Monica Cost

*Around age twelve, when we used to drive by a certain business on the way to my Aunt Mal’s house, I used to look at the people coming and going and I began to envision a later me. I envisioned being dressed in pinstriped suits, getting in and out of cars (sometimes I was driving, other times, I was being driven), meeting lots of new people and shaking many hands. I wanted it so badly that I created a “business” at home, in my room. I sat behind a desk (a stand up tv tray), with my computer (my quizwiz game that I used as a computer), my client paperwork (carbon copy bank deposit slips that I acquired from the bank trips with my mom) and my one and only star client (my sister) who would cheerfully get off of the elevator (come out of the closet in my room) to do business.

I hadn’t thought much about the importance of envisioning your future self when I was younger, however, I certainly understand the power of it now. There have been many books written on the power of seeing what you want before you can truly have it. From public speaking to running a business, from the way you want to interact with your coworkers to what kind of marriage you will have, “they” suggest you get the picture in clear view. Why? So that you can manifest it in your soul/spirit/subconscious and ultimately play it out in real life. In Christianity, we say to speak those things that are not, as though they were. The book the Secret became all the rage on this very theory and it is what many business leaders preach. Simply put, you have to have it, before you can have it.

Having utilized this principle, initially without knowledge and later after reading about it, I am a STRONG believer in seeing then saying then having. That being said, sometimes it is not as easy to see when you don’t actually believe it; therefore, it’s more difficult to have. I believe this holds true regarding anything from marriage to wealth. Often times, our history and baggage makes the light of the vision very dim. We must uncover the belief that is buried in our soul. I’ve heard some people say, “I know there is more to my life than this. I’m bigger than where I am. I just know it.!” But then, there is no change in their circumstances. There some areas where we believe stronger than others.

If you grew up in a family that didn’t encourage your education, and maybe even told you that you were stupid, then envisioning success where learning is paramount, may be harder to envision. If you stuttered as a child and were teased, then envisioning a great career in public speaking may have seemed out of reach. As a final example, if you grew up poor or wanting, you may find it difficult to envision yourself with wealth. Even when you get money, you may spend it rapidly or unwisely.

When we watch notable personalities, as well as the people in our immediate circles struggle with money, sex, infidelity, drug abuse, obnoxious behavior and the like, we need only learn about their thinking to find any of the answers we’re curious to have. However, it is probably a better use of our time to reflect on our lives to see where we are not having success, and then to focus our energies on thinking differently.

This holiday season, amongst all of the buying and baking, shopping and shipping, I hope that you find the gift of “believing” so you can begin receiving the vision you have for your life.

Happy Holidays! Live true!

Monica Cost is Brand Strategist, respected corporate and motivational speaker, and Author the new life changing book “The Things I Used to do to Sneeze!: How to live an authentic life with awesome sensations”. She is the President and Founder of Evidently Assured, a brand strategy and expansion firm.Email her at:  [email protected] Follow her via Twitter: @monicacost and