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Greetings! My loved ones know me as Cory Alexander Haywood. You may call me anything you want. Just don't call me "soft spoken." Indeed, my love affair with the English language began during my childhood. Back then, nouns, adjectives, synonyms and transitive verbs were of greater interest to me than any game of kickball (however, basketball will always be my first love.) Over the years, I've dabbled in a variety of writing genres (even those that bore me.) In my opinion, no topic is too great or complex for a seasoned and patient writer. I aspire to eventually reach that plateau, and am well on my way. Stylistically, creative writing best suits my fancy. However, in the summer of 2006, I wrote my first newspiece (it's been a match made in heaven ever since.) The majority of my published work, which spans more than 6 years, relates to politics, social and community awareness, as well as health and wellness. I also occasionally, and some might say nonsensically, explore the ins and outs of love, dating and relationships. I have no expertise,specialty or preference in regard to genre. Instead, I keep an open mind and spirit, thus my outlook remains pure. Simply put, I'm no one trick pony. To contact me, please email [email protected]
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Naturally 7 on New Album and Why Women Are Banned from the All-Male Group

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*One afternoon, on a packed subway train in Paris, several passengers—probably local residents—crowded around seven men singing their own rendition of Phil Collins’ “In the Air Tonight.”

Cameras flashed. Hands clapped to the melody. And someone with a YouTube account recorded and uploaded the whole thing. Currently, the video has more than five million views worldwide.

They (Roger and Warren ThomasRod EldridgeNapoleon “Polo” Cummings, Dwight Stewart, Garfield Buckley, and Armand “Hops” Hutton) call themselves Naturally 7.

From New Edition to N’Sync, the music industry has seen its fair share of male and female singing groups. If you listen closely, there’s normally one talented member in each band—the others tend to be average or plain run of the mill. However, this doesn’t apply to Naturally 7—they perform as a single, harmony-filled unit.

“When we’re hitting the high notes, we don’t want people to think a female is doing it,” explained Roger, founding member and musical director of the group. “It’s an all male band. We want them to know that it’s just us guys hitting the notes,” he added with a laugh.

Able to mimic an entire orchestra, Naturally 7 entertains audiences across the world by using one of the human body’s most precious instruments. The original members came together in New York in 1999, and released their first album the very next year. Roger teamed up with his brother, Warren, and five other talented singers they had come to know over the years from singing around the city.

“When I was a kid, my brother [Warren] always wanted a drum set but our mother always told him no because it was just too noisy,” Roger recalled during an interview with EURweb’s Lee Bailey. “Warren learned to make drum sounds with his voice [beat box] to compensate for not having real drums to play.”

He continued, “I approached Warren and asked if he could become the band’s drummer, so to speak, to accompany Naturally 7 on up-tempo songs. The rest is history.”

Having been in and out of several traditional male groups, Roger developed an affinity for a cappella sounds and a unique ability to create distinct harmony arrangements. The other members found unique aspects of their own voices to use as instruments during performances.

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After winning several amateur singing competitions in New York and across the nation, Naturally 7 went on to release “Non Fiction” followed by five more albums, including 2006’s “Ready II Fly.” This project opened at number 14 on the Australian ARIA Charts and it peaked at number 67 in France. The group’s upcoming album project - “Hidden in Plain Sight” – which just happens to be their seventh release – took two years to make and will finally be released on September 23. You can pre-order at the group’s label, Hidden Beach Recordings.

“We create music from our hearts,” explained Stewart in his distinctive bear tone. “We handled this album with care. We wanted it to be something for the ages; something that everyone will talk about till the end of time. That was our mission.”

Although they have achieved international fame, the group feels as though many people still don’t know who they are. With that in mind, they named their newest album Hidden in Plain Sight—an ode to being under the radar.

“Our [newest] album has two meanings,” added the group’s musical director. “We have a spiritual theme in every one of our songs. But some people don’t actually see it. Hopefully they will this time.”

In 15 years, Naturally 7 has had to replace only three members (Jamal Reed, Marcus Davis, and Andre Edwards). Those who were added to the fold had to meet one specific requirement, among others.

“We’re seven black guys and that probably won’t change,” Eldridge predicted in a matter-of-fact tone. “If another member had to leave the group, we wouldn’t want to change the packaging. White guys really don’t fit our look.”

