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*(Via iDateDaily) – Having a fight with a loved one is not a happy time.  You often feel like your frustrations have fallen on deaf ears because your partner doesn’t understand you. You may even ask yourself why you are with this person, anyway!  So what happens next?  Fortunately, you can make things work again through a bit of effort, hard work, and lots of love and understanding.

Exercise – I remember reading a magazine a long time ago that explained how exercise releases our ‘happy hormones.’  And I know how much better I feel after a walk or swim.  Take your frustrations out on the treadmill and run an extra mile.  You should begin to feel a lot more willing to talk calmly to your partner afterward.

Remember – Happy memories are good for the soul.  Remember all the good times you two have had.  Bringing up happier times may calm you down and help you to feel more generous toward him when you talk about the issues that caused the argument in the first place.

Write – Write yourself a letter about how you feel and everything your partner has done wrong in your eyes.  Let all your emotions out.  Then rewrite it.  But rewrite it constructively.  I will generally begin my letters with looking at my partner’s point of view.  I tell him that I understand how hurt he must be feeling when I appear to ignore him at times — if that was his major issue and it was warranted. I apologize and then tell him what I will do to make it up to him.  This way he is feeling calmer and more ready to listen to the way I feel when he has upset me.

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