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*Los Angeles — African American women sometimes feel they are under attack from a constant stream of negative information from the media. ABC News and “Nightline” both recently featured long segments dedicated to the problems black women face finding suitable mates.
And with many African American men struggling with low graduation rates and high incarceration, those problems don’t seem to be going away. Many black women have taken to dating outside their race and are looking at white, Latino and Asian men — and that is good thing according to dating expert JT “The Asian Playboy” Tran.
Tran is a Pick-Up Artist, a professional who teaches men the art of seduction, who runs a company called the ABCs of Attraction. Being based in the cultural melting pot of Los Angeles, Tran says that he has dated several African American women.
Tran says that African American women and Asian men have a lot in common, because they are often avoided by members of their own race. He urges both groups to open their dating horizons.
“There are a lot of beautiful black women out there and, as many Asian men at the ABCs of Attraction can attest to, black women love Asian men and vice versa,” Tran said.
However both groups face challenges in the dating arena. “Asian men and black women are the most de-sexualized group of people in the United States,” Tran said. “Asian men come from a background that values deference and politeness, these are not skills that make you a winner on the modern-day dating field. However Asian women are seen as exotic are often sought after by men of other races.”
Tran said that he has noticed that Asian female immigrants are more likely to marry, while Asian male immigrants have a hard time finding spouses. Tran created the Asian Playboy image to shatter the image of the nerdy and asexual Asian man. “I wanted to show that Asian men can be cool, confident and sexy,” Tran said.
Tran said that African American women are sometimes avoided by men of their own culture, because of the perception that they are aggressive. But, he has not found this to be true.
“This is simply not the case. There are many beautiful African American women who are intelligent and have very feminine qualities and there are dominant Asian men with social savvy and leadership skills,” Tran said. “A great example is the pairing of John Cho and Gabrielle Union from “Flash Forward.” This is an interracial couple consisting of two attractive people who are Asian and black.”
Tran teaches classes all over the world to men who want to learn how to be successful in the dating field. His classes cover wardrobe, how to approach women and even opening lines. One of the areas he touches on is how to approach women from different ethnic groups, including African American women.
He says that African American women are often surprised when they are approached by Asian men, who often “fly under the radar.” Tran advises Asian men to use direct, but classy opening lines when they are approaching African American women. He is not a fan of “hollering” at black women.
“Often times, Asian men are used to holding back their opinions and can take less action because they feel that their daily lives require it,” Tran said. “This can be seen in the office, with family, and other social situations that Asian men have been culturally taught to stay quiet. Black women are strong and they want a man who can hold his own. “
Tran even has his own Asian man-African American woman success story. After taking his class, one of his clients met a beautiful sister at a coffee shop in New York.
“Even with his heart pounding, palms sweating, and everyone staring at him, this 5″2, baby-faced Korean, walked up to an African American woman, smiled and said hello. A year and a half later they were engaged,” Tran said.
The Asian Playboy is available for interviews in the Los Angeles area and other markets. He is available for phone and Skype interviews in all U.S. and international markets, as well as byline articles and guest columnist opportunities. Click here for an official company press kit.
About the ABCs of Attraction
Founded by the Asian Playboy, the world’s greatest Asian Pick Up Artist, the ABCs of Attraction has helped thousands of men worldwide improve social skills and lead more fulfilling and rewarding lives.
The company offers programs, multimedia resources and events based on its trademark holistic, pick-up methodology. The program includes boot camps and workshops specifically designed to help men woo, court, date and seduce women. The ABCs of Attraction was founded in 2005 and is based in Los Angeles, CA. Visit www.abcsofattraction.com for more information.
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Manny Otiko
Otiko Communications
mannyotiko@gmail.com
626-548-9437
One more of these “dumb and dumber” articles and I’m closing my profile on EUR.
This is not about growth and progress for the majority of demographic population served by EURWEB.
This is not No.#1, but at least the top 20 dumbest articles ever on EURWEB.
C’Mon Son!
I mistakenly voted thumbs up when I really wanted to vote THUMBS DOWN.
Just because this article may not be interest to you someone else may find relevance in the article.
I enjoyed reading someone else’s comments about interracial dating.
I love this article!
It is about time Asian Men and African American Women get together in unity. Black Women are toooo loyal to Black men who can care less about them, Black women should have taken a lesson from Black Men years ago “Date & Marry IR.”
Hi vford45!!
I am a Black woman who is married to a Asian man, and we have been together now for almost eight years. We have three children together. Believe it or not many Black women are open to dating men of other races. We just want a man to talk to us, and not us having to run after a man. Many of my Black girlfriends ask me if my husband has family or friends because they are very interested in dating an Asian man, and just men in general. I liked your post, and I agree Black women and Asian men should get together more we make beautiful babies!!
I agree ALSO.
I am a seventeen year old black women that likes people for who they are.. whether if they are black,white, or asian. Yes I always liked asian men for the longest i remember and still do, from watching lots of funimation anime when i was little to my life now interested in learning other cultures whatever ethnic background they are.
But I feel sometimes when women, black or blue whatever, get into a relationship, they try tooo hard to find their “dream” man. I can relate. I personally try to hard last year on finding a asian man around my age that is single and full of life and so much more…. but that is just way to beyond the expectations of relationships and love and what it really is inside. I learned the hard way when I “thought” I found the asian guy of my dreams i guess (All apart of highschool) and expected to much. Theirs a thin line between what you look for and what the future holds for you. I know now and what I can tell other people to think realistic and don’t keep risking arm & limb on what you dream a man should be, but be thankful and grateful in what your future holds for you… stop looking so hard, sometimes they can come to you. You never know , a dream can change or maybe your dream can come true.
<3 XoXo
I happen to work in the upper echelon of corporate america and I can tell you that men of all color really love black women. But they are scared to approach, I see nothing wrong with this article as I think it’s OK to date out your race and besides there are more women than men so it pays to broaden your horizons.
I totally agree vford45. I am a Black woman who has only just recently decided to completely open my mind to dating outside my race. It’s fantastic! lol So many intelligent, beautiful Black women are being convinced by their families, friends, and communities that they need to stick to their own race or support men who do not support them. Ladies, please stop worrying about loving someone simply because you share the skin complexion! We are worthy of love and marriage also. We seem to get such a bad rap as the women who are left alone to be both mother and father to our kids. Why? There are so many educated, single, gorgeous men of all races waiting out there…without the drama, without the jail time, without the babies(not saying that this is all Black men, but it is what it is, stats don’t lie). Don’t be scared of rejection ladies. Try smiling or making eye contact with any man of any other race that you consider attractive. You might be surprised when he smiles back. I love this article personally because, for the first time, I am currently dating a Korean man who’s much younger than I am(I’m 38, he’s 26, but most men assume that I’m 27-30). I gave him a compliment about a tattoo on his arm one day at work. He smiled and waved the next week he saw me. 10 minutes later, he was asking me to write down his phone number. He said he liked my smile and my eyes. He’s a very sweet guy, attractive, with pretty brown eyes. Maybe he’s the one, maybe not. Open your hearts and minds…maybe you’ll find true love. ;o)
I meant to say ” I totally agree with vford45 and Cappucino, sorry” ;o)
But I should say only if they respect you and none of the I am too good to be seen wit h you BS.
I married outside of my race, I married a white male. I never would thought that I would have married anything other than a brother but this how life worked out. I always thought I was going to marry a black man but when I started dating I was friendly to everyone so I dated all races. I dated Asian, Latino or whatever. As long as people are good to you and you share similar beliefs then go on a date and have fun.