*At a time when entertainers and A-list actresses are trying to retrieve their nude photos from the internet, Kim Kardashian has allowed her full frontal nude and booty shots to be posted for all to see. Does she realize that means baby Nori one day will be looking at her momma’s naked ass all over the internet too. Or is it that Kim K just doesn’t care?
Most parents have done things they don’t want their children to know about. But they don’t have pictorial evidence of their bad behavior. That makes it easier to speak with parental authority when their children ask them why they shouldn’t engage in the same. But if there’s video of your mother starring in a homemade porn movie with a man who’s not your father, a music video of your mother simulating sex on a motorcycle and pictures of your mother’s naked body on every social media site as proof of how she actively tried to break the internet, it will be hard to picture her in an authoritative capacity when it counts most.
What sound objection will Kim and Kanye West give to their daughter that’s going to keep her off the stripper pole or keep her from experimenting with drugs or prostitution or from being America’s next top porn star? Ask actor Lawrence Fishburne what he’s going through right now. Obviously they haven’t thought that far ahead. I did, and I don’t even have children.
I’m not sure when it happened for me, if my mother instilled it in me or if I came to the realization myself; but at some point early in my cognitive development I decided – regardless of how much attention I get because of my physical assets – my breasts and my behind are not my best attributes and I never will treat them as if they are. In the words of Tavis Smiley: You might know some of me, but that’s not the sum of me.
I guess Kris Jenner is too busy with her new man that’s young enough to be her oldest son to be dispensing motherly advice. Or maybe her mom is the person who told Kim a fat ass is the best she has to offer to the world.
Regardless of how it happened, Kim K’s self-worth and body image are one in the same. The happy couple wedding photos, the family pictures and those candid shots of her with baby Nori on her hip are plentiful. But the image of Kim Kardashian, the wife and mother, isn’t her thing. Kim K, the sexy vixen: That’s her sweet spot! That’s her brand. As long as her breasts and booty hold up, as long as her Instagram likes are plentiful and Twitter followers and Facebook friends keep growing her relevance is validated.
Let’s tell Kim K what her mother obviously failed to convey: Women are worth more than the sum of their parts. And let’s require more from her than 140 characters and a booty shot. Parents are supposed to act in the best interest of their children. So we’ll be helping ourselves in the process. When looking at Kim K’s pictures our boys will learn the wrong way to value a woman. And our girls will learn that self-exploitation is the norm. Since children are going to look at the pictures anyway, parents might as well look at them with their children and have a meaningful conversation about them. This is our collective chance to keep our daughters and little Nori off the pole. Kim and Kanye can thank us later.
Steffanie is a freelance journalist living in the Dallas, Texas metroplex. Email her at [email protected] to send comments, questions or speaking inquiries.