*Have you ever been in a relationship with someone where it was all about that person? What about being in a relationship with someone who is completely self-consumed? You know the ones where if they aren’t happy, then nobody’s happy! How about when you all would talk, they talked more about themselves than anything else. It became physically exhausting and draining to be around them, all the while knowing that even though relationships should be reciprocal, you basically were an after-thought. They “gave” you nothing.
On the other hand, many of us have been in the kind of relationships that are the total opposite; the kind where the other person is all about you. Their goal within the relationship is being “selfless” vs. selfish. They want to be a blessing to you as much as they can. When you’re around them you feel special, appreciated and valued.
The difference between the first and second relationship is that the first one is fueled by selfishness and the second is fueled by giving. The first relationship is long gone while the second is still standing. Why? It is simple. Relationships are about giving. Being in a relationship means that I’m willing to “give” of myself. Whether it’s a listening ear, an open heart, time or resources, being in a relationship is all about giving.
Here are a few scriptures that outline the blessing that God lays aside for the giver (Proverbs 22:9; Luke 6:38 and Matt 6:21). He places high value on giving! It is evident in the greatest act of giving being depicted well in the gospel of John. Check out chapter 3 verse 16. It reads, “For GOD so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son. That whosoever believes in Him, shall not perish, but have everlasting life.” In this verse God is demonstrating what selflessness is all about. He knew that giving His only Son (although painful), would literally save the world. He didn’t have to do it, but because of the greater good, He did.
Giving is not easy, especially when it hurts. You know what I mean? The kind of giving that gives at the expense of self always hurts, but God did it because He loved us and that’s the same reason why we should – because we love Him. Whether it’s being compelled to give to a person, a cause, or a ministry, we should give because we love. “God so loved… That He gave!”
What we should never forget is that giving is how God determines where your heart is. “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” (Matthew 6:21). This means that giving is a heart thing. God’s shown us where His heart is. My prayer for us all is that with every opportunity given, we’d return the favor.