*Christina Milian has opened up about some pressing topics surrounding the most recent events in her life, including her divorce (from producer The Dream). She said she learned quite a bit and is not looking back.

Her’s what she told Latina magazine:

“No matter what, you can’t change who you are. I know that now. I tried to be someone I wasn’t because I wanted my marriage to work. But ultimately, if it’s not working, it’s not working.”

The singer and now single mother explained that the whole cheating scandal was something her gut was telling her about, but thought she could handle it her way.

“I learned a lot about myself this year. I learned what I can handle. I learned how much I can take. I learned who I am and what I will accept for myself and my daughter.”

Speaking of her daughter, she says being a mother has brought out the sexy in her a bit more and she feels “blessed.”