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Greetings! My loved ones know me as Cory Alexander Haywood. You may call me anything you want. Just don't call me "soft spoken." Indeed, my love affair with the English language began during my childhood. Back then, nouns, adjectives, synonyms and transitive verbs were of greater interest to me than any game of kickball (however, basketball will always be my first love.) Over the years, I've dabbled in a variety of writing genres (even those that bore me.) In my opinion, no topic is too great or complex for a seasoned and patient writer. I aspire to eventually reach that plateau, and am well on my way. Stylistically, creative writing best suits my fancy. However, in the summer of 2006, I wrote my first newspiece (it's been a match made in heaven ever since.) The majority of my published work, which spans more than 6 years, relates to politics, social and community awareness, as well as health and wellness. I also occasionally, and some might say nonsensically, explore the ins and outs of love, dating and relationships. I have no expertise,specialty or preference in regard to genre. Instead, I keep an open mind and spirit, thus my outlook remains pure. Simply put, I'm no one trick pony. To contact me, please email [email protected]
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Red, White, and Bruised: Decades of Mistreatment Spark Anti-Patriotic Outrage Among Black Americans

Patriotism doesn't exist within the Black community (some say).

People of color have a 400-year-history of second-class treatment to justify their general resistance to patriotism, nationalism and every other “ism” that implies love and appreciation for a nation forever mired in racial turmoil.

*“What, to the American slave, is your 4th of July? I answer; a day that reveals to him, more than all other days in the year, the gross injustice and cruelty to which he is the constant victim. To him, your celebration is a sham; your boasted liberty, an unholy license; your national greatness, swelling vanity; your sounds of rejoicing are empty and heartless; your denunciation of tyrants brass fronted impudence; your shout of liberty and equality, hollow mockery.” —Frederick Douglass (1852)

In a few days, the masses will commemorate America’s day of independence by firing up their grills and launching off fireworks into the night air. For at least 24 hours, the spirit of patriotism will neutralize the animus brewing between Whites and Blacks due to a slew of racially motivated incidents that have occurred this year. Ironically, people of African descent cheerfully partake in the festivities associated with July 4 despite America’s extensive and well-documented history of racial discrimination. The most recent chapter of this narrative resulted in the death of nine African American parishioners at the hands of a psychotic, Confederate flag-waving White supremacist in Charleston, S.C. Couple this massacre with the ever-looming threat of police brutality and excessive force toward minorities, and it creates a simmering stew of heightened tension. As a result, the various channels of social media have become flooded with alarming images of the American flag being mutilated by enraged, embittered Black radicals. These cage-rattlers seem to have a poignant message for Uncle Sam: “Take patriotism and shove it where the sun don’t shine.”

“F*** America. This country ain’t done s*** for me, my family, or for Black people, in general,” says Wynton Johnson, 31, a 6’5 security guard whose dream of playing professional football evaporated after he was wrongfully convicted of grand larceny and sentenced to five years in a maximum security prison. “I have a better chance of being shot by the police than getting a job from some White racist who can’t even stand to look at my face during an interview. F*** the flag and f*** the crackers who made it. To them, I’m going to always be a n**** first and an American second.” He continued, “The people in my neighborhood can’t find a job, and it’s not because we ain’t looking. When we walk into a building to look for work, the White people can’t stop staring. Why should I be patriotic when my kids can’t depend on their daddy to provide them with the finer things in life—the s*** Black people can only dream about, or steal.”

Johnson, a father of three, currently resides in Compton, Calif. His apartment complex sits in the heart of a gang-infested, drug-addled neighborhood where gunshots echo in the wind and ghetto birds (helicopters) can often be spotted hovering over a crime scene. Johnson says his living environment is “like a warzone” and that he dreads playing host to his children during their weekly visits.

“It ain’t safe for my kids where I live—too many drive-bys,” he explained. “They stay with their grandma. It’s only temporary until I find some work and a better place to live. I do security, but that hardly pays my rent. I ain’t looking for no handouts. But I could use some help.” He added, “It’s funny, all I gotta do is drive a few miles north and I’ll eventually end up in Beverly Hills where all the rich White folk are. That’s how it is all over the country. Blacks scratching and scraping to survive while White people watch from a distance counting all the money. I don’t have time to be patriotic. I’m just another n trying to survive.”

If there was ever a time for Blacks to question their allegiance to the country’s flag, it might be now:

• The incarceration rate for African Americans is about 3,074 per 100,000 residents, which is more than six times the national average. Black men in their 20s and early 30s without a high school diploma are particularly vulnerable. According to reports, with an incarceration rate of 40 percent, they are more likely to end up behind bars than in the workforce.

• In February, the unemployment rate for African Americans was 10.4 percent, while the comparable rates for Whites, Hispanics and Asians were 4.7 percent, 6.6 percent and 4.0 percent, respectively, according to data released by the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics. The national unemployment rate was 5.5 percent last month. Last year, 23.7 percent of those who are Black and unemployed had attended some college, 15.4 percent had bachelor’s degrees and 4.5 percent had advanced degrees.