He added, “We’re such a tight knit unit and what we do is so intricate, it’s hard to replace someone. There’s a lot of preparation that goes into what we do. We’re all very passionate about our music; sometimes that causes confusion and disagreements. But we’re a family; we work through bad times and enjoy the good.”

Their phenomenal talent, coupled with a live show that many consider to be one of the best in the world, has Naturally 7 poised for a brilliant future. As 2014 unfolds, they will have toured Europe, Australia, Canada and the U.S.

“Our name comes from a very simple concept; there are seven of us in the group,” explained its leader. “Seven is also a complete number spiritually and musically; and naturally we’re using the instruments that were born with that are encased in our bodies. That’s what makes us special.”

For MORE on Hidden Beach recording artists Naturally 7,  and to pre-order “Hidden in Plain Sight,” click HERE.

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EUR Exclusive: Mario Talks Racism in Music, Celebrity Feuds, and ‘Hair’

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*With a sultry, soulful voice that rivals the likes of any R&B artist, past or present, male or female, Mario—the multitalented singer, songwriter, and actor—is back in the studio preparing his fifth solo project. Although a release date hasn’t been set, the album will feature some of the biggest and brightest producers music has to offer. Mario also plans to solicit the help of other vocalists—he wouldn’t divulge specific names—and his fans can expect new material in the fall. Until then, Mr. Barrett (yes, that’s his last name) has decided to broaden his horizons.

Joining a star-studded cast, he will be performing in the upcoming production “Hair”—a Tony Award winning musical based on the tumultuous Civil Rights Era (1960s). On August 1-3 at the Hollywood Bowl in Los Angeles, Mario will portray a young African American revolutionist (Hud) with dreams of making a difference in his community.

“This play is about making a mockery of racism, religion and war,” he explained during an interview. “It’s about people being free and having a good time.”

Mario continued, “I play a young black man who is against war and racism. My character has experienced both of these things and singing is his way of coping with adversity while also drawing attention to the problems in his neighborhood. It’s a very powerful role, and I’m honored to have been chosen for it.”

In Hair, the characters act as representatives of their respective stomping grounds. Throughout the play they engage in thought-provoking dialogue about racism, warfare, classicism and other sensitive topics that push the proverbial needle. The multiracial cast includes a variety of actors and actresses from television and film, as well as less-known performers from the Broadway circuit. With respect to America’s heightened sensitivity toward race-related issues, the language in Hair might ruffle a few feathers. However, Mario promises that the show is written in good taste and won’t offend attendees.

“We’re not trying to upset people,” he explained. “We aren’t pointing the finger at anyone directly. The show promotes one common ideal: that under the sun, in the universe, were all one.”

In reference to the play’s title, Mario continued, “No matter what kind of hair you got, or what color you are, we should not be ashamed of who we are and what we represent. It’s called ‘Hair’ to bring it back to the oneness.”

Although he has sold more than 2 million albums worldwide, Mario remembers having to overcome discrimination on his way to the top. He explains racism as being an issue in entertainment that takes place behind closed doors.

“It’s definitely common in the industry; but not as much as people might think,” he explained plainly. “The older generation has more to say about racism. My generation—we’re all connected through social media and music. I try not to see color.”

“In entertainment, quality will always win no matter what color you are,” he went on to say. “Young black artist shouldn’t make fly by night material. Our music should always be at a high level so that we can compete with the best.”

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Although he’s dabbling in other areas of entertainment like theater, Mario has no intention of delaying his music career. He’s been traveling the world, fine-tuning his sound, and gaining new inspiration. Now, after several years away from the spotlight, Mario is finally ready to reconnect with his fans and the world of music.

“I’m more involved now,” he explained. “I’m writing more songs and I’m handpicking producers; and I’m also co-producing records. It’s more of a hands-on experience for me now, and I think that when people hear the music, they’ll see that.”

He added, “I want to make music that will give me a broader audience. There’s not enough up tempo in traditional R&B for it to sell now; it has to be merged with something. I’m still going to sing ballads; but I’m also going to incorporate elements of rock, pop, and house music. This is what the industry has programmed people to listen to. I’m simply embracing the evolution of R&B.”

Many of today’s most celebrated artists—Chris Brown, Trey Songs, Rihanna, Jay Z, Beyonce, etc—are also business moguls and entrepreneurs. Although he supports thinking out of the box, Mario vows to remember why he started performing in the first place.

