*In life, you win some and you lose some. Today, Tameka Raymond lost.
Raymond, the ex-wife of singer Usher, just lost in the former couple’s bitter custody battle according to a report from TMZ … a judge has awarded Usher primary custody of their two sons.
It’s a shocking development — considering both sides were trying to strip each other of custody. Tameka felt the singer was an absentee father who was too absorbed in his career to be a good dad. She also accused him of using drugs in front of the kids.
Usher argued Tameka was inattentive and irresponsible.
The ruling marks the end of an emotional custody trial — involving wild accusations and name-calling … Usher even broke down at one point on the witness stand.
But today, we’re told a judge sided with the singer — awarding Usher primary custody of the ex-couple’s two sons, which means the children will be spending the majority of the time with their father.
Tameka still retains some custodial rights — but the extent to which Tameka will be able to see her kids is unclear.
This was a given…
well, ain’t that something . . . . .Now, let’s see her throw some food at him, when he’s got those kids!! . . . Big’mama gonna be pressed into service . . . . . as if we thought otherwise. Ush’ grab ‘hold of your big boy draws, put the jump-off, summah girls to rest. . . .You have work to do.
WOW! Talking about an anomaly.
A man was awarded custody of a couple’s kids? WOW. And the mother isn’t on drugs or something?
WOW WOW WOW!
Tameka seems a bit mental and unstable. So I think it was in the best interest that they go with their father BUT I cam expect there will be a lot of bitterness with each party and I hope that the boys well being cones first.
This is total bullshit, and it shows how biased our justice system is in favor of the moneyed elite.
How the fuck can they take that woman’s kids and she is not on drugs or not mentally fit to raise them. Y’all dumb mofos can go on believe that crap about her being psycho because some bitch with a psychology degree says so. When did black women lose the right to express their anger? If she was crazy, Usher wouldn’t have married her. But when you got money, you can pull that shit like D Wade did, and claim that the woman who you married and lived with long enough to have two kids is now too crazy to be a mother. This shit is sick, and every self-respecting black person should have the decency to stand up and say so.
If it happened to Tameka and Siohvaughn , it can happen to any black woman who doesn’t have the money and status to defend herself against this corrupt system. If you not a woman, I know you got a mother and a sister. It may be your sister next.
Yes, this is straight BS! What is he going to do…take the kids on tour with him??? Don’t be surprised if he voluntarily allows them to spend more time with the mother when they’re supposed to be in his custody once he gets tired. I’m sure he loves his sons but only snatched them to avoid paying child support but doesn’t really want full responsibility for them.
I don’t know if it is BS or not, but she doesn’t have custody of her other children by her first husband. This couldn’t have helped her custody battle with Usher. I’m pretty sure Usher’s lawyers used this information against her, I know if I was his lawyers, I would have. I just hope the children get to have a healthy relationship with both parents.
So Tameka didn’t have custody of her other children by her first husband. Says enough right there. More than likely this also worked in Usher’s favor. It is crystal clear why she fought hard in court on this case to keep the two boys that she had by Usher as a monthly paycheck, because she is solely all about the money and herself. Hopefully Usher will do the right thing on assuring his boys are raised right and live in a healthy environment.
I totally co-sign. This is truly a WTF moment.
I’m glad he has his boys. She always seemed a little off and she thought it was a given because of the tragic loss of her son
“She always seemed a little off.”
Hmmm… Interesting comment. I guess someone just proved my point.
There was no evidence presented to support any mental psychosis on the part of Tameka. Just someone’s subjective, and more likely biased opinion of her. Just like yours.
And because she “seemed a little off” , whatever that is supposed to mean, she should lose her kids?
And what’s going to stop you or any court appointed psychologist from applying that assessment to practically any woman they choose?
So they all should lose their children?
Do you know how many black women kids were taken away from them, or were even sterilized because some bigot choose to give his personal biased and obscure assessment of her mental competency relating to raising a child? Research the American eugenics and forced adoption program.
But we see that black women are still be denied by the same inhumane system even today, and our own people sits idly by to facilitate the process.
I too a glad he got his kids and I am a mother. I have watched as my son has tried to take care custody and control of my 11 yr old grandson and I tell you what his mother is a total psyco nut job OK. In some cases the mother does deserve to have the children but the court decides the custody on THE BEST INTREST OF THE CHILDREN. Women do not just get custody by virture of the fact that they gave birth everyone who birthed a child is NOT always fit to be a mother. As far as who will spend the most time with the children let’s not forget that he has a mother who probably loves her grandchildren too and I am sure she will be helping him out,And let’s not forget HE can afford to hire nannies security private school etc for HIS children, Also she did not pay one damn dime for her attpenwys her legal bill was over $250,000 guess who had to pay that rest assured it was not the father of her other 3 children. All we ever see is her sking for more and more from Usher it that fair? Hell No as far as the mother of DWades boys she lost the case because she continued to act like a nut case changing attorneys over 9 times and once again asking him to pick up the tab she did’t have any money. I just believe fair is fair and if these women can get over the fact that the relationship with the father is over and quite trying to use the kids as pwns maybe they would keep their children but they want to call all the shots and make all the rules regarless of what the court has already ordered. Why was she assulting people and acting a fool in front of her children? As far as I am concerned she played right into his handsshe played herself because she thought she could tell enough lies to sway the court Looks like that did not happen!!!
