This week, I wanted to take a couple of seconds and divert from my usual topics of the latest and tech and talk about a topic that has come up lately in a few conversations over the last few weeks. Technology and its impact on relationships.
We’ve all seen this. A couple goes out to eat and instead of paying attention to each other and enjoying each other company, one person pulls out a cell phone and begins texting, or surfing the web, or posting on Facebook, while the other person silently waits until the other person concludes the other conversation. What’s wrong with this picture?
Now, I am not gonna say that I am not guilty of this. There have been times when I have been out and my attention has been more on the cell phone in my hand than on the person right in front of me. Why is that? What happened to our society where we feel that this action is even acceptable, it’s not.
There is a time and a place for everything and usually the text we are sending or the post we are posting can wait. We are still human and still have a need for physical human interaction. Its down right disrespectful, its like having two conversations with two people at the same time except the other person isn’t sitting right in front of you.
I’m not saying that I’m perfect.I know from personal experience how my love for technology can impact a relationship. My rationale was that “I loved technology and its my passion” I would forego dates, outings and personal interactions, to read the latest blog posts, update my social networking status, or just view pictures on Facebook. I really didn’t realize how much this became a problem until it was done to me.
I began to leave my phone at home and my girlfriend would begin to use hers extensively while we were out. This aggravated me so much. I decided right then and there that I would no longer do this. I learned my lesson quickly. There is no substitute for pure human interaction and no one should ever sit by while their significant other spends the night submerging themselves into their cell phone or computer.
Here are a few tips to ensure a peaceful balance between technology and relationships
1. Make time for the other person. If you are in a relationship, be in the relationship. If the cell phone rings. It’s ok to answer, especially if its important, but don’t hold an extensive conversation while the other person just sits there.
2. Put the phone away. Unless its an emergency, there is no need to always answer or always text during a couple’s quality time.
3. Be respectful. You wouldn’t hold two conversations with two people at the same time. That’s just rude.
This is my stance on the issue at hand. Please feel free to comment or follow me on Twitter. I would love to hear opposing views on the subject matter. Until next week, this is the Gadget Guy signing out.
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