*Holly Robinson-Peete is one of those women in the industry many certainly admire. And in the midst of the rumors about Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith have swarmed and essentially were shut down, the actress, who has been married to former football player Rodney Peete for 17 years, offers a bit of marital advice.

“We’ve had our ups, our downs; we’ve had lots of things happen in our life we didn’t expect,” Holly told Essence. “We had these great twins and this great love story and then autism came and kicked us in the gut. Rodney retired from football, which was another transition. Some players retired to the golf course, but he retired right to the carpool lane – and proud of it.”

In regard to how they have made it work despite the various changes in their lives, the former 21 Jump Street star explained:

“I think that as a couple, our priorities are different than some of the other celebrities in town. Are our kids happy? Do we have a house to live in? How’s our charity going? Those are the things we look at to gage success.”