“Some artists focus too much of their time on selling records and making money by any means,” he explained. “My music has to match who I am on the inside. I want people to feel my vibe without me having to open my mouth. I want to have a brand that people can relate to and understand.”

Mario continued, “People want to feel something when they listen to music. I’m constantly growing. I want to introduce people to something they haven’t seen or heard from me; but I want to do it an organic way.”

One of the ways young artists gain attention from the media is by engineering feuds with one another. In 2012, rapper Drake and troubled singer Chris Brown drummed up a media firestorm with their alleged brawl inside of a crowded night club. However, Mario says these stories are often fabricated, and in many cases, utterly untrue.

“Disagreements happen but when you allow the media to control the situation; then it can get out of hand,” he explained with a laugh. “To me, none of that stuff is real. I certainly play no part in it.”

Instead of participating in the Hollywood hullabaloo, Mario spends his off-time reaching out to his community in Baltimore, Md. His “Do Right Foundation” works with young people whose parents suffer from drug and alcohol addiction.

“I wanted to give back to those kids mentally and spiritually,” he explained. “I also wanted to educate them on how to prevent themselves and their families from falling into a life of drugs. The streets are crazy right now; a lot of kids are using drugs at an early age. I’m doing what I can to steer them in the right direction.”

In addition to recording another album, Mario plans to reconnect with his fans in a variety of different ways.

“I’m putting together a tour overseas right now,” the singer explained. “I’m also writing a book; it’s going to be about my life and things that I’ve experienced throughout my career.”

With more than 10 years of professional experience under his belt, Mario has one piece of advice for young artists trying to break into the music industry.

“Whatever you do in life, or want to do in life, don’t forget why you started in the first place,” he said softly. “Always remember why you’re doing what you do. That’s how you stay grounded; that’s how your music will stay real.”

Check out Mario’s classic Ne-Yo penned and produced jam, “Let Me Love You”:

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The Black Hat: (Single vs. Married) Which Type of Mother Deserves More Credit?

african-american-pregnant-mom*In the wee hours of the morning, there’s nothing more distinct than the sound of an infant crying.

During these moments, married moms occasionally stay in bed while their husbands change diapers, sing lullabies and heat bottles of milk. Single mothers often don’t have this luxury.

In most cases, they’re the sole providers for their offspring and even small periods of uninterrupted downtime are few and far between.

Around 45 percent  of American single mothers have never married, and 55 percent are divorced, separated or widowed. Half have one child, 30 percent  have two. About two thirds are White, one third Black, and one quarter are Hispanic. One quarter have a college degree, yet one sixth have not completed high school.

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SIDEBAR: It’s Time to Get Rid of the Phrase ‘Single Mother’

“I think there should be a special holiday for us,” said Los Angeles resident Tamika Washington. “We work hard. I have three kids and I raise them on my own with no help from a man. When I need some rest, I take them to my mother’s house; but that’s hardly ever. Other mothers who have men in their lives should count their blessings. They have it easy compared to what we go through.”

Once largely limited to poor women and minorities, single motherhood is now becoming the new “norm.” This prevalence is due in part to the growing trend of children born outside marriage. About 4 out 10 children are born to unwed mothers. Nearly two-thirds are born to mothers under the age of 30.

“I don’t have a helpmate at home; I have to be a mother and father to my kids,” explained Atlanta resident Edna Johnson. “Single moms have to work twice as hard; that’s the bottom line. If we don’t, the whole family suffers. My boys—and I have four of them—will need me for the rest of their lives. I probably won’t get a break until I’m six feet under,” she added laughing.

Today, more women are embracing the idea of raising children without help. The number of single-mother households increased from three million in 1970 to 15 million in 2013. There are now 6.1 million black single mothers compared to 3.8 million single Hispanic mothers.

According to government statistics, 72 percent of African American youth are born to single mothers. If this number continues to grow—and experts contend that it might—future generations will represent a radical change in the traditional family structure.

“Most of the well-developed adults, especially men, I’ve met who have grown up without their fathers recount with fondness the relationship they had and lessons they learned from their mothers,” movie director Kobie Brown told theGrio in an email. He created the 2012 documentary “From Fatherless to Fatherhood” to address the impact that single-parent homes are having in the black community.

“I firmly believe that a good parent is defined by his or her ability and unyielding desire to provide a child with the tools—food, shelter, education, and emotional, intellectual and spiritual development—to ensure the best outcomes for that child’s life.”

