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JanetHNYC
Comment: You can't make a ThugRat Husband Material
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Gurlfrand
Comment: >JanetHNYC - you said that right. What is wrong with these people. They are out of their minds.
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mayday
Comment: I have no idea who Mack 10 is, I had never heard of him until T-Boz married him. I am sorry to hear about her divorce but if this is what makes her happy and safe.........
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Vanity
Comment: JanetHNYC, that may be true. But there are always three sides to every story. Hers, His and the truth......
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SweetP
Comment: I love this girl. I love the group TLC. I was so mad at T-Boz for even marrying Mack 10. He just doesn't seem to be her type of guy, not that I know her personally. I believe what T-Boz is saying about Mack 10. I believe everthing that she says. I also admire her strength to file a temporary restraining order and leave. Mack 10 can be very dangerous. He knows and associates with low lifes. He's a low life himself. Again, I'm glad that T-Boz had the wherewithall to leave. I hope that she has the courage to stay gone! Having said that, I have to say this, when Left Eye was having problems with Andre Rison. Chile and T-Boz seemed to turn their noses up at her. They resented the negative publicity that Left Eye's personal problems brought the group. But you see how the world keeps turning. Chile and Ushers break up was public. Now, Mack 10 and T-Boz are getting divorced. I'm just shaking my head.
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MOTHERSHIP
Comment: What did she expect when she married him? Homeboy was gang bangin' for years and she expected him to turn choir boy after their marriage?!
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TesticAl
Comment: What happened to that bich hair?
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Azuria
Comment: When I read an interview with Mack 10 talking about how when he first saw T-Boz with Chili and he wanted to holler at T-Boz, he told his friend, "These b*tches are probably stuck up." Or something to that effect. T-Boz just giggled as he told this story, like calling her and her girl b*tches was nothing. I thought to myself, T-Boz, you deserve better. I guess now she realizes this as well.
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Aphrodite
Comment: I believe in the saying "You attract what you are".(or something to that effect). I've heard T-Boz in interviews before and I don't think she graduated at the top of her class either. She seemed to be somewhat ignorant to me. JMO!
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Mahoganii
Comment: I'm far from suprised. I thought their marraige was a joke from the beginning! I'm glad she had the strength to get out though. Some women would stay in an abusive relationship, just because...
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SpecialK
Comment: I'm glad she got out before she really got hurt. The thug life is not a lengthy one. Look at Tupac, Biggie, etc. She needs an ordinary Joe to take care of her and her daughter. Now would be the perfect time for her and Chilli to do another cd. They have lots to sing about now.
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SweetP
Comment: > Special K - What an interesting concept. I hope that someone puts that bug in her ear. >>>>>>>>>>>>
TO: Mahoganii-I thinks it's wonderful that she left. I just hope that she will stay gone. You know abusers will cry, whine, stomp, pout, promise you the world, but will return to their old ways. Especially a thug like Mack 10. **Just my opinion**
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JanetHNYC
Comment: Special K~ i was thinking the same thing too - This sounds like the perfect time to put out another (No Scrubs) album - Probably sell like hot cakes
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QueenCityBee
Comment: T.T. what was you thinking she couldn't handle that thug? Say what you want about Left-Eye she was the smallest one but, she stood her ground when it came to men trippin on her. The fought back & when it was over they knew they had been in a fight fo sure. Just like Whitney, Bobby ain't really the one doing all the azz beatin either.
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Sexee
Comment: You can be a thug or in a suit, if a man wants his cake and eat it too he's going to do it. It has nothing to do with him being a thug, it has everything with him wanting control. Period
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oldschoolbrother
Comment: She wanted to marry a thug, and thats what she got. Not judging, just speaking from what I observe on the streets everyday. Many women complain about men, but most women want thugs or what they think are men who "keep it real".
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Kofi
Comment: Why are women so apt of automatically believe that anything T-Boz says is true. If as she says Mac 10 basically kidnapped their child and threatened to kill her, that would be a police matter. We should have heard about some of these incidents before now. Yes, men more often than not do terrible things to women but women are not immune from being scandelous as well.
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Gemami
Comment: Y'all are acting like T-Boz is a Rhodes scholor... the girl is just as ghetto as she wants to be. No disrespect to her, but I actually thought they made a cute couple... I'm sorry that their union had to end... especially this way. I personally hope she puts out a solo CD... Chili adds looks but not substance.
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Stank_Doogie
Comment: Hmm. Interesting. Now I wonder what the REAL story is?
