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Name: Story2tell

Comment: OK, the point of the article aside...if my friend knows I'm out of town and she calls my husband for a shoulder to cry on, especially at a vulnerable point in her own marriage...I'm going to have a problem with that "friend" and she is going to have to deal with me upon my return. Just my $.02

Name: domer

Comment: You know I read that as well and then re-read it. I decided that if there was something askew JCP would not have included it in the column. It may be that this woman just needed a place to calm down or it may be that the larger point was his reponse to a friend in need of help. I am also assuming this was more than some he said she said cry on the shoulder stuff. I mean why use the story if it was just some "drama."

Name: Calidee

Comment: Great article. When I first read this I thought it was strange that his wife's friend would go to her house when she was not in town. But after I thought about it, I questioned why I would think such action is wrong. All married men are not trying to "get with" their wife's friends and all women are not trying to "get with" their friend's husbands. I agree that the village should help marriages be successful. I think this can happen without people being judgemental or nosy.

Name: DreamSource

Comment: Great article! I, too, was leery of the friend's intentions. I think that Mr. Phillips was, too, based on how he described the scenario. The friend could've talked to a family member, another friend, contacted Mrs. Phillips on the phone, or her own husband. The unspoken rule of respect is that you return when your friend returns. Anyway, I wish that my ex had talked to me instead of everyone else. Regardless of that fact that I checked in with him regularly to ask if he was happy and getting what he needed/wanted from me, he lied. He had me thinking that everything was ok. Instead, he chose to take the advice of a friend that he had only known for two years: don't get married. What also got me was that this same friend went ahead and married his own long-term girlfriend who threatened to walk if he didn't propose, had already cheated on him twice, and didn't respect him. Now, all my ex has is his money and the goldiggers after it.

Name: Closet_Nerd_Girl

Comment: >DreamSource- Sounds to me like you got the better end of that deal. You're ex appears to be self-absorbed, weak and stupid. Do you really want to be married to someone like that anyway? His friend did you a favor. Count your blessings... I also thought this was a very good article. In today's world it is critical that we all do what we can to support marriage and building strong black families and communities. We must save ourselves. And sadly, in some cases, we have to save ourselves FROM ourselves.

Name: Kofi

Comment: I agree with the board on this one. The wife's friend coming over to "talk" would be a slippery slope indeed. I would suspect her motives. Having said that, I do agree that marriages do need support. That support could come in the form of a supportive ear to listen. JCP with all these great columns, I can no longer keep you in the Republican box. lol. Great work brotha.

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