SIDEBAR: It’s Time to Get Rid of the Phrase ‘Single Mother’

Being a single parent comes with many challenges. However, women in this category shouldn’t be awarded special recognition or placed on a pedestal, says Arca Houston.

“In my eyes, there are only two kinds of parents:  good ones and bad ones,” she explained. “My job as a mother doesn’t change because I’m married. That’s a flawed argument.”

She added, “I have a husband who spends the majority of his time at work. I’m the primary caregiver to our children; it’s been that way since they were born. When my husband comes home, he has to be fed and taken care of just like my kids do; I rarely get time to relax.”

According to analysis by the Pew Research Center, married mothers in 2013 spent almost twice as much time with their children as fathers did (13.5 hours a week). Single mothers spent 20.7 hours with their children. Over a one year span, this number stretches to 1040 total hours of parenting.

“The reason why most black women are single mothers is because they make dumb decisions to get that way,” says Shalonda Wade. “A lot of these young girls have babies by different men; it’s impossible to be a good mother under these conditions; and of course the road will be a little tougher.

“Just because you’re married doesn’t mean raising children becomes any less difficult,” she continued.  “It’s actually harder because of all the extra cooking and cleaning you have to do.”

Wade added, “There are plenty of single moms who leave their children at daycare all day long or with a family member all weekend. That’s hardly good parenting. Most of my family lives in other parts of the country; I can’t leave my children with anyone.”Single-MothersThere are other variables to consider when comparing single mothers to those who are married, says Houston. “I know moms whose kids are handicapped [sic] and they need extra attention. It doesn’t matter what kind of mother you are–caring for a disabled child is tedious work. What about married women who do that every day? Do they deserve more credit too?”

In addition, a household that has two full-time income earners providing financial resources for the family’s budget generally prospers more than a family with only one income. Splitting the cost of raising children has a positive effect on the mental and emotional stability of both parents, experts say.

“A mama can’t give it all. And neither can a daddy, not by themselves,” says obstetrician and gynecologist Dr. Natalie Carroll. “Part of the reason is because you can only give that which you have. A mother cannot give all that a man can give. A truly involved father figure offers more fullness to a child’s life.”

Even with the help of outside sources, single mothers often encounter many challenges on their own. With very little job growth in the United States and rising costs in healthcare, gas, and other everyday necessities, single black mothers are just as stressed, if not more, than married and unmarried parents, says Rutgers University professor William M. Rodgers.

“Many [black single mothers] also have challenges due to their surroundings,” he explained, adding that more often than not, black single mothers may face an array of problems, ranging from finding suitable childcare to recovering from domestic violence.”

SIDEBAR: It’s Time to Get Rid of the Phrase ‘Single Mother’

Single mothers earn incomes that place them well below married mothers in the income ladder. Half with an annual income less than $25,000. A recent Census Bureau report shows that in 2012, the median income for families led by a single mother ($25,493) is only one third the median for married couple families ($81,455). Only one third of single mothers receive any child support, and the average amount these mothers receive is only about $400 a month.

“Certainly, it’s clear that women under these circumstances have a great deal of additional constraints and difficulties,” explained writer and sociologist Jason Fields,  “It’s well understood that married parents have the support and resources that may make life easier in some respects.”

There are a number of government programs available to help ease the stress of raising children alone. However, gaining access to these resources is an uphill battle, says Johnson.

“I don’t even qualify for county aid; I apparently make too money,” she explained disgusted. “I know plenty of single women who couldn’t get help even if they wanted it.”

Two fifths of all single mothers receive food stamps. Among children with single mothers in the US, 41 percent get food stamps and 59 percent don’t.

Although two fifths of all single mothers are poor, only one tenth of all single mothers receive TANF (Temporary Assistance for Needy Families). Although a small percentage, they represent more than 90% of all TANF families.

Even for those who did receive assistance, the amount was far less than the minimum they’d need to stave off hardship – like hunger, homelessness, and utility cut-offs.

A recent report by the U.S. Census Bureau shows that more than 80 percent of black single mothers have completed high school–an achievement that not only can aid them in raising families but one that goes a long way toward debunking the stereotypes of single black mothers as welfare queens and drug abusers, explains New America Media.

