myesha chaney

Myesha Chaney

*Patience is an amazing quality and virtue that is sometimes overlooked as an attribute.

We live in a society that constantly desires more, quicker and faster than ever. We put emphasis on what requires less energy, time, and even effort. We are being indoctrinated to not have to wait for anything. Just think about it. With a phone you can send messages, bank, have church, and take college courses. One touch of a button can get you access to any field at any time of the day. Why wait? With the influx of online schools and increasingly busier schedules, we will soon be able to a Master’s Degree in three months. I remember in high school, being interested in someone and actually writing a letter or spending hours on the phone. Time was necessary to get to know a person and develop a healthy relationship. Now with dating websites, we can cut out all of that extra time spent patiently waiting for feelings to develop and we can get to “love” quicker.

I consider myself from the “old school” and uphold the belief that some things are greater later. The practice of patience proves to be one of the most valuable assets we can have.  It helps us to appreciate delayed gratification in an ever changing and evolving world. How many times have you purchased something then discovered it was on sale the very next day? Ever get married to someone that you didn’t know very well then wished you had waited? How many times have you jumped in the carpool lane alone to bypass the congested traffic only to get pulled over?

We do not always see the benefit of waiting or exercising patience until we move hastily and suffer for it. There are things in life that are just greater later. Some things are refined and enhanced in time. Now is not always the right time.

Challenge yourself to practice being patient. Wait to do something that you have a desire to do now.  Patience pays off. It develops character and causes you to value an object as worth waiting for. We will probably have a lot less drama in our lives. It helps us build a natural anticipation for what is to come and make better choices for today. It is possible to practice patience in areas that it comes easily while neglecting others that are more difficult. We can have patience in finding the right person but not in waiting for a promotion.  My husband enjoys buying gifts for me as soon as I mention a desire for something, which is a really good thing. I, on the other hand, would rather space my gifts out. I tell him that I really want a new necklace but only as a gift for my birthday 300 days away. We laugh, but, I want to look forward to getting the necklace later. Patience provides us with the peace that our future is secure, restores our faith, and builds a depth of character. If patience was stock, I would encourage you to buy as much as you can. Its value will never go down.

Myesha Chaney is a recording artist signed to Kingdomanity/Relevé Entertainment.  Her debut CD, Take Him to The World, is currently in stores and online outlets.  She is a wife, mother and the first lady of Antioch Church of Long Beach, California where her husband, Wayne Chaney, is Senior Pastor.  She  and her husband co-host a weekly radio show, “Real Life with Pastor Wayne and Myesha Chaney,” on Los Angeles’ KJLH.   Please visit her at  You can email her at [email protected].