*The Trouble with Guilt Addiction
I was once addicted to guilt. The only time in life that I felt right was when I felt wrong. I especially had difficulty enjoying myself because I didn’t feel that I deserved it. I was most definitely a person who needed to give myself permission to lighten up and not be so intense about basically everything in life.
I was intense about how my children behaved and looked. I was intense about how my house looked, how I looked and what people thought of us. I was intense about trying to change my husband into what I thought he should be. I really can’t think of anything I wasn’t intense about!
I remember going to a doctor once because I was exhausted all the time and generally felt horrible. He talked to me five minutes and said, “You are a very intense woman and your problem is stress!” I got offended, left his office and continued with my intense, stressful lifestyle.
I didn’t know how to trust God with daily life.
Your Permission to Lighten Up
I was out of balance in almost everything. I did not yet realize that celebration and enjoyment are necessary in our lives-we cannot be healthy spiritually, mentally, emotionally or physically without it!
We must remember that we are not built for guilt, and we should deal with it aggressively anytime we experience it.
The best gift you can give your family and the world is a healthy you-and you cannot be healthy without celebration being a regular part of your life.
You can change the entire atmosphere in your home by simply giving yourself permission to lighten up.
This article is an excerpt from Joyce’s best selling book, Eat the Cookie…Buy the Shoes.