Although studies are beginning to suggest that children are capable of thriving under single parent households, the general consensus remains in favor of the traditional two parent family structure. A Pew Research Center poll reports that nearly 7 in 10 Americans think single mothers are a “bad thing for society.” University of Texas law professor Lino Graglia went so far as to link minority underachievement on standardized tests to single parent households, characterizing the parents as “usually female, uneducated and without a lot of money.”

“When you’re a black and unmarried woman, solo parenting is an indictment of your self-worth and life choices,” says Salon writer Stacia L. Brown. “When you’re a married woman, taking on all the parenting responsibilities yourself makes you someone to champion.”

Parenthood is designed for both genders, but females are naturally equipped for nurturing children. All good mothers deserve to be honored and respected. However, it takes a special kind of woman to raise black children (especially if she’s doing it alone).

Based in Southern California, EURweb editorial associate Cory A. Haywood is also a certified personal fitness trainer. Contact him via: [email protected] and/or visit his websites: www.coryhaywood.webs.com and corythewriter.blogspot.com.

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Black Hat Extra: It’s Time to Get Rid of the Phrase ‘Single Mother’

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*Many women neglect their children while trying to experience the fun and excitement that comes with being young and single. Women who fit this category have the audacity to call themselves “single mothers.”

That phrase gets thrown around too loosely; if you aren’t a stable source of support for your little ones, then you have no right to call yourself a mother. Instead, embrace who you really are—a neglectful whore.

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Living single means living alone: doing for yourself; engaging in activities that other single people enjoy. These liberties aren’t designed for women raising young children.

Responsible mothers step up to the plate after giving birth. These women embrace motherhood as an opportunity to mold and shape their offspring. They understand that raising children requires self-sacrifice, self-accountability, self-awareness, and self-restraint.

RELATED – The Black Hat: (Single vs. Married) Which Type of Mother Deserves More Credit?

In the Bible, there is a passage that warns Christians against indulging in secular behavior. The same concept applies to single mothers: you can’t behave like a tramp and expect to be a good mother. That’s a recipe for utter failure.

Based in Southern California, EURweb editorial associate Cory A. Haywood is also a certified personal fitness trainer. Contact him via: [email protected] and/or visit his websites: www.coryhaywood.webs.com and corythewriter.blogspot.com.

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Comedian Alex Thomas Hosts Fifth Annual Celebrity Golf Classic

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Comedian Alex Thomas (front/center) and his all-star team of golf buddies

*In the midst of despair, laughter is always the best medicine. That’s why comedian Alex Thomas deserves an honorary PhD—he makes children smile even after they’ve been diagnosed with cancer.

Although comedy pays his bills, Thomas’ heart gets nourished during his routine trips to children’s hospitals. With the help of another smile specialist, the famous Ronald McDonald, Thomas brings toys, arts and crafts, and pure joy to pediatric cancer patients all over Southern California.

According to current medical research, cancer is the leading cause of death by disease among U.S. children 1 to 14 years of age. The National Cancer Institute reports that on average, 1 to 2 children are diagnosed each year for every 10,000 children in the United States.

In 2009, The Alex Thomas Foundation joined the fight against cancer. Partnered with the Long Beach Ronald McDonald House, an organization dedicated to helping serve young cancer victims, the ATF specializes in helping kids cope with their illnesses and treatment.

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Golf Buddies: The legendary Jim Brown & Alex Thomas

Thomas’ annual celebrity golf classic  is a tool he uses to promote his foundation. This year, despite early morning clouds and light rainfall, he welcomed a star studded group of golfers, including NBA veteran Matt Barnes, NFL legends Jim Brown and Jerome “The Bus” Bettis, as well as comedian and television producer Chris Spencer.

“Over the last five years, several members of my family have been diagnosed with cancer,” Thomas explained with sadness in his eyes. “Finding ways to be happy in the midst of tragedy is something I’m used to. If I can make a child with cancer smile for even just a few minutes, then I’m making a difference. Laughter makes everyone feel better.”

He added: “I just want to give back to my community. Just because these kids suffer from an illness doesn’t mean they should stop living and being happy. I’ve been put on this Earth to make people smile. That’s comedy. That’s who I am.”

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The Black Hat: If She’s a Church Girl, Don’t Marry Her–Run!

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*She cooks, she cleans, and she’s a Black woman who actually enjoys giving brain. Hallelujah! From the looks of it, you’ve found a winner.