• A 2014 study by the Young Invincibles, a nonpartisan education and economic opportunity advocacy group, found an African American college graduate has the same job prospects as a White high-school dropout or a White person with a prison record. The study attributed the gap to racial discrimination. According to the Center for Popular Democracy, a liberal think tank in New York, on an hourly basis during the past 15 years, Black workers’ wages have fallen by 44 cents, while Hispanic and White workers’ wages have risen by 48 cents and 45 cents, respectively. Black wealth has also shrunk, while Hispanic and White wealth has stabilized.

These statistics aren’t surprising to Johnson, who attributes his struggles and those of others like him to an ongoing aversion by Whites to accept Blacks as equals. “Let’s be real—the American flag and the Confederate flag are one in the same. They were both around during slavery. Do you think a slave really cared about which flag his slave master had? All he knew is that in the morning, he would have to go back to the cotton field. Both flags should be wrapped in chains, because they both represent the oppression of Black people. I’ll be patriotic when the government writes me a check for what my ancestors had to go through.”

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Webster’s Dictionary defines patriotism as devoted love, support, and defense of one’s country. If social media is any indication, there is a growing number of flag-stomping anti-patriots like Johnson. Making matters worse, the past few years have brought forth numerous, highly publicized, cases of police aggression toward minorities. And just recently, the tragedy in South Carolina has sparked a volatile mixture of outrage and paranoia that continues to dominate headlines and public discourse. The aftermath also includes a string of six Black churches that have reportedly been burned to the ground. These crimes might have gone unnoticed if not for the media’s heightened awareness of racially motivated altercations. In years past, many Black residents of the South experienced extreme prejudice without having the luxury of Twitter and Facebook to broadcast their suffering.

“I don’t mean to sound insensitive, but that church in South Carolina wasn’t the first to be targeted and it won’t be the last,” says Kimberly Sherrett, 49, a longtime resident of Inglewood, Calif. “I grew up in North Carolina, so I’m no stranger to the Confederate flag, the KKK, and the Aryan Brotherhood. When I was a little girl, I was told to accept racism as part of my everyday life. I’ve witnessed hate crime in its worst form. The only reason that it seems like more of an issue now is because the media is finally giving it the attention it deserves.”

The most current data from the FBI shows that Blacks, Jews, gay men and Hispanics were the groups most often the targets of hate crimes in 2012. In total, 7,164 people were victims of hate crimes last year, down about seven percent from 7,713 in 2011. According to the report, nearly half of all reported hate crimes were racially motivated, with 66 percent deemed anti-Black, and 22 percent anti-White. In 2011, the data revealed that 71 percent of racially motivated crimes were committed against Blacks and 16 percent against Whites.

Although she’s aware of the lingering inequalities that hamper Black progress and safety, Sherrett says it doesn’t compromise her appreciation for America. A massive replica of “Old Glory” hangs above the porch of her brightly colored Victorian home. Sherett comes from a family of military veterans, including her father who is a retired Lt. Col. of the U.S. Army. “I’m not ignorant of the fact that racism is alive and well in this country,” she explained. “But that doesn’t stop me from appreciating the comforts that America provides compared to other places. When I hear someone sing the “Star Spangled Banner” or “God Bless America,” it brings a tear to my eye. These songs help me to remember that it is a privilege to be part of a democratic and free nation.” She continued, “I travel abroad quite a bit. In many countries, people aren’t allowed to express themselves freely. American citizens have that right. Whenever I share my views with other people, I feel like I am exercising my right to free speech. To me, that’s a way I show my patriotism.”

Kimberly’s husband, Rennison Sherrett, 48, is originally from the Virgin Islands. He migrated to the states when he was 13-years-old. Although his roots extend beyond America’s borders, Sherrett says there is no place he’d rather be. “I’m not an American-born citizen, but I’m proud to be an American,” he declared. “It’s a lifestyle that I’m willing to fight for. In this country, you may not be able to become a billionaire, but there’s a possibility of rising beyond the status quo and achieving prosperity. In other nations, this possibility doesn’t exist.

“People who are born in America have no concept of how different their lives would be, if they were living in a third world country,” Rennison went on to explain. “The Black experience in America is like a trip to Disneyland compared to what I’ve witnessed in my homeland. Half the world is starving to death. We throw away food without batting an eye. If people don’t like it here, they can leave. But chances are, when they see what I’ve seen in other places, they’ll come crawling back to the land of milk and honey. I’m a proud patriot. I don’t have a reason to be anything else.”

Like the Sherett family, many African Americans who embrace patriotism have this in common: military service. Today, approximately one in five soldiers are Black, compared with nearly 27 percent in 1985 and 1995, according to Army figures. The share of Black soldiers is still larger than the 17 percent of the U.S. population who are African Americans of military enlistment age and education.

Representation in the Navy also has slipped slightly: 21 percent of its ranks were Black in 2005, compared with 17 percent today. The Air Force has remained fairly steady for nearly 30 years with about 17 percent of its enlisted personnel being African American. The smallest representation of Blacks is found in the Marine Corps, which has seen its rate of enlisted African Americans decline from more than 20 percent in 1985 to about one in 10 today, according to the Pentagon.

