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Name: McNasty

Comment: Nigerian men are like that anyway - I assumed it was because they didn't woo Nigerian women and thought it would work on american women. How wrong they were! Of course it doesn't help any that AC is absolutely right in saying sisters are giving it up to quickly - if everyone practiced some restraint, get to know the person a little better you may find that that person is not for you - nothing ventured nothing gained (but your self respect is in tact).

Name: shala

Comment: I think one key element left out was making friends with women as well...let the females you hang out with know that you are looking for a guy. I have a lot of male friends that are single and are always asking me if I have a friend who is available.

Name: OSUN

Comment: I have found African men in general treat AA women this way, at least in my experience. I like the list she gave, I may have to check out the bookstore this weekend.

Name: GoldenLady

Comment: It is stupid to say "Nigerian" I had to be careful. Fool...be careful with all strangers. Everything else has been commented on, so I wanted to comment on the overtly racist comment against BLACK people. Hell, any race of man can only be after the twatt. Just plain ignorance that statement...

Name: chrislrob

Comment: The list is cool, but the card seems kind of...call girlish? Though I would love it. I'd just wonder a little about it. These days everyone has a cell phone. I just tell women to give me their number, I dial it and it is automatically stored in my phone. It's how I got my now fiance's number outside of a club.

Name: MzTee

Comment: I like AC's advice, especially the calling card. Back in the day, gentlemen callers left their 'calling card' that had their personal information on it. I always give a man my cell phone number UNTIL I get to know the person and get comfortable with him. Women, myself included in the past, often take our personal safety for granted. We give complete strangers who we may have talked to for at most an hour our addresses and home phone numbers.......We don't know these men from ADAM and what they may do. DATING 101...1)meet your date in a public place and 2)tell someone where you're going and the name of the person you're meeting. That's just common sense. And any man who is about something will not stress you over taking precautions to protect yourself.

Name: Priceless

Comment: some men would just azzume have the blow up doll instead of putting in the effort

Name: McNasty

Comment: GoldenLady - not so golden to come here and call anyone's statement stupid. The writer referred to the man as a Nigerian and since I have met numerous Nigerian men with the same mentality it's not stupid to say that - it's stupid not to read the article and understand what it says enough to come here and just comment on that!

Name: Gemami

Comment: All I can say is I hope the woman keeps her head up and not allow this incident to deter her. It's his lost someone else's gain. I agree with meeting a man at function the woman enjoys that way there's a chance she's meeting someone with similar interests and/or passions. I'm not too keen on the calling card either because not only does it seem too "call-girlish", it's too forward but I also believe if a man is seriously interested he would give the women his number(s).

Name: chrislrob

Comment: Gemami, I'm a pretty decent guy, but experience has taught me not to give women my number. At least not unless they will also give me theirs. My fiance and I went through all of that the night we met. Women USUALLY ask for the guy's number because her interest level isn't high enough. And, if it isn't, that's cool, but let's not pretend. Many women have a work number, cell number, home number, work cell number, and two pagers. They've got friends, brothers, mothers--give me somebody's number! If you think I'm so scary, or so weak, that you don't see fit to give me your number, then things are unlikely to get better. It's okay, let's just move on. In fact, I refused to take my fiance's WORK number. I ain't calling to check on the Macy's account! And hey, did anybody notice that the letter writer had already decided the guy wasn't "getting none" but two weeks later STILL went out on a date with him?! What's up with that?

Name: McNasty

Comment: ChrislRob makes for a better date when you say you're not sleeping with him! You get a better chance to see the real person by keeping your business to yourself. No harm there and in the end turns out she was right - she would have feel to used had she slept with this man.

Name: chrislrob

Comment: McNasty, Not sure what you mean, but she wasn't avoiding telling him IF she would sleep with him, she had *decided* that she wasn't sleeping with him. "And me knowing myself, and dealing with men in the past “trust me you’re not getting this” I am saying this to myself." So why go out with him? She knows what she wants and she knows that it's not what HE wants.

Name: Gemami

Comment: chrislrob, I agree with you that numbers should be exchanged, but men also have a plethora of numbers and shouldn't have a problem with allowing the woman to call if she's interested. If not, no love lost. Also, to comment on what you said to McNasty, although the writer decided she didn't want to sleep with him (she didn't know him to even want to) she wanted to get to know him. Isn't that what courtship/dating is all about? Of a woman should know after "hello" if they are going to sleep with the person... then cry the blues a day later when she finds out the guy's a straight fool.

Name: GoldenLady

Comment: McNasty, it is stupid and racist, whether it is golden or not. You have to be careful with all men, not just Nigerians or Africans. How 'nasty' it is to down your own race! I know Nigerians and Africans just opposite of what is described so I maintain that it is stupid...plain ignorant.

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