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*Niecy Nash’s knack for playing colorful and honest no-nonsense characters like “Reno 911”’s officer Raineesha Williams and the overworked, put-upon geriatric nurse Didi Ortley on HBO’s “Getting On” has served her well.

So it comes as no surprise that she displays a fun, smart and sassy attitude in real life when it comes to all the things she’s experienced and wrote about in her sex-and-relationship book, “It’s Hard to Fight Naked.”

In an interview with Playboy.com, Nash opens up about a variety of topics, including the benefits of oral sex in a relationship, her first encounter with Playboy magazine and having second thoughts about her husband after their first meeting.

Highlights from the interview are below:

Switching gears a bit to talk about your relationship book, what’s a good way to approach women you want to date vs. a woman you just want to hook up with?

I feel like, in a perfect world, honesty would be the new monogamy so when you are meeting someone you kind of just put out there what you’re looking for. There is always somebody who wants to do it the way you want to do it, “I don’t want to settle down, I’m just looking to have fun.” Oh okay, show that to five girls at least one of them is going to be like, “Okay, let me give you my number.” As opposed to acting like you want something else just for them to entertain you and then you’re truth being revealed later.

You also recommend oral sex regularly for your partner.

What I say in the book is, “A BJ a day keeps the divorce attorney away” and I say that because I feel like men are profoundly simplistic, which is the reason I wanted to call my book what I used as the title of chapter three, which is, “Stomach Full, Penis Empty: A Woman’s Guide to a Happy Marriage.” Keeping him fed and drained, you have no problem. We are really more complicated than they are and I think that women are more generous with oral sex because we nurture by nature. We want to be pleasing by nature, that’s in our DNA, so I think that a lot of the behavior we’re looking for sexually, you might have to educate your partner. Sometimes, men just assume they’re going to get it and you need to be like, “Give me mine. Ladies first.”

What’s so interesting is that [women are] more willing to have conversations about “Do you want to get married? Where do you see this relationship going? Do you want to have children?” than we are to ask, “What kind of sex do you like? What are you into there?” You know what I mean? And that’s a conversation that a lot of people dive into but if you’re going to be with someone for the rest of your life and they’re failing to meet your sexual needs is like doing a slow dance with death. We need to make sure we can meet right there in the middle. The best thing that could have ever happened to me, and I was so fearful when I did it, was I got my tubes tied and had a hysterectomy. It gives me and my husband a different liberty — we can do what we do anytime, anywhere, at a moment’s notice. So that’s a sidebar into my situation, but I can get the party started.

What was your first encounter with Playboy magazine?

When I was a kid, we moved back home to St. Louis and my uncle used to keep his Playboys behind the bar in the basement. And they always made the kids go play in the basement. “Y’all go downstairs and play.” The first time I ever remember seeing a Playboy was in my uncle’s basement. My first thought was, “All these ladies are naked!” And then my second thought was, “Wait, how come I don’t look like that?” When I was doing Reno 911 I wanted to do Playboy as Raineesha so bad. I still have my Raineesha booty in a temperature-controlled locker. I just thought it would have been funny because we did an episode of Reno where everybody thought I was being interviewed for some major magazine as like this pillar of the community but when you open it up it’s me in a thong pushing my booty back, like “Hey!”

Heaven forbid, you’re on death row — what’s your last meal?

My last meal would be fried shrimp. Actually a whole plate of Mexican food with all the accouterments. Taquitos, guacamole, the rice, the beans, the margaritas — I don’t know if they let you have margaritas on death row but I would beg for one, and then fried shrimp with coleslaw on the side of that as a last hurrah.

What’s your favorite mistake?

When I first met my husband, I said that I didn’t like him because I thought he was too serious. My friend introduced me and I was like, “I don’t like this guy. He’s so serious.” And you know me, I like to have fun and I said, “I don’t like him, I pass.” And then my friend looked over my shoulder and saw him talking to another woman — and he was laughing and holding court, he was the life of the party — and she said, “Who is that bitch talking to your new husband?” And I turned around, “Girl, you’re right! That is my husband, I’ve got to get over there and get my man back.” So my husband always says that it was competition that brought us together and I’m like, “No, it was not competition, it was the fact that I said I only saw one side of you and made the mistake of judging you just for that one side.” And now I kid you not, and I know every comedian in the world, nobody makes me laugh harder than my husband.

For more of Nash’s interview, click over to Playboy.com.