myesha chaney

Myesha Chaney

*We are often blindsided by what happens in life, yet we have not created a path for our actions to be governed by.

We can only get out of this life what we put into it. When baking a cake we must use the proper ingredients and mix them the right way for the outcome to be something that is edible.  It is the same with life; we are often miserable but expect happiness to be around us. It is like baking the cake with no egg. It just cannot happen. There are so many things that suck up our motivation to enjoy life: the need to provide for a family without a job; the desire to be in love without the hope of any prospects; having health conditions that prevent one from exercising, but trying to overcome weight issues; and losing a child.  All are motivation stealers, as long as we live there with hardship and pain. But we should have an expectation of life to yield something far more than our current situation. Counteract pain with good. More positive thinking will drown out negative thinking. Two steps in the right direction are better than one step in the wrong direction.  Change your expectation of life. Rather than saying “this will never change” say “this season will pass.” Find as much good as you possibly can around you.

I remember feeling down about a situation in my life. I needed to make a crucial decision that would ultimately affect my future. During that time, I agreed to go on a mission trip. It was eye opening for me—just what the doctor ordered.  It was mind blowing to see people in far worst conditions expressing so much more happiness. They were overjoyed to interact with us and to experience our songs and music. Of course, I felt bad for feeling down when I had so much to be thankful for. I realized that happiness and joy are relative to the person and situation.

We can change our outlook and perspective in a second. Have you ever been crying about something then get a call and receive some good news and those tears mysteriously dry up? Whatever caused the tears was still present, but the joy of the good news overshadowed that emotion. We only have one life and one opportunity to experience it. Let’s not dwell on all the things that are not right, that cause pain, or that steal happiness. See the greatness in the simple things. Add to life more compassion, more inspiration, and more joy.

Let’s start to enjoy this journey we call life. Embrace the good, the bad, and the ugly. Let’s go beyond our limitations and reach for an outcome far greater than what we think is possible. The power of laughter and a smile is far greater than we understand. My aunt always told me “a smile does not cost you anything.” Start giving out smiles for free.


Myesha Chaney is a recording artist signed to Kingdomanity/Relevé Entertainment.  Her debut CD, Take Him to The World, will be in stores and online outlets on July 3, 2012.  She is a wife, mother and the first lady of Antioch Church of Long Beach, California where her husband, Wayne Chaney, is Senior Pastor.  She  and her husband co-host a weekly radio show, “Real Life with Pastor Wayne and Myesha Chaney,” on Los Angeles’ KJLH.   Please visit her at  You can email her at [email protected].