Surveys also indicate that the percentage of Black youth interested in serving had fallen sharply, from 26 percent in 1985 to 10 percent in 2012. Research indicates that a key factor is a decrease in support for military service among Black “influencers”—political leaders, teachers and parents—during the Iraq and Afghanistan wars.

“In America, patriotism ebbs and flows,” explained Ron Brewington, president of the Tuskeegee Airmen Association. “Every country has warts; sometimes these flaws cause people to become bitter and agitated. America will never be perfect, but it’s our job to push it in that direction.”

Based in Southern California,  Cory A. Haywood is a freelance writer and photographer. Contact him via: [email protected] and/or visit his websites: and

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(The Black Hat) Hey, Fellas: Before You Lick the Kitty Cat, Make Sure … Well, Read on (Or Else)


*I’m going in. Ladies, your vagina does not clean itself—that’s a myth. If your gynecologist says that p*ssy is self-cleaning, then I have a word of advice for you: get a new gynecologist. Let me break it down in a different way: Clean p*ssy + clean underwear = clean woman. Dirty p*ssy + dirty underwear = dirty heffa.  Fellas, before you go down on a woman, take a whiff of her vagina. If it’s not fresh, fully clean—run!

It’s time for me to keep it one-hundred about some of these hood rats who haphazardly wash their vaginas. Ladies, if you’re reading this, I want you to take your index finger and swipe it across the surface of your crotch. Now smell your finger—if the hair in your nostrils begins to melt away, run to the nearest drugstore, grab a Douche bag, go home and get to work on purifying that p—. Some of you don’t even need to use your finger—you can smell the funk coming from your vagina from the moment you unzip your jeans. Ladies, if any of you fit this category, that means your vagina has gone sour and you should have it sewn closed by a surgeon.

I don’t mean to be rude—naw, fuck that, yes I do. Ladies, unless you live in a cave and want bears sniffing in between your legs, I suggest you give your vagina a thorough cleansing at least every other day. This particularly applies to those of you who enjoy wearing yoga pants in warm weather—that cookie is baking all day under extreme moisture and heat. When you get home, grab a loofah (or if that’s too expensive, buy a sponge from the 99 cent store) and scrub your vagina like you’re trying to remove graffiti from a wall. When you’re finished, find a priest and have him sprinkle Holy Water on your lady parts. If these techniques don’t end up working, run to a hospital and get that p**y quarantined.

Ladies, when that special time of the month comes, pay careful attention to how you clean your vagina. Be more aggressive—treat your vagina like it’s a bathtub that hasn’t been scrubbed in weeks.  Get all up in there—wipe the walls and deck the halls. If you don’t, the odor coming from your vagina will build and become impossible to eliminate. Remember: a foul-smelling snatch is like kryptonite for a n*gga who cares about his penis. No self-respecting man would willingly dip his sausage into a cesspool. This is the sh*t they don’t teach you in school anymore. I’m trying to educate ya’ll.

A couple weeks ago I slipped the panties off of a 43-year-old woman and the smell was unbearable. (Some of ya’ll middle-aged women have what Mike Epps calls, “Wolf P*ssy.”) The odor crept up my nostrils and damaged my nervous system. I was paralyzed. My eyes began to water, my lungs started to cave in, my vision got blurry. I fell into a coma and collapsed. She thought I was engaging in some freaky foreplay. But with my head buried between her legs, she couldn’t see that my eyes were glazed over. I was unresponsive until she poured water on my face to wake me up.

While I was unconscious, the Lord came to me in a dream and told me to deliver a message to you women. He says that your body is a temple. Keep it clean or you’ll burn in hell. These are His words not mine. At first he told me to refer you hoes to Corinthians 6:19. But some of ya’ll can’t read. I blame the public school system.

So fellas, if you enjoy eating p*ssy, do yourself a favor: inspect the property before you start painting the walls with your tongue. If she hasn’t showered before coming to your crib for a nightcap, have a few towels and some soap handy so that she can get herself right in your bathroom. If she rides the bus, keep your tongue away from her vagina. Aint nothing worse than “bus p*ssy”—it’s the smelliest kind there is. Ladies, don’t assume that your man will eat you out willingly just because you sucked his d*ck after he came home from playing basketball. Besides, eating p*ssy is ten times nastier than sucking d*ck will ever be. This goes for both and women: wash ya ass before you engage your partner in oral sex. It’s the sanitary thing to do. More importantly, the bible says so.

How to Douche for Feminine Hygiene


1. Choose a douching product. Look through the available douching products at your local drugstore to choose an option that looks best for you. Avoid any solution that contains scents or dyes, as these are much more likely to cause an infection. If you prefer, you can create your own douching solution at home using vinegar and only buy a squeeze bottle at the store for application.


2. Prepare the douching solution. If you bought a kit at the store, follow the box directions to prepare the douching solution it came with. Typically you will need to use a quart of water to prepare it. If you are making your own at home, mix one part vinegar with three parts water, in an amount equal to at least two cups.


