*Now that Amber Rose has put Kanye West’s love of anal sex and the fingers behind it (literally) on blast, things now shift to what some folks feel is a certified no-no when having relations between the sheets.
While there are those who consider it a turn off, booty play may be on the fence with others in search of taking their bedroom activities to the next level. So for all of the freaks and non-freaks thinking or considering giving new meaning to the term “hit it from the back,” here are a few reasons why, believe it or not, butt play may be the right play for you and your object of love and or lust:
For the guys, the benefits of an anal episode are below, courtesy of Details:
Your girlfriend might like topping
There’s a good number of women who like topping guys. Broad City, yet again on being anal progressive, introduced TV to pegging (when a woman uses a strap-on with a man).
Crystal, a bisexual woman, told us that pegging for her is erotic.
“Pleasing my partner was a huge component,” Crystal said. “Also, learning to please myself at the same time. Most strap-ons have parts that go in the woman as well as on the clitoris.”
Indeed, many strap-ons now have parts that penetrate the female partner while she tops. This pleasures both the man and the woman as she knocks (and knocks knocks knocks) on his back door.
It can prevent cancer—really!
Well, ejaculating regularly can. According to a Harvard Medical study, “men who ejaculated 21 or more times a month enjoyed a 33% lower risk of prostate cancer compared with men who reported four to seven ejaculations a month throughout their lifetimes.”
Stimulating your prostate allows you to feel for any abnormalities while expediting the ejaculation process.
The prostrate-stimulated orgasm is amazing
Orgasming while having your prostate stimulated is the holy grail of orgasms. As Mark Simpson put it in the Telegraph, stimulating your prostate can give you “mind-blowing, leg-shaking, eye-rolling, neighbour-panicking pleasure.”
The prostate, affectionately known as the P-spot, is a hidden treasure cove of pleasures. Your nerve endings will give you sensations you wouldn’t be able to achieve otherwise.
For the ladies, here are some reasons for taking the back door, via Thought Catalogue.
Builds Trust
I know, double take right here. How does trust help sex? Let’s face it. Anal sex can hurt if you’re not lubed up and relaxed. Plus that thing is TIGHT. Which is why men LOVE it. But shoving it up there is going to hurt like hell and guarantee a kiss of death to any second chance of doing it there again. The first time I agreed to anal sex was with my ex-boyfriend. He lit up like a Christmas tree when I said yes and of course, I trusted him to not hurt me and thankfully, I loved it. One afternoon, I came, I kid you not..nine times from one anal session! I was batting for both types of sex now. Now the second guy I ever trusted back there, is huge. Deep-throating him was awesome and sex was mind blowing but back there?? That scared me a little and I was so ready to say no. But he was such a seducer. Deep intense eyes that promised excitement and pleasure, and sexy drawl that could melt any heart. Ever put your trust blindly into someone? For me that was him. I couldn’t say no to him and the result was explosive and a melding of two like souls. So yes to trust. Men love to be trusted. They love to hear us say yes to their desires and lay our pleasure in their hands. It feeds into their primal instinct to protect and naturally dominate. Women want to give, so handing over the “ I trust you with my a-card” is something rare and novel. Trust is a gift to both parties and creates a whole other level of intimacy, which is something we ladies always want.
You Feel Powerful
I said that it’s a gift. Not in the “here’s my tight little hole wrapped up in pretty bow for you” but in the “I’m saying yes, because I choose it for both of us”. It’s powerful because anal sex is sex in its rawest form. It’s purely physical without thought to pregnancy (see reason 1). It’s powerful for both men and women. Power for a man because he dominates and controls the situation and his shaft is feeling so good being so tightly stroked. Powerful for a woman because it means embracing her desires to willingness to allow her body to be a sex object for her man. And seriously…what man won’t come back for more of that? Hee-Hee, looks like woman have the upper hand here. (Carpe Diem Bitches) Bow down gentlemen.
Intense Orgasms
This is my favorite reason. Orgasms are god’s gift to women for being so loving. Sadly, 66% of women are FAKING IT. Statistically only 34% of women experience an actual orgasm. Why? Do you not enjoy sex? Ladies, the first step to a real orgasm is to actually enjoy sex and embrace the crazy dirty hot nasty side of it. Yes, you both get sweaty and slick, your hair that you spent hours on gets all tumbled and he’s kissed off most of your make up. Relax…he thinks that you’re pretty damn hot especially when you’re bent over offering that forbidden fruit. Luckily, anal sex, like doggy style, allows the shaft to hit a woman’s g-spot at different angle (side note: men, the g-spot is not hidden…she’s either uncomfortable to the with orgasm about to explode or you’re just not very good). Ever rub the palm of your hand? Feels pretty good and kind of ticklish. Now rub the back of your hand. The sensitivity is higher and it feels even more tingly! That back-of-hand caressing is kind of how the g-spot’s being stroked in anal sex. The tingling pressure builds and then it’s an earth shattering, soul-searing, ear-poppin’, sky-soaring orgasm. Not that you can’t get that same feeling from vaginal sex too, it’s just more tingly and intense. In Short…Fireworks.
For more reasons why anal fun in the sack is the way to go, click here (fellas) and here (ladies) and weigh in below on whether you would indulge in some booty play.
h/t: lovebscott
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