, I think it is important to qualify the homeownership thing. I personally think that it is as much about the ability to own a home (i.e., credit, financial ability, etc.) more so than actually owning a home. Her present companion lacks the ability to own. He makes about $45-50k…she makes more than twice that.
Now, conversely, this is the same individual, who when I was single and dateless, told me my expectations were too high. (I just wanted some respect-LOL). But at that point in our lives, we were certainly at different levels –emotionally, financially, etc.
I personally believe she will be with this man for a long while, but she will have to get her mind right about his status. She dated one guy for a minute, who was 55 and retired. He definitely hit all the right notes, home, debt-free, really good income. But he has major health issues. (Ooh I had jokes on that one.) She said she couldn’t be nurse maid, especially for a long haul. She asked me what I thought. I told her to thine ownself be true…if it is not in you, then it is not in you. Better to admit it now than later. She ended it.
I wouldnt want to be dating right now for that very reason. I feel bad for folks trying to find that best person for hem, b/c its elusive. Especially in our community.
SALT LAKE CITY – Not McGuilty.
That was the verdict from a Utah judge Tuesday in the case of a teen cited with disorderly conduct after he and some friends went through a McDonald’s drive-thru, rapping an order into the speaker.
Spenser Dauwalder was cited with the infraction in October after he was part of a group that imitated a rap from a popular YouTube video that begins, “I need a double cheeseburger and hold the lettuce.”
Fourth District Judge Thomas Low delivered the verdict Tuesday in American Fork, about 30 miles (50 kilometres) south of Salt Lake City. Dauwalder had pleaded not guilty and pledged to fight the citation.
“We thought, you know, just teenagers out having fun,” Dauwalder told KSL Newsradio last year. “We didn’t think it would escalate to that.”
The 18-year-old has said employees at the fast-food restaurant told him and his friends they were holding up the line and needed to order or leave.
But Dauwalder said no one else was in line. He and his three 17-year-old friends left without buying anything.
A manager wrote down the car’s license plate number and called authorities. Officers later cited the teens in a high school parking lot outside a volleyball match.
Dauwalder told The Associated Press on Tuesday he wasn’t even the one rapping. He says he was just driving the car.
“I was pretty scared,” he said. “I didn’t really know what would happen in court. It was kind of intimidating. … I’m just glad the truth really came out.”
Kasey Wright, who represented the city, said that although Dauwalder wasn’t the one rapping, he was complicit in what was going on. But Wright said the judge ultimately found the activity did not rise to the level of disorderly conduct.
“We were disappointed in the ruling,” Wright said.
He added that the case was never about the rapping. He said it was about disruption of the business and alleged threatening behaviour toward a restaurant employee.
Another disorderly conduct infraction against Dauwalder is pending in an unrelated case. He has pleaded not guilty.
Playboy mogul Hugh Hefner has ended his relationship with his twin girlfriends – because he was fed up with them dating other men.
In January, the adult magazine publisher booted blonde sisters Karissa and Kristina Shannon out of his famed Playboy Mansion to devote more time to girlfriend Crystal Harris – but he allowed the pair to move into the nearby house for Playmates.
But the siblings, who have appeared on Hefner’s The Girls Next Door reality show, have now left the Playboy grounds altogether after upsetting Hefner by going out on dates.
Karissa tells PopEater.com, “After a couple of weeks, Hef was getting a little bit upset about the boyfriends, so he wanted us to move out.
“We were not allowed to have boys in the house. That was the absolute number one rule – no boys allowed. That was one of the main reasons we moved out. But living there and being seen out with other guys, (Hugh) was tripping.”
Very interesting and enlightening convo. I agree with the concensus. It’s more portant how he treats you than what he buys you.
Condums don’t protect you against herpes nor hpv.
Iron Man star Terrence Howard has let it slip he’s married.
The 41-year-old actor reportedly wed Michelle Ghent, 33, in a small Los Angeles ceremony in January.
The couple kept the news to themselves for months – but Howard went public with his marital status at the Cannes Film Festival in France earlier this week when he revealed he was at the event with “my wife”.
A source tells UsMagazine.com, “Terrence is so in love with her and she’s a great, down-to-earth girl who really understands and loves him for him.”
Speaking to CNN at the film festival, the Hustle & Flow star said, “To come here and be with my wife, it’s the best feeling in the world.”