Then again, it’s never smart to judge a book by its cover (even if she has the ability to make an entire Sprite can disappear in her mouth).

On the surface she may seem like girlfriend or even wifey material; but don’t go jumping the gun just yet. If she’s one of those self-righteous types, you’d better think twice before emptying your savings account for a wedding ring (she’ll pawn it after the divorce is finalized anyway). Having all the virtue in the world doesn’t mean she’s healthy for you.

Remember, Satan used to be one of the good guys (that went south real quick—literally).

To all my brethren out there looking for a good wholesome woman, answer this question: “do you really want to marry a church girl?” It’ll cost a piece of your soul (and a larger piece of your wallet). When she’s angry, she’ll threaten to burn you with hot chicken grease. When she catches the Holy Ghost in church, she’ll flail around like she’s in a mosh pit. On Saturday, she’ll call you a trifling Negro. On Sunday, she’ll call you a heathen and beat you over the head with her Bible. It’s the type of behavior that belongs in a Tyler Perry movie; or better yet, the psyche ward.

God help any man brave enough to marry the daughter of a preacher. The last time you agreed to have dinner with her family, all hell broke loose. You forgot to pray over your food and her mother nearly flew over the dinner table to stop you from biting into that chicken wing (she’s had reservations about you ever since). And let’s not forget about your father-in–law: before giving his life to Christ, he was a hustler and a pimp. At your wedding, he threated to bust a cap in your ass if you didn’t do right by his daughter. The next day, he preached a sermon about peace and forgiveness; he even summoned you during the alter call. All that criticism and passive aggressive behavior would make any black man go completely nuts.

In theory, the divorce rate among Christians should be lower than any other group. After all, the Bible provides specific instructions on how to make marriage last. Here’s where it all goes wrong: quite often, Christian couples fall into traps set by their own relatives and church family. In other words, the people at your wedding are often the ones who help seal the deal on your divorce. For example, gossip floats through church like the Holy Ghost itself. All people talk, but church people whisper and collect dirt on one another; that’s why it’s hard to keep them out of your business.

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Guys, if you marry into a Christian family, you’d better be prepared for constant probing into your marriage. It happened to my father—he’s now remarried. Catch my drift? If you’re a black man searching for companionship, always take the path of least resistance (here’s a hint, it’s paved with white women). I’m kidding. However, be mindful of the type of black woman you choose. If she’s sassy, you might wanna keep your medicine cabinet stocked with Advil or some other mind-numbing drug (I hear cocaine helps also).However, if she respects her pastor more than she respects you, the relationship is doomed to fail.

In Titus 2:5, Christian women are instructed to “be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, and obedient to their husbands.” Ephesians 5:22 says: “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the lord.” Despite admonishment from the Bible, it appears that modern women aren’t buying into these concepts. It’s a new day and age—the gender gap is steadily closing and women are taking full advantage of new economic opportunity. With that in mind, the way in which Christian women approach marriage has completely changed. It would be a cold day in hell before an established black woman fully submits to her husband, especially if he’s bringing in less money.

The role of the husband in the Bible starts with leadership. Scripture makes it very clear that a husband must be a leader of his home, a provider for his family, and have healthy control of his life. There’s nothing wrong with these ideals. However, women who aren’t led by God, and aren’t properly trained by their pastor, often interpret scripture from a secular point of view. In the eyes of many Christian black women, a man isn’t worth being respected, or obeyed, unless he provides the finer things life has to offer; the necessities come second. Many young black women simply aren’t mature in their walk with Christ. They tend to value material objects, instead of finding the value in their own lives and relationships.

Oftentimes, Christian people merge their secular desires with their religious beliefs. For instance, in the Old Testament, God turns water into wine. An unseasoned Christian might take that to mean that alcoholism is okay in the eyes of the creator. That’s obviously incorrect. If scripture isn’t digested properly, it can be used for selfish and ungodly reasons. That’s a recipe for marital discomfort, particularly if the man cannot provide according to his wife’s satisfaction. Black men, particularly, endure daily challenges imposed by outside forces of oppression. A stressful household, and empty pockets, only make matters worse.

The Black Hat column is written by Southern California based Cory A. Haywood who is also a certified personal fitness trainer. Contact him via: [email protected] and/or visit his websites: www.coryhaywood.webs.com or CoryTheWriter.blogspot.com.

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