3. Fill the squeeze bottle or douche pouch with the solution. Follow the directions on the box to do this, or simply pour the solution into the squeeze bottle. If all the solution doesn’t fit, fill it as high as you are able and then add the rest later.


4. Get into the shower or bathtub. Douching isn’t the messiest thing in the world, but it could be under certain circumstances. To prevent spilling any of the solution, get into the shower or bathtub for the entire process. You’ll likely want to shower or bath afterwards anyways.


5. Rinse the vaginal cavity using the squeeze bottle. Insert the tip of the squeeze bottle or douche pouch into the vagina, and squeeze it to release the fluid. Continue rinsing the inside of the vagina until you have used all the available fluid.


6. Wash the outside of the vagina. Use a mild soap and warm water to wash the outside of the vagina as you would normally during a shower or bath. Your goal now is to wash off any of the douching solution left on the exterior of your vagina. The douching solution is relatively harmless on any other part of your body, so rinse it off if it came into contact with anything else but don’t worry about it too much

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The Black Hat is written by  Southern California based  Cory A. Haywood, a freelance writer and expert on Negro foolishness. Contact him via: [email protected] and/or visit his blogs: and


(The Black Hat) Gender Benders: America’s Ex-Men


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*Social media is still coming down from the high attached to Caitlyn Jenner’s recent debut on the cover of Vanity Fair Magazine. Formerly a white male, Jenner’s sudden and highly publicized coming-out-party has quickly elevated her to the role of ambassador for the LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender) community. This event, which some call a publicity stunt—for which she will be receiving the Arthur Ashe for Courage award during this year’s ESPY ceremony—has again shined a light on transgender Americans.

Jenner’s transparency has raised skepticism among her critics. They believe her picture perfect story is fool’s gold—that she is protected by the insulated walls of Hollywood and White privilege. This isn’t the case for many other transgender women, particularly those of color. For them, life is an unsteady road of hardship and discrimination.

“I don’t know of any transgender who has not been arrested, raped or made to suck a policeman’s d*ck,” asserts Dr. Wilbert Jordan, founder and director of the OASIS Clinic and AIDS Program at the King Drew Medical Center in Los Angeles. “All of my clients have told me that this stuff has happened to them. [Jenner] has never walked down the street and (had) eggs be thrown at him. His journey is not typical at all of transgenders. He’s making a mockery of the whole thing. To give him an award is an insult.”

Jordan added angrily, “What group of people are more isolated than transgenders? Ninety-nine percent of my clients have been abandoned by their families. I have two clients in jail now because they got into a fist fight with people who were laughing and mocking them on the bus. They go through hell. Bruce Jenner will never go through the bull— my clients have gone through.”

In a 2013 report by the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs, it was reported that 72 percent of victims of anti-LGBT homicide were transgender women, and 89 percent of victims were people of color.

In 2014, there were seven reported killings of transgender women of color in the United States: Kandy Hall in Maryland, Zoraida Reyes in California, Yaz’min Shancez in Florida, Tiffany Edwards in Ohio, Mia Henderson in Maryland, an unnamed woman in Michigan, and, just recently Alejandra Leos in Tennessee.

Many of the women’s causes of death have not been released, but from what is known, the victims were shot, burned, or stabbed to death, reports The Huffington Post.

“If White America has a cold, and Black America has the flu, then Black transgender people have pneumonia,” says Amorie Robinson, a clinical therapist based in Detroit, Mich.

“They’re at high risk for many psycho-social stressors. Discrimination against transgenders intersects with social class which can, and often does, affect access to employment and other important resources. It even effects their educational advancement.”

Robinson continued, “As we look at Ferguson and other traumas in our community, we fail to even realize that it is Black transwomen who are disproportionately being assaulted and verbally abused. They’re also victims of violence from their own family (not to mention) police. Our own communities have been attacking transgenders. These are our brothers and sisters. We cannot afford to sacrifice the strength of our unity because of these petty differences.”

Results from the National Transgender Discrimination Survey, published in, show that Black transgender women are disproportionately discriminated against and overrepresented in several categories, including poverty (34 percent earn less than $10,000 annually—twice the rate of transgender people of other races), housing (41 percent experience homelessness, and 38 percent have been refused housing because of bias), employment (26 percent unemployment rate, and 32 percent job loss due to bias), medical care (21 percent have been refused medical care due to bias), and HIV-positive status (20 percent). Half of respondents said they have had to resort to sex work and the distribution of illegal substances in order to survive.

Data collected by local health departments and scientists studying urban communities show high levels of HIV infection and racial/ethnic disparities. According to these reports, 73 percent of the transgender women who tested HIV-positive were unaware of their status. Higher percentages of newly identified HIV-positive test results were found among African American transgender women (56.3 percent) than among White (16.7 percent) or Latino (16.1 percent) transgender women; and self-reported HIV infection in studies made up predominantly of Black transgender women (30.8 percent) was higher than similar studies comprising mainly White transgender women (6.1 percent). Studies also indicate that Black transgender women are more likely to become infected with HIV.

“Many will end up prostituting to make money to buy testosterone blockers and estrogen pills [drugs that enhance femininity] because they don’t have the money to buy it in the first place,” explains Jordan.