Howard split from his first wife, Lori McCommas, in 2003 and remarried her in 2005.
Good day all, I know most don’t want the truth, just their wants & needs first. Do not be unequally yoked, means one puts God first,( not talking a church either) before all, kids. parents, who ever, remember those are blessings. And if God is not first, expect the worst, It’s either the word of God, or you choose the cares of the world, it can not be both as the churches do.
Hey People! Blessings and grace to all of you!
Slenda, I know you’re gone but thanks. We go through periods every few years but we know we’re 2 peas in a pod.
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Morning fam! Prayers up for me and my son please. This morning we went to visit what might possibly be his new school. Both of us LOVE IT!!! I don’t think tuition will kill us but now we’re running into transportation issues. I’m working on that now and praying for a favorable outcome. Pray that we’ll be still and let God do His work! I am soo excited!!!
That is what I love about Chicago, if you got connection or if you know the right pastor, classical or magnet schools are a phone call away and they are FREE. I am wishing you the best in your situation.
n the musical drama “Church Girl,” Robin Givens plays a character who helps seduce a young woman away from the stability of the church and into the morally compromised world of strip clubs.
At first, you might think the part is tailor-made for the 45-year-old tabloid princess, still best known for her infamous marriage to and divorce from boxer Mike Tyson.
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“Her story could have been my story,” says Robin Givens.
(AP)
‘CHURCH GIRL’
• Through Sunday
• Arie Crown Theater, 2301 S. Lake Shore
• $34.50-$58.50
• (312) 559-1212
• http://www.ticketmaster.com
Givens says her life these days has taken a quiet turn. When she’s home, she says, “I wake up, I take my kids to school, I go to mass and then I go to yoga. … I grew up with Catholicism, but I am open [to other religions].”
“Church Girl,” set in a Detroit church, is at the Arie Crown Theater through Sunday. Givens calls it “the story of a young woman who gets off the track and her journey to get back on track.”
Q. How does someone go from church girl to exotic dancer?
A. When we first meet her, she’s very much on track to become a nurse and have a wonderful, wholesome life. … But she also has her mom saying, “If you’re going to live in my house, you’re going to live by my rules!”
Q. How does your character fit in?
A. I help recruit her, yet you can see in my character that I was at one point sort of recruited myself. I’m there as an assistant, but I was very much that girl. Her story could have been my story.
Q. How does the show handle things like nudity?
A. There’s a fine line in the play in terms of what you actually see. Do you actually see them naked? No, but you get the idea where it’s all going. There’s one scene where [the club owner] is really putting the pressure on her to take someone into a VIP room, and she kind of doesn’t want to do it.
Q. What is your opinion of the strip club industry?
A. Stripping shouldn’t be an option. I think we’re living in a time in our society where people want things quickly, you know, and that sense of working and delaying your gratification is getting harder and harder for people.
I have two boys. I don’t have girls. I’m a mother. … Would I want a young woman to make that choice? No.
Q. Yet you also posed for Playboy. What about your past vs. the play’s message about objectifying women?
A. I did that when I was younger. … I would like to think I’m a free spirit, but it’s amazing how decisions you make in the past you certainly wouldn’t make now. But you can get chipped away at, where it can take away your soul.
Congrats, Letmein!! Everything will work out as it should.
Prayers going up for letemin and family. It will be done.
I’m so emotional right now! I want this soo bad for my baby!
Oh and in the beginning I made more than hubby (before he was hubby). I think it bothered him more than it bothered me. 18 years later I think gross wise I still make more than him but he brings home more than me. For me it’s no big deal. We get it done and that’s all that matters!
Letmein – Is his school on my side or your side?
The chick in the cube by me is REALLY offended that I don’t want to see her son’s kindergarten graduation video. I asked her why the heck would I care or want to share that moment with her?!
Lawd, make me stop being so evil…
Would that be the same as some woman coming to work showing off her vacation photos and then getting mad at IT because the files are too large to email out?
That’s EXACTLY the same!!!
Lovely, no it is not wrong. Cuz I sure didn’t want to see the video of my co-worker’s dog swimming in a pool. I didn’t even get to say no, she just pushed her I phone in my face and then asked me…”why are you so crabby”? Seriously?
Pammy – I’m so rude, I would have told her to get it out of my face if she didn’t want me to break it.
