*K. Michelle will give it to you straight no matter the subject.
And the “Love and Hip Hop” star did not disappoint when expressing her uncut thoughts to NecoleBitchie.com on everything from killing her beef with Tamar Braxton to whether she’s thinks she’s misunderstood to the real reason she will never have sex with Chad Ochocinco.
Highlights from the interview are below:
On if she thinks she is misunderstood
I really do. But I think I’m to blame for a lot of it as well because some stuff I don’t have to say. I’ve always been this little person screaming to be heard and just say certain things and for people to tell me to ‘be quiet’ only makes me want to talk more. I’m like that.
A lot of things people don’t speak about in the industry, they just be quiet about them. I’m not the only one going through certain issues in the industry or having issues with other people within the industry, I’m just the one who’s going to speak on mine and say what it is. They’ll just beef behind closed doors.
And not even beef because the only person to me I really feel like there was really a beef with and I didn’t understand it, was Tamar. But the other situations to me were things that happened to me just being real and saying what it was.
On wanting to end her beef with Tamar Braxton
The root of that situation is I just remember loving her [and] liking her on TV- this was before [I was on] Love & Hip Hop and I went to her page one day and she was following me. And I was like ‘Oh OK, I love her.’ You know just somebody I could rock with.
And when I was going through the whole situation on “Love & Hip Hop” with the Toya thing and all of that type thing, she hopped in it like everyone else did. She hopped in it and basically tweeted I was lying. And I said, ‘I like Toni better anyway.’ That’s just me. And it continued. But from now on, it’s so funny how I’m the ‘bully,’ but if you, Necole, look at every fight, I never started it with her. I finished it. That I did.
I don’t want to fight with her. I bought her album. I even reached out. She, for some reason, wants to fight with me. I don’t want to fight with her, honestly. I really just want us to sing. We come from reality. It’s already hard enough for us as it is. We did it- we both did great things this year to come from reality.
I had my deal before. I was singing before [reality TV]. She was doing her thing before [reality TV.] You know but, we overcame a lot of things this year. So I feel I don’t mind. We can have a sing-off. Like, that’s fun. Let’s get on stage and have a good time.
…But every incident, everything that I’m in, or if I’m having a problem, she tweets and bothers me. And I have talked to my new management and just said, ‘Call Vince and say stop.’ Let’s just stop! And I’m saying it here: I don’t hate you. I just really want you to leave me alone. Because I’m not ever gonna be a punk and let you continue to tweet and poke and shade [me] and (mimics Tamar) ‘Ahh shade.’ I’m not that. I’m from the streets. I don’t really do all that.
So can we just sing? It’s a new year. New album’s coming out. Let’s just sing. And I’m saying it here with you. Everybody- I don’t want to do this no more.
On her current relationship with her son’s father (who married her sorority sister)
Yeah [he married] my sorority sister! I pledged Delta Sigma Theta. I graduated from Florida A&M, which some people don’t know, and I broke up with him because I wanted to be a singer, I wanted to be a star, I wanted to my hair blowing in the wind like Beyoncé. I was determined to be a star and I didn’t want to have a family. I wanted my child but I didn’t want to be with him. So, really to hurt me he started to date my sorority sister that I brought in and pledged and that was very embarrassing for me and it was very hurtful. But you’ll get to see- I haven’t seen this man five to six years, and you’ll get to see us –for the very first time we saw each other on my new reality show. I was making sure my show wasn’t scripted. And it was the very first time we saw each other since …
I’ve seen him since my son was born but it’s been a long span. But we haven’t fought. Like, we haven’t fought or been going in. Actually, I say the past year and a half to two years, he’s been very supportive. When people have gone in on me and said things about me, he’s been the one to defend a lot of things, you know, even from people at school he said, ‘You don’t even know her. Yeah she can be a lot but you don’t know her.’ So me and him are great.
On how she finds time to date
It’s so funny how dating is. Because it’ll be people that will reach out because I really don’t go anywhere. It’s people’s agents that reach out, people’s publicists, all of that. That will happen. I’ll be at an event and bump into somebody and yeah-
Tony Gaskins is great at [matchmaking] too. [laughs] He tried with me. He’ll send me full profiles. You know, Tony will send you a picture, what they do for a living, what do you think this is. He’s on my show too, just even talking to me about dating. And he was finally real with me like, ‘I really think it’s you!’ But he was honest. He was like, ‘You have been so hurt, you just say ‘f*ck it!’ real quick.’
I hate when I see tweets and stuff like, ‘She can’t keep a man,’ no I leave the man. I leave them because I’m just at a point now if it ain’t working, it ain’t working. I ain’t gon’ to stick with someone just because I don’t want to be lonely, Necole. My mother always told me, ‘Date. Date ‘em.’ [So] when I say, ‘Love ‘em all,’ I ain’t say, ‘F*ck’ em all.’ Date ‘em!
On Ochocinco (Chad Johnson)
If I can’t write a song about you, I’m not gonna date you. That means you’re not inspiring me and it’s not gonna work. ‘Damn,’ for me was a record [about] Ocho trying to date me and it was a lot of ‘no’s,’ and I don’t listen to people but you do have to pay attention somewhat. I was like, ‘Damn, I’m feeling some type of way. Like, I want to try to get to know you and love you but not today.’ And that’s what ‘Damn’ was about. Like, ‘You’re cool but now is not the time for it,’ and that’s real.
His penis is so big Necole, I would not let him have sex with me. Because I did not want him to stretch my walls out because I need them. I need them. I looked at this penis and I said you know what, uh uh. I’m not- that thing is unreal. I can’t. I can’t take that.
He’s a cool, nice guy, he still is funny. But between that, I was not screwing him with that penis. And then on top of that, I just feel like he has his own healing and stuff to do. And I was going through my healing of situations and things like that. And it was right after Evelyn [Lozada]. So it wasn’t time for that. And she blocked me on Twitter. I love Evelyn. I’m like, ‘I ain’t got nothing to do with this Evelyn, I really like you.’ So you can unblock me Evelyn, I really do like you!
To see K. Michelle’s interview with Necole Bitchie, check out the videos below:
(Part 1: K. Michelle on being misunderstood, wanting to end beef with Tamar, Her son’s father & August Alsina)
(Part 2: K Michelle talks dating, J.R. Smith, Chad Ochocinco and her ex Lance Stephenson)