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Apple
Comment: Knock her teeth down her throat!!! WTF is going on. I think everybody was probaly thinking that the marriage would not last very long. It lasted almost 4 years though probaly with much drama. I feel sorry for that poor little girl who had to witness all that. Someone else said that she needs just a plain o'l ordainary man and I concur. I wish she could please find a good man with God in their life. Everything else will fall right into place.
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SpecialK
Comment: T-Boz made a mistake, period!! Don't be so hard on her. Looking at Mac-10's record and hearing him speak a few times, he seems like he doesn't really respect women. If what she said is true I hope she doesn't go back.
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SHAWTY
Comment: POOR T-BOZ....THAT'S WHAT HAPPEN WHEN YOUR MARRY A WANNABE THUG. HIS FAT AZZ
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Dinobot
Comment: I wonder if they signed a prenup?
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DUDE
Comment: i couldn't be happier for her! he cheats on her incessantly and he's just a ridiculous human being. and no matter where anyone comes from, no one deserves to be treated like that.
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MsVanese
Comment: *shaking head* So what now? Another family broken apart because of ignorance. What will happen to the child? Will there be an ugly custody fight? Will they try to be friends, at least in front of her?
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Dimeology101
Comment: Lawd, Lawd, Lawd. Black people we have got to get a better understanding of the word MARRIAGE. First T-Boz and Mack 10..and then according to Jawn's Juice Yolanda Adams and her husband split. Black men and women - why can't we keep a marriage going like our (great) grandmothers/grandfathers? Maybe if we stop thinking if we offer sex and having babies that is what makes a relationship and consider that committment.... I know every marriage (I'm single BTW) has its ups and downs, twists and turns...but what every happened to valuing your wife/husband, vows and dedication to that ONE person? Granted any female that is being abused or mistreated should run like the wind but...but did we look at his life in depth before we laid down with him, had his child....did we dig deeper than 'love at first sight'??? I was in an abusive relationship, thought sexin' and having babies would CHANGE him and tried to stick in there. NOT.....NO CHANGE but maybe if I would've researched how he treated his mother, females in his family, his goals, ambitions, job history, like/dislikes, etc. instead of only seeing his third leg! But now I know better and to really take my time when dating/starting relationships; one day I do want to marry, but trust you me I will come to know everything there is to know about the man I will be standing in front of at the altar! Do ya'll agree???? Comments/views
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MsVanese
Comment: Not to disagree, but a lot of those women(grandmothers, etc.) were not happy. They were also abused, but were taught to "stand by your man", so they didn't know any better.
I just wonder, did Mack 10 show any signs of being abusive BEFORE the I DO's?
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Sexee
Comment: Dimeology101 ~ relationships these days are like fair-weather friends. When the going gets tough, the tough gets going. Although, I don't condone any man hitting a woman. We don't know what really happened. I would like to think since she has sickle cell that he wouldn't lay a hand on her. However, you never know. My general observation of relationships today is the LACK of LOVE. Some people think because he/she is financially secure that they can love them unconditionally. People are so vain to the point that if you do something to annoy them, they take the "I don't have to put up with this" attitude. They rather walk it out versus talking it out. When you truly love someone you will reason and understand as well accept the individual for who and what they are.
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SweetP
Comment: In relationships, people introduce you to their personality and you wind up marrying their character. Be it bad or good. It takes time for someone's true colors to show. Male or female.
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Dimeology101
Comment: Thanks Sexee & MsVanese~Did he show any signs of abuse before the marriage? Don't know...but somewhere in the previous comments - he was disrespectful in his music. Did she really think that was just his music business front? Your right Sexee, I think we (females) have that Me, Myself and I attitude when most females want to be loved, cherished and respected in the right way that we are supposed to be loved - that's it...we don't talk anything out. Who knows....everytime I see Ice Cube and his wife Kim they look happier than kids in a candy store - but we don't know what goes on behind closed doors as with any marriage/relationship.
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DOne
Comment: I somewhat agree with MsVanese. I think comparing marriage today to that of our grandparents is apples to oranges. We tend to project current values onto the past which can lead to over romantizing the past. People have always married for a variety of reasons, and marrying for love is far more common today than in the past. I know for a fact that my grandmother, born in 1897, didn't marry for love; she said so. She did however say that she grew to love my grandfather because he was a good man and they were compatable. I think such arrangements were fairly common back in the day. Also, folk didn't have as many options. Divorce was much more difficult and carried a stigma. I don't think there was nearly as much communication between our grandparents as we would like to believe and good sex was probably not even part of the equation. It was about making a committment and sticking to it. Folk were comfortable with each other. Now fast forward to the present, its all about romance and sex. The criteria for choosing a mate has changed. The are more options, especially for women. Folk seem to want the type of relationships they read about or see in the movies, they want to earth to move or get goose bumps.
