There is something contemptible about fathering a child on a whim and then having the unmitigated gall to propose to his “main woman” somewhat simultaneous to the birth. It’s as if the marriage proposal was some form of well-conceived, public relations preemptive strike. Dwyane Wade knew when the baby would be born and the social media onslaught right along with it.”

dwyane wade & gabrielle union*I like Gabrielle Union. That is to say, I appreciate how she presents herself in the public sphere and her dedication to her craft.

As a member of the media, if you’ve ever interviewed her you know she is thoughtful and thought-provoking in her answers.

If you’ve ever had just a casual conversation with her, you know her to be one of the more humble and genuine people you’d ever like to meet in Hollywood.

There’s nothing negative I can say about her personally or professionally and she’s earned that benefit of the doubt.

Therein, lies the most unfortunate aspects of the most recent public revelations of Union’s “union” to Miami Heat guard Dwyane Wade. In the space of a week, Union went from answering questions about her pending nuptials to answering questions about her fiancé starting a new family…but not with her.

The easy way out would have been the gossip route. The easy editorial is waxing rhapsodic and poetic with words like “babymama,” “groupie” and “basketball wives.” Or, I could have strung together humorous, alliterative quips about how condoms cost considerably less than child support.

That would have been both easier and funnier in nature; but would have missed the moment and the opportunity to say something much more meaningful.

We live in a society which exalts people we don’t know personally (celebrities) and creates excuses for people who have multiple children with multiple women (professional athletes). We’ve relegated standards and decency to being reserved only for “regular folks.” We allowed this to happen and created this celebrity-culture monster. Dwyane Wade in a media sense is being allowed have his cake and marry the baker down the street too. Maybe it’s because he’s an NBA star with three championship rings. Maybe (more cynically) it’s because the stereotype of African-American athletes randomly fathering children out of wedlock has muted our sense of outrage.

Maybe one…maybe both.

There is something contemptible about fathering a child on a whim and then having the unmitigated gall to propose to his “main woman” somewhat simultaneous to the birth. It’s as if the marriage proposal was some form of well-conceived, public relations preemptive strike.  Wade knew when the baby would be born and the social media onslaught right along with it

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