Black Couple Cuddling*The roles between men and women often become blurred in today’s society.

We are not living in the 1950′s household or society where women’s voices were squelched or unheard and barefoot, pregnant and in the kitchen is the norm.

Today’s woman has many of the same opportunities as men and the dilemmas in the household are different as well. When finances, parole status, education inequality, and/or baby mamas and other sorts of dilemmas occur expectations and roles can be conflicted.

Essence magazine’s Jai Stone who calls herself the Emotional Nudist, begged the question of submission in her article “Emotional Nudity: Ladies, Is He Really A Submission-Worthy Man?” This is a question that many women have taken to their therapist, counselors and pastors around the country for some time; especially women who are committed to a christian life and what their pastor has instructed as their role in the home.

The interesting aspect of the dilemma really is beyond detecting the man that is submission worthy, as Stone suggests. The real question is whether the woman is interested in being submissive at all. The article is focused on the choice the woman has made in a spouse before she asks herself that question. Many women grapple with whether submission is warranted based on his actions, but it’s quite possible that a woman who is not programmed to submission based on her experiences will miss out on the “submission-worthy” man because she hasn’t dealt with what prevents her from submitting even when she might think he’s worthy.

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