My side Lovely. Christ the King on 85th and Wornall. 14:1 student/teacher ratio. The only downfall, per my son, they don’t offer band.
All the best letmein.
Good day QUEEN! Come back.
Ohhh, I’ve heard of that school. I hope it all goes well. Bambinos deserve the best education we can give them.
Afternoon everyone! I’m still in depositions, and will be through tomorrow. Just popping in to show some love to my peeps.
Pene, I agree (and have lived with the consensus). I’ve told ya’ll that my ex is a physician and she did pretty well and a bit better than me, even though I do pretty well myself. Honestly, it didn’t bother me ’cause I’m for the “team.” If the team is making money, it’s all good and all ours.
So I can and will date on both sides of my income. I think manning up in this day and time requires us as men to deal with that reality. Salaries/income is a function of particular vocations. If you do what you love, the money ain’t an “issha” to me.
Lawd I really like you quote about “Compensation isn’t my problem, complacency is…” Nice!
Let,
Sounds like a good school for Jr. I’m sure you’ll work out the travel arrangements. Sometimes you have to do whatchu gotta do for the babies.
Letmein> It will be done. Prayers going up for your baby to attend that school. We are claiming it in Jesus name!
Good convo peoples! Okay, where do I start…Personally, I don’t think that the amount of money that a person makes defines who they are as a person. Some of the greatest men are garbage men, mailmen, teachers, etc. But they love what they do which makes a happy camper. And if he’s happy, then that can only enhance the relationship. There are a lot of independent single women are out here doing their thang for themselves and they’re looking for the “mr. right” but their not giving certain men a chance. Those men may not make as much as them and may have a ‘regular job’ and they should also be considered. When I met hubby, I was 17 & he was 21. He was fresh from Chi. He had only been in St. Louis for about a year. He didn’t have a car, but he had a bike and he lived around the corner from me. He had a job and he lived in a boarding house. So he had his own place. At 17, I refused to mess with a dude w/ kids cuz I hate drama. So, he met that qualification by not having any kids, plus I thought he had potential. We fell in love and 9 months after we started dating, I got knocked up w/ PD and the rest is history. Long story short, he has worked the entire time that we’ve been together and some of the jobs that he’s had made more than me, some didn’t…in the end, it never mattered as long as he was bringing SOMETHING to the table and he is a provider. He always makes sure that me & the kids are taken care of. We are a team, a good one at that. We’ve had money issues, shoot, we’re just now trying to get back on our feet since he’s found a job (actually 2, one FT & one PT) so we’re gonna be alright. Through it all, God has always brought us through. God is good:-)
Who the hell is giving a damn thumbs down to A12′s totally positive post? WTH?
Somebody with herpes, aka the thumbs down bandit!
Sister First Lady looked SO good last night!
>letmein, congratulations on your son’s new school! I can feel your excitement through the screen and I’m excited for you!
12 — this is somebody f’ing with you. the thumbs down here is so ridiculous…
I know, right?
Washington (CNN) — Immigration officials will not swoop in to deport a woman whose daughter asked first lady Michelle Obama about “taking people away” if they don’t have proper paperwork, a Department of Homeland Security spokesman said Thursday.
Immigration and Customs Enforcement investigations are based on “solid law enforcement work and not classroom Q and As,” said DHS spokesman Matt Chandler. Immigration and Customs Enforcement is a part of DHS.
The statement comes after a student concerned about her mother’s legal status asked the first lady about the president’s immigration policies Wednesday.
“My mom said, I think that she says that, Barack Obama is going to take away everybody that doesn’t have papers,” the young girl told Mrs. Obama as she visited a Washington-area school with Mexican first lady Margarita Zavala.
The unscripted moment was sandwiched between examples of Michelle Obama’s signature policy initiatives — a lesson on healthy eating and an exercise session — and forced the first lady to walk the fine line of immigration reform policy language.
I forgot to mention how I feel about dating someone knowing up front that they have a disease. Honestly, I don’t think I could do it…I would be thankful that the person told me upfront prior to me catching feelings & whatnot because that way I can make a decision with my head & not my heart.
I thought that was a difficult question for the First Lady. Could see she was treading very carefully.
The “thumbs-down bandit” has herpes…that is all.
Facebook’s CEO came up with a way of predicting who a given user would be dating one week in the future, according to a new book about the social network. And he did it for fun.