“They don’t buy these drugs from a pharmacy. They aren’t prescribed by a doctor. They get them off the street and the Internet. It’s black market consumerism.”

He continued, “[transgender women] often purchase watered down drugs from Mexico. Some of the drugs require a needle injection. Many of my clients have shared needles with other people. That’s one of the ways they contract HIV. When we test transgenders, more than half test positive for the disease.”

Financial instability often prevents transgender men and women from achieving a full physical transition.

“That’s why so many Black transgender women still look like men,” explains Jordan. “It’s certainly not by choice. They can’t afford genital reassignment surgery or cosmetic surgery. Those procedures cost thousands of dollars. That’s out of range for most minorities.”

He added, “The ones who don’t pass for women are ostracized the most. I have a few (who look like men) who have tried to join women’s rights organizations. They were shunned and turned away. It was as if the cause was less important than the people fighting it.”

According to published reports, there are more African American male-to-female transgenders than female-to-male (27 percent vs. 10 percent). At first glance, this disparity might appear to reinforce the notion that outside forces are contributing to the emasculation of Black males. However, there’s a simpler, less daunting explanation for this phenomenon, says Robinson.

“It’s male privilege. Men generally make more money and can afford to pay for the expenses associated with gender reassignment. On the converse end, women usually are the caretakers of the home and the children. They don’t have the mobility or flexibility that men do. These factors make it harder for women to undergo transition.”

Much about the transgender community, such as its size, remains opaque, writes Claire Miller of The New York Times.

The main reason is that the United States Census Bureau and other keepers of official records do not ask about gender identity. Also, gender identity can be fluid and hard to define in a multiple-choice list. There are now more than 50 gender options on Facebook, for instance.

Some researchers are also concerned that the population is undercounted because of a reluctance among some transgender people to discuss it with survey takers or signify it on a government form. In a study by the National Center for Transgender Equality and the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, 71 percent of transgender people said they hid their gender or gender transition to try to avoid discrimination.

In 2013, the Census Bureau analyzed people who most likely were transgender, based on the fact that they had changed their name or sex with the Social Security Administration.

Since the Social Security Administration started in 1936, 135,367 people have changed their name to one of the opposite gender, and 30,006 also changed their sex accordingly. Of Americans who participated in the 2010 census, 89,667 had changed their names and 21,833 had also changed their sex.

According to the study, people are most likely to make the change in their mid-30s. But transgender women—male at birth but who identify as women—often begin transitioning later in life than transgender men.

“Gender identity is internal. Biological sex is external,” explains Robinson. “A person feels naturally that they are in the wrong body—that’s not a decision; it can’t be put into a specific category.”

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Does this woman appear to be a transgender?

Although LGBTs aren’t readily accepted by the general population, there are signs of increased tolerance on the horizon. In addition, traditional values and social norms are slowly being replaced by a greater sensitivity toward the civil rights of all minority groups. As a result, many transgender persons feel a deeper sense of security and self-confidence.

“You’d be surprised at how many men are attracted to people like me,” says Kiki Williams, who began charting a course for her transition when she was 18 years old.

“When I was in high school, the other boys didn’t ridicule me—they were too busy trying to get in my pants,” she laughed.

With a coy, self-satisfied grin, Williams proudly recalled her sexual exploits with past lovers. “Men approach me all the time. Some are married; others have a fetish for my type. I’ve been with a few who swore they would never come back. It wasn’t long before they were asking me for another blowjob. These guys know what I am and, they don’t care.”

Broad-shouldered, muscular, and measuring a formidable six-foot three inches tall, Williams isn’t as polished as other “passable” transgender women. She’s unmistakably male—her chiseled jaw-line and sharp features clash with her curly blond hair and acrylic fingernails. Also disrupting the illusion, Williams’ powerful legs and strapping torso wreak havoc on the delicate fabric of her clothes—a combination of pencil skirts, skin-tight dresses, yoga pants and high-heels.

Nevertheless, Williams views herself as a woman through and through. It’s a feeling she began to embrace during her youth. “I started wearing my mom’s heels when I was five,” she explained. “I would put on her makeup and steal the dresses from her closet. She didn’t like it. But she couldn’t stop me from doing what I wanted to do. No parent can.”

Despite her mother’s interference, Williams continued to veer away from the traditional behavior of an adolescent male. She was at odds with her natural gender; it became a burden over which she had no control nor could subdue.

Like Williams, others who grapple with gender dysphoria feel strongly that they are not the gender they physically appear to be.

For example, a person who has a penis and all other physical traits of a male might feel instead that he is actually a female. That person would have an intense desire to have a female body and to be accepted by others as a female. Or, someone with the physical characteristics of a female would feel her true identity is male. In more severe cases, a sex-change operation may be an option. This is surgery to change the person’s genitals. It also includes taking hormones. However, before this treatment is considered, the person will undergo in-depth psychological and psychiatric evaluation and counseling.

According to, feeling that your body does not reflect your true gender can cause severe distress, anxiety and depression. “Dysphoria” is a feeling of dissatisfaction, anxiety, and restlessness.