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MsVanese
Comment: I am trying to raise my daughter to believer in herself & all that she can achieve. If she chooses to have a man in her life, hopefully it will be because of love, but she is being taught to love herself first, give what you want to receive and to always, ALWAYS respect herself above all else. I had to learn the hard way. I think that is the problem with a lot of young women(of any race), you never learn to love yourself, you always think someone else has to or you are nothing. (just my opinion).
Thanks for such a lovely & intelligent conversation everyone *smile*
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Sexee
Comment: Dimeolgy ~ My concern is when we stereotype people (when you know we don't like to be!)All thugs don't hit women, I've seen Corporate, blue collar and in between lose it. I think alot of men get caught up in the hype of the entertainment business. They say they're independent, however they are quick to change to appease the masses. I true MAN or WOMAN is someone that doesn't allow the society to influence who or what they are. In saying that I thought they mad a really cute couple.
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Gemami
Comment: Dimeology101 ~ I do agree that marriage in general is not sacred, but I don't think marriage was better off with our grandmothers/grandfathers. Poppa was a rolling stone and gilly didn't believe that divorce was an option. She stayed in her abusive relationship to save face. She died with her pain. That doesn't make it better. If a man is abusive, be it verbal or physical, the woman should leave (and visa versa). Also, I believe, you can do a background check on your mate, date him/her for 100 years before marriage, you will not know that person truly until you live with him. I believe the first step is knowing and loving yourself and your mate will be complementary to you. But we all make mistakes... it's just learning and growing from those mistakes.
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SweetP
Comment: It seems as though relationships on any level, boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife are on the decline. Especially the relationships in Hollywood. Although regular people have problems too. But the rappers (Snoop Dogg, Eminem, Mack 10, DMX, LL Cool J, Treach, and others) seem to make lousey husbands. I thought LL Cool J, who I adore, was a great husband, even though he is still married, has admittted to slipping up a time or two. Treach treated our girl from Salt and Pepper shabbily when she became his wife. I think it's sad. It seems to me that you have to accept their whorish, abusive ways just to stay married. This isn't casting marriage in a positive light. IMO
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GHank
Comment: To Dimeology101:
Good for you. I am a man in my late 30's who has never been married. I tell people all the time that you have to take time to get to know one another. Too many times, we let other factors (third leg, material things etc.) take over. I am a firm believer that if you take the time to get to know people, a lot of marriges would last longer. Now, there are always exceptions to the general rule, but for the most part, we can cut down on the number of bad marriages considerably if we follow the rule of taking the the time to get to know one another. As far as T-Boz is concerned, she needs to follow that golden rule. As many people said, she married a thug. Let's hope she has learned from all of this.
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SHAWTY
Comment: DIMEOLOGY101> YOUR NOT SURE IF IT WAS LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT OR HOW HE TREATED MOM'S DUKE OR HIS SISTER. AS FAR AS HIS CARRER..... I PERSONALLY THINK HE SUCKS AS A WANNABE RAPPER. BUT OBVIOUSLY SHE THOUGHT OR THINKS THAT HE IS OR WAS AMBITIOUS. I MEAN THEY WERE MARRIED SO I'M ASSUMING THAT SHE THOUGHT SHE HAD THE RIGHT ONE AND I HONESTLY DON'T THINK THAT IS WAS FOR MONEY(AT LEAST I DON'T THINK). BASICALLY WE DON'T KNOW WHAT REALLY WENT ON HERE OTHER THAN THE FACT THAT HE'S AN AZZ HOLE WHOSE MENTALLY CHALLENGE. I WAS IN A ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP I THOUGHT I HAD PRINCE CHARMING WITH A COLLEGE EDUCATION AND A FAT AZZ BANKING ACCOUNT AND WAS IN LOVE WITH MY SON(NOT HIS MINE). BUT AFTER THREE YEARS OF MARRIAGE I GUESS THE CLUBS, HOOD RATS AND LIQUOR WAS MORE IMPORTANT THAN LOVING HIS WIFE
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Sexee
Comment: made
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Dimeology101
Comment: Ms.Vanese - Now see I admit that's one thing my mother didn't instill in me. I got the 'Prince on a White Stallion' coming to take me and marry me and we lived happily ever after dream as a little girl. That I did get. That was part of the problem in my past relationships, but know I have learned -what you see in the movies don't cut it. I will remember to never tell my daughter the fairy tale romance dream when she gets of dating/relationship age. Also part of the reason I stuck in the past abusive relationship was that I had very low self-esteem, which I am tending to see in a lot of young (16-25) women today who feel they have to open up them legs, show and let everything hang out. Sad to say but the music/videos they are watching isin't really how you get a man to respect you which I pray they don't buy into for long.