CEO Mark Zuckerberg found it entertaining to dive into user data and look for patterns, according to an excerpt from Fortune columnist David Kirkpatrick’s The Facebook Effect. Hey, everyone’s got hobbies, right? From the excerpt published on All Facebook:
As the service’s engineers built more and more tools that could uncover such insights, Zuckerberg sometimes amused himself by conducting experiments. For instance, he concluded that by examining friend relationships and communications patterns he could determine with about 33 percent accuracy who a user was going to be in a relationship with a week from now. To deduce this he studied who was looking which profiles, who your friends were friends with, and who was newly single, among other indicators.
hahahahaa!! 12!!! I’m cracking up because I just gave you a thumbs up on the post about you and your husband and I saw the thumbs down thing and I was like “d@mn… somebody is on the rag today”. You made me laugh out loud with “the thumbs down bandit has herpes”
My dream is slowly fading. I will NOT let my son catch THREE buses. **river of tears but still holding out hope**
What city are you from? We were blessed, kids got free busing for awhile for school. Dang.
Leonard, our city doesn’t necessarily have bad public transportation, he’d probably just be on a bus FOREVER trying to get to his destination. A lot of folks at my job catch the bus downtown because parking is so expensive and they all look sleepy by the time they get to work.
For every thumbs down he puts, I’ll be sure to put a thumbs up next to it.
One more reason why I don’t trust Facebook. So, the CEO just has a habit of checking out people’s profiles and doing experiments when he’s bored.
Thank you King Slenda:-) And that’s why we love you.
What yall doing?
Let,
Can you or hubby drive Jr. to school?
AKG!!!!
On the subject of dating someone with a disease. If we’re talking about a disease that I can’t catch, like Lupus, cancer, etc… then I “could” in theory get into such a relationship if I was in love. AIDS and HIV are my “line in the sand” though.
Speaking of which, I recall a “baad” girl that I met during college and we were feeling each other (she had some nice tats. Whoo weee… *wistful*). Anyhoo, we got to the point of talking where she wanted me to come over to her place (in the same complex as mine)… and she was talking game about doing this and that to the Kid. She revealed that she had AIDS related complex, which is basically HIV+ without many or any symptoms. The “D” deflated like a pierced balloon. I couldn’t go there then … or (probably) now. I ‘could’ imagine a scenario where I feel in love with someone with HIV/AIDS not knowing they had it (non-secksual) and might stay in the relationship with the caveat that it be non-secksual.
I need to write a blog. This is truly ironic, friend of mine told me a story very close to that. Actually I met the women involved. She confessed to him she has herpes and it shocked me that you can still find honest people who would divulge that sort of information. But he could not follow through he told me. Wow.
That’s what I meant, I should’ve clarified it. I meant that I couldn’t date someone knowing that they have an std, not just a ‘disease’. My bad!
Ex, one of my routes to/from work takes me past a building with a public health clinic in it, I see SMOKING HOT women entering and leaving sometimes. I guess they’re smoking hot in more than one way. It’s a reminder to tell my kids that just ’cause they’re cute don’t mean they ain’t got it!
Jazz,
I’m witcha bruh. “Looks” ain’t got a thing to do with it. AIDS/HIV doesn’t just infect ugly people.
Hi-5 to Slenda re: pictorial progress of Lawd’s weight loss. Yeah, Imma need detailed pics, something that will show the curves.
And unlike dem white boyz, I’m going to give you warning signals when you getting … ahem … “too” thin. The bruhs like a lil meat on dem bones. In the words of a well-known urban philosopher … You provide the meat, I’ll provide the bones… Wait… what day is it?
Slenda!!! How are you?
In your presence AKG, I’m superfine. I know you’re busy but make a habit of stopping by. The regulars have developed a bad habit of closing shop after lunch.
Hello MY KING!!!
Ark/LilMocc/HK – I’m waiting for Grey’s tonight. It’s dreary here and it’s perfect tv-watching weather!!!
A relationship that is non-sexual…NEXT
How are we meant to read credits if they scroll up the TV screen so fast?
Oooo, I brought pen’s comment back to life, YAY! So, if you get 3 thumb-downs it gets hidden, but if someone clicks on the thumbs-up, it comes back to life! Take THAT thumbs-down bandit!!! *karate kick*
Ark – exactly!!
I wanted to type an ODB line but I thought it was a bit much for the over 40 crowd on the board.