In children, additional symptoms may include:

• Consistently saying they are really a girl even though they have the physical traits of a boy (or vice versa)

• Strongly preferring friends of the sex with which they identify

• Rejecting the clothes, toys, and games typical for their gender

• Refusing to urinate in the way that is gender typical

• Wanting to get rid of their genitals and have the genitals of their true sex

• Having extreme distress about the body changes that happen during puberty

A consensus is forming among mental health professionals who acknowledge the legitimacy of gender dysphoria among children and teenagers.

“I’ve observed symptoms [of gender identity disorder] in kids as early as preschool age,” says Milton Diamond, Ph.D., director of The Pacific Center for Sex and Society (PCSS) at the University of Hawaii. “One mother told me that her autistic son took a knife and held it to his penis. She said he wanted to cut it off. At three years old, he couldn’t explain what he was feeling. But he found a way to express his gender preference to his mother. That’s a very big deal”

“In some prehistoric and early contact communities, children would be permitted to select which gender they belonged to—it’s documented in literature,” explains Sandra Faiman-Silva, professor emeritus of anthropology at Bridgewater State University.

“In Native American indigenous cultures, ‘third gender’ people were held in high regard as spiritual leaders. These practices have also been documented among African tribes, in Asia, India, and the Pacific islands.”

Faiman-Silva says that European settlers and their Judeo Christian belief system ultimately eradicated transgender worship in ancient civilizations.

“They were forced to conform to what was being imposed upon them,” she explained. “These practices disappeared by the late nineteenth and twentieth centuries. The Western world never adopted them.”

Due to religious prohibition and various biases, the world may never fully embrace the transgender community. Robinson says that mutual understanding is the key to bridging the gap.

“It’s not a lifestyle. It’s a life. If transpeople lived in a world where they didn’t have to hide, then we would see a lot more people coming out earlier. But the stigmas of being who they are place them at risk.”

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The Black Hat is written by  Southern California based  Cory A. Haywood, a freelance writer and poet. Contact him via: [email protected] and/or visit his blogs: and

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(The Black Hat) Fried Chicken and Fat Assess: A Negro Saga

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*I really can’t stand ya’ll nig*as sometimes. Does it hurt to be so damn ignorant and petty?

As usual, nig*as on Twitter put a giant foot in their mouth. I’m almost compelled to insist that social media be off-limits to African Americans. If that happened, the world would be less…stupid.

When did eating fried chicken become a Black thing?

Realty star Khloe Kardashian and her attention-loving family recently posted a group selfie of themselves enjoying some good ol’ Popeye’s fried chicken.

Critics, presumably black, have accused the youngest Kardashian sister of trying to appropriate black culture.

But wait a minute…I’m confused, is there an unwritten law that states eating fried chicken means pretending to be black? In addition, if a white celebrity went as far as to associate fried chicken with black culture, he would be called a racist and chided by throngs of angry black critics.

Can anyone say “double standard?”

Hey Negroes, you can’t straddle the fence when it comes to stereotypes. Now that the Kardashian’s have publicized their love for Popeye’s, all of a sudden nig*as want to stake a claim on fried chicken.

But if a member of that family Tweeted a joke about blacks loving chicken and watermelon, all hell would break loose on social media. Once again, can anyone say “double standard?”


Black people, why do you insist on embarrassing and degrading yourselves?

As I write this article, there are civil leaders scattered across the country attempting to debunk black stereotypes that have lasted for decades.

But lo and behold, the Kardashian’s photograph themselves eating chicken wings and it’s getting you nig*as upset? Not even God could explain such foolishness.

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Black people, are you intent on being the stereotypes that you claim to hate?

Two years ago, nig*as accused Miley Cyrus of trying to act black because she experimented with “twerking.”

That’s funny, I’d bet my soul that if Cyrus said to a reporter that black women are only good for shaking their assess in music videos and strip clubs, she would have to hire extra security for all the death threats that would come her way.

Last year, Australian-born rapper Iggy Azalea was called a “wigger” because she butchers the English language in her songs.

Let me guess, being black means using slang and intentionally abandoning proper English?

I bet that if Azalea wrote in a Tweet, “black people speak poor English,” you ni*gas would hunt her down like witch in Salem.

Oh and how can I forget? Justin Bieber has been accused of appropriating black culture because he’s covered in tattoos, sags his pants, and walks around like there’s a stick lodged in his ass.

But what if in an alternate universe Bieber looked and dressed like a white surfer?

What if he got drunk one night and said to a TMZ reporter, “black people sure do loving wearing sagging pants.”

If that happened, you ni*gas would be so riled up that Bieber would have to sleep with one eye open. Once again, can anyone say “double standard?”

This isn’t the first time critics have blasted the Kardashian clan for being overly acquainted with black culture.

According to public opinion, these ho’s have stolen every element of niggerdom and made a fortune from it.

Sisters, when you say that Kim Kardashian tries to “act black,” it makes you look foolish.

Think about it: She’s known for three things: having a huge ass, sleeping around with black athletes and entertainers, and posing half nude in tasteless magazines.