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Dimeology101
Comment: To Shawty~No. I meant if I would've looked into MY children's father's relationship with his mother (which was horrible - I actually watched him choke her out one day!)goals/ambitions, work history, etc. Took my time to look deeper. I didn't mean T-Boz's.
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SHAWTY
Comment: MY BAD ...GO LAKERS. JUST WANTED TO ADD A LITTLE HUMOR
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Gemami
Comment: Sexee I agree with you about stereotyping men (and women), but I have a question for everyone: What's a "regular" guy?
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MsVanese
Comment: My mother never told me that either. I was married for 20 yrs. and finally left when my mother passed because I kept seeing myself like her, in an unhappy relationship. I admit it took too long for me to wake up. I never was told to watch how he treats the women in his family, because I would never have married him. Although we each have to learn from our mistakes, it would help to at least explain to young women that life is hard, but you don't have to settle either. I hope everyone has a blessed evening.
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Sexee
Comment: Gemami ~ A regular guy for me is someone I don't have to train/teach how to treat a woman. Whether you a roughneck, corporate or corporate roughneck ( I don't do the thug thing.)It's important that you have GOD in your life (and not just talking the talk), know how to treat me and are able to receive love as well as give it. That's my regular guy.
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Sexee
Comment: Also, most women don't know what they want, as long as they have someone keeping the other side of the bed warm.
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SweetP
Comment: Sometimes it takes an embarrassing situation to make you get ALL BY YOURSELF! Relationships can build you up, make you feel special, happy and complete. That's a wonderful thing. On the flip side, they can make you regret the day that you were born. I say get out before it comes down to that. As I said earlier, a personality is something that you can manipulate others with. Character is something that many people cannot change.
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Gemami
Comment: Sexee ~ that was the best answer!!! A "thug" to me is a straight criminal and that should be a no-no for every woman. What makes Mack 10 a thug and not Ice Cube? In my quest to educate what I want to understand what makes Mack 10 such a bad guy that T-Boz shouldn't have married him in the first place (and I'm basing this on his persona, don't know anything else about him). I would have thought Eric Benet would have made the "perfect" mate but look what happened, he ended up being a sexaholic.
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Sexee
Comment: Gemami ~ LOL! Yes looks are deceiving. Eric Benet messed up his relationship big time. I personally don't think he's a sex addict, it was about CONTROL. He felt inferior to Halle Superior role as a actress. He couldn't hang as am man so he reverted to a boy. He did not physically abuse Halle but he mentally did a number on her.
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SweetP
Comment: >Sexee-Most women don't consider cheating abuse? I have been in their midst as this very sensitive subject has been debated. Some people that I know say "at least he didn't hit me", or "I didn't get my so-n-so whooped". Eric abused her emotionally. Emotional scars are the worst.
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Insightful2004
Comment: These guys that live the thug life in the video are not very much different at home. I never understood, how they could be in a video with all the scandalous,scantily clad women and go home to a loving wife. T-Boz good for you! I hope the best for her and her daughter. Honestly, it is not helpful to fight in front of children. Those memories haunt them.
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SpecialK
Comment: Who reported that Yolanda Adams and her husband split? Say it ain't so.
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Sexee
Comment: SweetP ~ I agree mental/emotional abuse is damaging. However you must know who you are, so if your husband/boyfriend (as well as females too.) gets to acting up. You realize that it has nothing to do with you. It only deals with their insecurites.
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Gemami
Comment: Sexee, you are on point today. I'm still floored by Eric Benet... I didn't see that one coming. Like I see can't believe disfunctional Bobby and Whitney are out marrying everyone.
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dnc1
Comment: Kofi it's not that women are so apt of automatically believe what T-Boz say is true but we are also looking at the character of the person she is talking about. It is not like he portrays an angelic lifestyle and she is trying to ruin his good reputation. That situation is a police matter but it is easier said than done. That is her husband and I'm sure she knew that it would be a "MEDIA" frenzy and maybe she wasn't ready for that at the time. It's not to say that just because she didn't call the police that it didn't happen
I'm glad she it getting out of this situation and hopefully it is for good.
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nightshift
Comment: That's what happens when you marry trash...What the hell is a "Mack-10" or is that a super-sized "Big mac(K) and some extra greasy on the side. It's a shame that they had to breed with each other. Though she wasn't any kind of princess. I'd lay odds there's no pre-nup..Why should they, everybody is trying to challenge the validity of them..
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Bopeep
Comment: I feel for T-Boz, but she had to know he was a thug before she married him. America knew. There are awlays signs when you are dating but some of us keep blinders on or think , "he will change", NOT!
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