Dwade’s ol’ ex, and Usher’s ex are both similar like in behavior. That could be a cause why the courts did not award children to them. Sorry to say but these to women are real drama at the lowest form that comes across as too bitchy, ignorant, controlling, abusive, and less intelligent. Had both of these women acquired female attorneys like *Gloria Allred, Laura Weisman, and Nancy Grace the outcome could have easily been in their favor. Regardless of their reported character. Chris Bosh, D.Wade, Usher – each had better lawyers to get out from paying a lot of child support money.
When It comes to divorce and custody battle involving children, people are more accustom to the courts awarding the children to the mother in lieu of the father. Unless the mother has been found unfit, or unstable in any manner, regardless of her no history of drug usage. I have to admit that I am very surprised of the court awarding the children to Usher as an entertainer when the majority of time he is out on the road performing. When not performing he is often seen with various women. Obviously there has been some key evidence and information withheld from the public in regard to Tameka. It clearly showed that Tameka’s attorney were quite useless in this case. Nevertheless, Usher & his attorney were able to prove the “inattentive and irresponsible” against Tameka. Usher had a team of folks in his corner, one or more personnels with a degree & license to diagnose crazy people had told the court that Tameka have some psychological issues. So Usher’s attorney had enough to go by and closed their final argument / testimony plea from the psychologist who help convince or persuade the judge that Tameka now has a moderately severe mental disorder. It’s no secret that Tameka had a very nasty attitude, and appeared to be all for the money and fame etc. She had recently ask for an increase in child support payment from $8,000 to $11,000. Usher was determined to put an end to her meal ticket and usage of his credit card.
@Sweet Tee, wow I didn’t know she did not have custody of her other children. That says something right there.
So many Black women are ill prepared to raise kids. Just look at the state of young Black men. They are either lazy sex crazed users, drug dealers or criminals. This is the result of stupid women thinking they don’t need a man only his money. Hate on me if you will but you know this is the truth!
“This is the result of stupid women thinking they don’t need a man only his money.”
You seem to be confused. Your statement would imply that both parents are needed to raise a child properly. But yet you are implicating Tameka, not Usher, when he was the one who filed for divorce.
Let‘s face it. You are argument is that of a brainwashed negroe who seems to buy into the white man’s racist concept that black women are good for nothing but sex and having babies. The same racist ideas which many years ago labeled some black women as not fit for rearing children, thus a reason for sterilizing them.
May be the problem is that you read too much EUR. You seem to have this confused idea that most black mothers are sitting at home waiting for a phat child support check. That is so far from the truth. First of all, there are many black mothers who have a man at home to help rear and support the family. And as for the single mothers, many of them are successful professionals who are doing immensely well on their own, with or without child support. But you also have the single mothers who don’t have the educational skills to command a phat pay check and who can’t depend on the child support check because the father has issues maintaining a steady income
Given the challenges that they face in this racist society, which make the task of parenting so immensely difficult, there is no other race of women who should be given more credit as mothers than black women. Some end up being single mothers because the man is absent, falling prey to the racist criminal justice system. And if they are not in jail, they can’t find a job because they are branded for life as criminals. As a single mother, she has to deal with employment discrimination like every other black person, yet despite all this, there are millions of cases of successful young men who were the product of these single mothers.
And even as a crack fiend, mama
You always was a black queen, mama
I finally understand
for a woman it ain’t easy trying to raise a man
You always was committed
A poor single mother on welfare, tell me how ya did it
There’s no way I can pay you back
But the plan is to show you that I understand
You are appreciated
Tupac Dear Mama
I’m sorry Khanman, you are so far off the mark. You’ve simply pooled every black woman into the same category. I admit there are SOME black women that are using men as a paycheck. My heart breaks for the offspring of that type of union. But, there are far more black women who may have thought their union with that man was going to last but it didn’t. There are some lazy shiftless black young men out here that have come from two parent homes. What would be the reason for that? There many black women out here that are holding down a job while successfully raising children alone. There doing this not because they necessarily want to but because they had no choice but to. How do I know this?? I am that single mother that you’ve seemed to lump into one category. I am raising three sons by myself. Not one of my children have had run-ins with the law. Not one is lazy, shiftless, disrepectful to women, uneducated and unproductive. My oldest is completing his senior year in college. My middle son has entered his freshman year in college and my youngest is a senior in high school and is aspiring to go to college. I am not the only single parent that’s out here raising children to do well in life. Many black women all over the world are doing the same thing daily and will continue to do so. I did not choose to be a single parent but I could not sit and wait for the my children’s fathers (yes more than one) to man up and do the job they should be doing. Now after my children are all grown up their fathers are doing what should have been done years ago. Am I angry? Sometimes, but, now it is up to my children to decide if they want their fathers to be a part of their lives or not. Please, before you decide that all black women are the same do your homework. Open your eyes and your mind before you open your mouth to put black women down. Do you ever wonder why these women act the way they do? There’s much more to black women than what meets the eye. We really do deserve more than just the topical research that is done and put out as fact about us. It is so far from the real truth.
I agree with you Redbone and I’m sorry,but I’m glad Usher got those boys and not Tameka. The final test that she FAIILED was her still trying to proceed with ths custody battle after she lots her Kyle and before that gon says she begged Usher to send a prayer threw “Twitter”. WTF!. I don’t care what nobody says that is not the way you act out when you grieve over someone you birth into this world and I can see now why alot of people don’t like Tameka.