If these things are prerequisites for “being black,” then what does that say about African Americans? Aren’t we capable of more? Shouldn’t we hold ourselves to a higher moral standard? Judging from the looks of things, the answer is “hell no.”

If James Brown were alive today, he wouldn’t sing in his raspy voice “I’m black and I’m proud.” Instead he would whisper, “No no, these nig*as gotta go.”

Black people, get your act together. And for God’s sake: stop being so damn wishy-washy.

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Cory Haywood

The Black Hat is written by  Southern California based  Cory A. Haywood, a freelance writer and expert on Negro foolishness. Contact him via: [email protected] and/or visit his blogs: and

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Los Angeles Newspaper Our Weekly Publishes Cringeworthy Image of Infant Held at Gunpoint

Has Our Weekly gone too far with this disturbing image?

Image conceptualized by Our Weekly Staff Writer Cory Alexander Haywood

*The mounting conflict between law enforcement and the black community has precipitated a wellspring of media-generated propaganda.

Fanning the flames, last week, Our Weekly Newspaper (Los Angeles) published a disturbing image of an African American toddler held at gunpoint, outfitted in prison garb worn during the early 20 century.

In bold, striking red letters, the words “Target Practice” splash across the infants left shoulder. The gun pointed at the toddler’s cranium is seemingly held by the hand of an anonymous white male.

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The image is causing quite a stir on social media. Numerous critics have flooded Facebook and Twitter with less-than-flattering assessments of Our Weekly’s nightmarish masterpiece.

OW’s editor-in-chief Juliana Norwood recently issued a written statement in response to the backlash:

“In response to the flurry of comments that we received on the cover of last week’s edition; there was a very heavy mix of reviews where some praised it for its brazen honesty, while others condemned it for its offensiveness.

In reality, we intended the cover to offend. The “shock and awe” should really come from the very sick, sad, scary reality that the image is closer to the truth of what the relationship between law enforcement and communities of color is spiraling into, than many of us are willing to admit.

According to a recent study by the American Psychological Association, Black boys as young as 10 are not viewed in the same light of childhood innocence as their White peers, but are instead more likely to be mistaken as older, be perceived as guilty, and face police violence, if accused of a crime.

Our minds go to 12-year-old, unarmed, Tamir Rice who was gunned down by police in Ohio while playing in the park late last year.

According to a report from the Community Coalition published on regarding the school-to-prison pipeline: The U.S. has the highest incarceration rate in the world, and its prisons are overwhelmingly filled with Black and Latino men. More than 70 percent of in-school arrests are of Black and Latino youth and 40 percent of all U.S. school expulsions are of Black youth.

Our minds go to Dennis Rivera, whose 5-year-old son was handcuffed to a chair by armed school security in his New York kindergarten class after a tantrum.

This cover doesn’t criminalize our youth. Our justice system does this job well-enough all on its own. What it does, is force us to look in the face of what we hope isn’t the future for our young Black boys, and hopefully encourages us to stay diligent in the war that has been waged against them.

We appreciate the community’s response, and we also appreciate your anger. We all agree that it is warranted.”

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(The Black Hat) 10 Realities Black Mothers Should Expect For Their Children

What does the future hold for this little guy? According to statistics, his fate will probably be riddled with challenges.

What does the future hold for this little guy? According to statistics, his fate will probably be riddled with challenges. Hopefully his mother will do everything she can to ensure her son’s success. Odds are she won’t.

*Now that Mother’s Day is over, it’s time for a reality check.

Sisters, ask yourselves this question: Do you really deserve the pretty flowers and hallmark cards you were given? Are you even worthy of being called a mother?

This doesn’t apply to all black women, but many of you have no business raising children; it’s the equivalent of putting a warhead in the possession of a terrorist and then dumping him in the White House—only destruction and chaos will ensue.

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I get it: the daddy isn’t there to help you control those crazy motherfuckers (that’s another issue entirely.) Be that as it may, it’s your job to work around the circumstances and take care of your parental responsibilities (that’s why God put women on this Earth—to change diapers and . Yeah, I said it.)

Sisters, many of you don’t spend enough time with your kids. And how could you? Rather than being at home where you belong, you leave your children to their own devices while you and your girlfriends live it up at the club, twerking, smoking, drinking, and carrying on, hoping that a male suitor is watching and will agree to buy you jewelry in exchange for your used up vagina.

Some sisters use their children as a means for financial gain, either through child support from the father, or through government assistance (it’s despicable.)

Black women, it’s your job to raise children who will obey the law, not break it in half.

It’s your job to raise productive citizens, not layabouts who rely on government handouts for their survival.

It’s your job to prepare your children for the real world. It’s your job to teach them how to be financially responsible. It’s your job to instill them with the value of education. It’s your job to teach them right from wrong. It’s your job to provide discipline when your children get out of line. It’s your job to steer them down the path to success and prosperity. It’s your job to stand up and speak out against the youth rioting and looting in Baltimore (ya’ll brought them niggas into the world.)

