*New York Times and USA Today Bestselling author Kimberla Lawson Roby hopes to bring about great awareness in “The Perfect Marriage,” which hits bookstores, other retailers and digital outlets January 8, 2013. In Part Two of our EURweb Exclusive, Kimberla discusses the element of deception that looms in her newest novel. In “The Perfect Marriage” The Shaws have been happily married for 15 years. They have a wonderful daughter, successful careers and a beautiful house, however Derrek and Denise have been deceiving themselves, their addiction is out of hand, and it’s taking a toll on their daughter, Mackenzie.
EURweb: How have you exposed the idea of “deception” to mean more than just infidelity with another man or woman in a relationship?
Kimberla Lawson Roby: Deception within the Shaw marriage occurs because of how well the two of them are able to hide their drug use from one another. Then, once their addiction rises to another level, they begin lying about one thing after another. They do whatever they have to do and say whatever they need to say in order to continue getting high. In a marriage, whenever damaging secrets are being kept and lots of lies are being told, this always means deception, even if those lies and secrets have nothing to do with infidelity.
EURweb: How are some couples able to deceive one another for long periods of time?
Kimberla Lawson Roby: I believe it is primarily because of lack of communication, something many married couples struggle with. It really pays to be in tune with your spouse, and it is also important to share everything, the good and the bad. Secondly, I think deception can last for a long time with couples because many spouses choose to live in denial, even though one of them might have at least some idea that something not so wonderful is going on with their husband or wife.
EURweb: In “The Perfect Marriage,” Mackenzie (Derrek & Denise Shaw’s daughter) takes matters in her own hands when her parents’ marriage spirals out of control. How is it that children also become masters of deception, and how crucial is it that these deceptions are acknowledged and resolved in order to save a marriage?
Kimberla Lawson Roby: Children tend to learn by example, so whenever a child has parents who lie and deceive each other, it is very easy for that child to become a master of deception also. Additionally, it is critical for deceptive behavior to be acknowledged and resolved, particularly between a husband and wife, because if not, this can single-handedly destroy a marriage.
Will the Shaw family survive? Will they live happily ever after and reclaim “The Perfect Marriage?” Find out and order your book now at www.kimberlalawsonroby.com.