*no offense to the over 40 folks… I love each and every one of you*
Hey everybody! You know how you have a day where you say I ain’t gonna do too much today. Then you end up putting out all kinds of fires! That’s thee kind of day I’m having dang it.
Anybody here from Maine? I gotta go to Maine! Anybody here from New Mexico? Somebody? Anybody?
Slenda — I pause it every week for “The Big Bang Theory”… you can pause it and put it in slow-mo.
Afternoon, folks. Just left a baby shower at work. Came back to my desk and saw an evite reminder for a baby shower this weekend AND a new evite for a baby shower in a few weeks.
STOP THE MADNESS!
Hey SPLENDA… You are still sweet to me. The marriage and the love you show for your Queen only adds to the sugary rush… *muah*
Oh, I also refrained from eating the delicious-looking cupcakes at the baby shower, although I wanted to slap folks who asked for the 3rd and 4th time was I SURE I didn’t want a cupcake knowing that I am trying to loose weight.
Anyway, YAY ME! 
15 lbs and counting…
YAYYYYYYY LAWDHV!!!!
Yay cuzzin’!
Lovely, go ahead and post that ODB lyric! lol
I’m so ready for Grey’s tonight.
okaaaaayy… you know somebody is gonna get all sensitive but here goes:
“Ooh baby I like it raaaaw. Yeah baby I like it raaaaw.”
(however, the thought of ODB going raw is quite disgusting. He always looked like he had a just worked out and had that sweaty sheen and that funky gold toofus)
CTFU cuz I wanted to say the same lyric when I was talkin’ ’bout doing it in the raw the other day!!!
*shimmy shimmy ya, shimmy ya shimmy yeh* LOL
12, I’ve been singing it all afternoon since I read the post about the diseased folks.
(and thanks to you, I had m’man singing “We Miss Robert”)
Yay LawdHvMrcy! Women got it in spades. I don’t know how you manage this baby shower thing.
Oh congrats on the 15lbs achievement, you sure are an ol skool FFA’er. Be sure to mail progress pictures to Exmun and I. Everybody did. Each set of pics will be examined carefully, and we’ll sure tell you when you’ve lost enough.
LHM – you go girl!!!! I think I’ma just get on crack… it seems easier and I won’t have to sweat my hair out.
Imma need the momma of the highschool graduates who were arrested last night to STOP the thumbsdown madness. EPIC FAIL.
Splenda, both you AND Ex are a mess. I’m waiting until I hit my first major goal, then it’ll be tank tops and poon poon shorts ALL THE WAY!
Ex…getting him there isn’t the problem, I’m altering my work schedule for that. It’s the getting home that we can’t work on.
Sorry… posted this in the wrong place.
Hi-5 to Slenda re: pictorial progress of Lawd’s weight loss. Yeah, Imma need detailed pics, something that will show the curves.
And unlike dem white boyz, I’m going to give you warning signals when you getting … ahem … “too” thin. The bruhs like a lil meat on dem bones. In the words of a well-known urban philosopher … You provide the meat, I’ll provide the bone… Wait… what day is it?
ROFLMBAO!!!!
LMAO @ Love. Sure you’ll lose weight on crack and your perm will still be intact but all your fine-ness will be cancelled out by those missing teefus.
Ooh! There’s a program on my telly *Senator Obama goes to Africa*. First Lady is rocking a lovely cap. I’m in love with her for the next 15 mins. She looks like my kinda girl, not this formal big office stuff she’s always in.
LHM – seee, that’s why I’m glad I come to the f4a… ya’ll remind me of stuff I wouldn’t normally think of!!
Missing toofuses is NOT hot.
missing front teeth = less chance of painful brain. Crack is good.
LOL @ King! Youza MESS!!! But if you hold your mouth & lips right, you…oh nevamind, it ain’t friday yet!!!
have a good afternoon folks. I’m off to be a slave for the next 3 hours…
God willing and the creek don’t rise, I’ll be back tomorrow for a half day.
Ex– actually tomorrow is my Friday off. So, in essence, this IS ‘Friday’ for me.
Carry on…
Cheers Lovely. 11pm for me means it’s really time I closed shop. Cherio lovely ones.
>lovely, I’m working 1/2 day tomorrow too. Me & PD gotta get the feets did:-) *that was for you lawdhv*