Sisters, It’s your job to…oh, why do I even bother? Simply put, Black women, you are failing your children. GET YOUR ACT TOGETHER.  If you don’t, expect these consequences for your offspring:

1. Incarceration 

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One in every three Black males born today can expect to go to prison at some point in their life, compared with one in every six Latino males, and one in every 17 White males, if current incarceration trends continue. In 2012 there were more African-Americans in prison or “under the watch” of the justice system than were enslaved in the United States in 1850.

2. Prostitution 

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According to the research study by Dr. Donna Hugh, teen prostitution is highest in the African American community. In 2010, African American teenagers made up 56.6 percent of the entire arrests for commercial sex or prostitution.

In the same year, African American women made up almost 40 percent of the arrests for prostitution related offenses. In 2011,  46.3 percent of women incarcerated for prostitution between ages 16 and 24 were African American.

3. Drug Addiction

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According to the 2010 National Survey on Drug Use and Health, African Americans suffer from substance abuse more than any other ethnicity.Additionally, far more African Americans are imprisoned for drug crimes than any other ethnic group in the United States, boosting the stereotype that young, African-American men are the leading drug abusers in the United States.

4. Gang Affiliation

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Law enforcement agencies report a greater percentage of Hispanic/Latino and African-American/black gang members compared with other race/ethnicities.

The most recent figures provided by law enforcement are 46 percent Hispanic/Latino gang members, 35 percent African-American/black gang members, more than 11 percent white gang members, and 7 percent other race/ethnicity of gang members.

5. Chronic Unemployment

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The unemployment rate for blacks (11.4 percent) is more than twice that for whites (5.3 percent). In the 42-year period during which the Bureau of Labor Statistics has separated out unemployment data into different races, black unemployment has always been higher than white unemployment.

6. Early Pregnancy (Children By Multiple Fathers)

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According to Black Women’s, African American teenagers have higher pregnancy and out-of-wedlock birth rates than their White and Hispanic peers.

In 2013, a total of 409,840 infants were born to females aged 15–19 years, for a live birth rate of 39.1 per 1,000 females in this age group. Nearly two-thirds of births to females younger than age 18 and more than half of those among females aged 18–19 years are unintended.

7. Criminal Behavior

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According to the Federal Bureau of Investigation’s (FBI)  “Uniform Crime Reports,” in 2012, black youths, who make up 16 percent of the youth population, accounted for 52 percent of juvenile violent crime arrests, including 58 percent for homicide and 67 percent for robbery.

A 2012 study by the Department of Justice’s Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention revealed that in 2013 black youths committed six times more murders, three times more rapes, 10 times more robberies and three times more assaults than did their white counterparts

8. Morbid Obesity 

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According to Trust for America’s Health Report in July 2013, “F as in Fat: How Obesity Threatens America’s Future”, over 30 percent of African American residents living in over 41 states are obese or overweight. This is in comparison to the fact that there are only four states in which 30 percent or more whites are obese.

The Office of Minority Health has found that about 4 in 5 African American women are overweight or obese. However, adults are not the only ones affected by this epidemic, as data from the Centers for Disease Control from 2007 through 2012 found that 23.3 percent of African American boys, aged 6 – 11, and 24.5 percent African American girls, ages 6 – 11 were obese.

9. Academic Underachievement 

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Young African American men are falling behind their peers in the classroom. PBS reports only 54 percent of African Americans graduate from high school, compared to more than 75 percent of their Caucasian and Asian American peers. Black male students in grades K-12 were “nearly 2.5 times more likely to be suspended from school in 2000 as white students,” and their twelfth-grade reading scores are currently lower than any other racial and ethnic group.

Barriers in high school lead to a glass ceiling for higher education. According to the Congressional Black Caucus Foundation (CBCF), black males ages 18 and older make up just 5.5 percent of all college students. Of the young black males who do make it to college, only one in six will receive a college degree.

10. Aids

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Blacks/African Americans* have the most severe burden of HIV of all racial/ethnic groups in the United States. Compared with other races and ethnicities, African Americans account for a higher proportion of new HIV infections, those living with HIV, and those ever diagnosed with AIDS.

African Americans accounted for an estimated 44 percent of all new HIV infections among adults and adolescents (aged 13 years or older) in 2010, despite representing only 12 percent of the US population; considering the smaller size of the African American population in the United States, this represents a population rate that is 8 times that of whites overall.

11. Death

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Black Americans are four times more likely to be murdered than the national average. What’s more, four out of five black homicide victims are killed with guns. Nationwide, the black homicide victimization rate in 2013 was 17.51 per 100,000.

The homicide crisis in the black community is overwhelmingly a gun violence problem. Nationwide, when the weapon used could be identified, 82 percent of black homicide victims were shot and killed with guns. Among the victims killed with guns, 77 percent were killed with handguns.

Four hundred eighty-seven black homicide victims (8 percent) were less than 18 years old and 100 victims (2 percent) were 65 years of age or older. The average age was 30 years old.

cory haywood

Cory Haywood

The Black Hat is written by  Southern California based  Cory A. Haywood, a freelance writer and expert on Negro foolishness. Contact him via: [email protected] and/or visit his blogs: and