Monica Cost


*You know what I mean. A person whose talents are lying dormant, someone who hasn’t realized their full potential, but who is bursting with possibilities.

We’ve all heard time and time again how we’re born with a unique gift, an offering to the world, a certain je ne sais quoi, if you will. Well, I am just crazy enough to believe that to be true. Now, that being said, unfortunately not everyone is awake in the knowledge of this gifting.

It was ever so present as a child. You dreamed it, played it and told people about it. The gift didn’t always come out literal. When you said you wanted to be a lawyer/doctor/astronaut (yes all at the same time), it may have meant that you wanted to use knowledge effectively and help people soar, like a teacher, consultant, physical therapy, brain surgeon, etc.

The point is that the sky was the limit, your antennae were up, you did what you liked to do and what you were good at. Then, along came the “reasonable” adults who “helped” you realize that what you were envisioning was impossible for the following reasons. . . .I’m sure you can hear them in your head now. You can’t make any money doing that, you can’t be all of those things at once, you’ll make more money doing something else, don’t you want to be a doctor, blah, blah, blah.

Thus the lulling began. We tried to stay awake for as long as we could to realize the gift, but eventually we fell asleep. We forgot that we were good problem solvers, leaders,  performers, analysts, tactical, writers, painters, servants, medics and more.

Some of us were awakened later by life’s circumstances and urging from people who recognized our gifts along the way, but unfortunately many are still asleep. There are also some who’ve never fallen asleep. You know them when you see them. They’re living it up in their passion and making a life that works according to their purpose and definition of success. It could include a lot of money or enough to live a quality life. It could include spending time with family or traveling the world. It’s as simple or complex as they like it. The key is that they’re in their gift and they are fulfilled.

How do you know if you’re still sleeping? Well, there are signs. Here are a few:

  • You have a job, not a thriving career
  • You find yourself spending more time doing something else other than what you do for a living
  • You dream a lot about “what you would do if. . .”
  • You feel like you don’t have a sense of purpose
  • You rarely feel accomplished
  • You find yourself spending time being envious or jealous of others
  • It seems like everyone else has it “going on”, but you
  • You talk about your life like it was something handed to you in this condition and now you’re just maintaining

How do you wake up?

  • Take a moment to reflect on what you would do if. . .
  • Write down all the things people access you for
  • Write down what you like to do
  • Write down all of the reasons why do aren’t doing what you like to do or why you’re not doing it effectively
  • Write down why you’re not knocking it out of the park in your chosen career
  • Write down how you envision your ideal life. I.e. Early morning start, routine, lots of people involved, problem solving regularly, community service, etc.
  • Now begin to write the dream “job description” for yourself. What is your job? Keep in mind that this is an all encompassing description. It includes your responsibilities, environment (office or home), amount of time spent doing it, etc.
  • Lastly, be honest about how willing you are to commit to waking up.

Waking up is hard. You may have been asleep for a long time. Your intuition, confidence, passion, problem solving, etc. muscles may have atrophied. You’ll have to stretch and in some cases rehab the muscles. Give yourself some time to get up. You may fall down along the way due to weak muscles. Keep going.

If you’re a “sleeper”, it’s time to wake up.

Good morning.

Monica Cost is communications strategist, brand manager and respected corporate and motivational speaker. She is the President and Founder of Evidently Assured, a communications and brand management firm.  Email her at:  [email protected]. Follow her via Twitter: @monicacost and