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McNasty
Comment: If more females refused to get with males that weren't taking care of their kids, there might be more males stepping up. It's unacceptable to ask for another child and you're not responsible for the first child. Stick to your guns girl.
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4462DG
Comment: "Men have to be responsible for their children, and we have to be responsible enough to avoid men who avoid their children."
YES, YES, YES, YES, YES!!!!! So true, all she has is the man's side to this story in regards to seeing his daughter, what's the problem? not paying child support regularly, not responsible, if he's correct and all that, then what's the problem? Bro man may have more than one child, sometimes you don't find out until you get knocked up by him, don't do it!!!!
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dawnjamarown
Comment: I was in a similar situation. Dating a man who is older with 3 teen-age children. He expressed in the beginning that he didn't want anymore children. So I told him I'd never committ to him because of that. I knew what I wanted. Eventually, he began to tell me that he'd be willing to have another child when we marry. As the committment went on, he became unsure again. All I can say is that if she knows for sure that she doesn't want any other children, she should let him go and find a full life with someone else. But if she claims to love him so much she could look at other options, such as adopting a toddler.
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ATLGirl
Comment: Why consider adopting? This woman seems to want this man's child, not just another child. He doesn't want the responsibility of another child. He has a right to make that choice. Stop hoping he'll change he mind. On a related note, why don't more women listen to men when they talk? He said, he doesn't want anymore children. Period. Everything else is static.
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kady
Comment: ATLGirl> I think you misread the article, the man wanted to have another child, it was the woman that didn't want anymore children.
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ATLGirl
Comment: kady, your right, I did misread. 1. How about becoming a man's wife before having his children? 2. How about dating a father who fighs to see his children?
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MzTee
Comment: AC's advice is totally on point today. Why would anyone consider having a child by someone who isn't taking care of the child/children they already have? There is nothing attractive about a man who IS NOT handling his responsibilities. He needs to use the legal system to fight to see his child and then step up and be a father. And even if things don't work out between this young lady and her guy, if she doesn't want to have any more children SHE should remain firm in her resolve. The RIGHT man will respect her decision and not try to convince her otherwise.
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CILLA8192
Comment: All of ya'll are jumping all over this man but we don't really know the circumstances behind him not seeing his child. Now I know that is not an excuse and maybe after this young lady gets this advice she will help him to get visitation. Also in the letter she says that he was alright with not having the baby. So I get that he will be happy either way but she is the one confused and unsure if she should do it to make him happy or not when clearly he will be happy with either.
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queeniebunz
Comment: This chick is 29 with a 14 year old teenager? My goodness. How old is grandma, 43? Jeez. And as someone pointed out - he has "responsibility issues"? Translation - he doesn't handle his business. Why would you even think about reproducing with a man with the following circumstances: 1) he is younger than you and you are only 29, 2)you are not married to him, 3)you don't want anymore children, 4) he doesn't see the child he's got, 5) he cannot handle his business????? She needs to re-evaluate this situation completely before bringing another helpless little person (a baby)into it. And what about her daughter? What kind of example is she setting by being with a youngun' who can't handle his business? What is she going to learn from this - it's okay to be a teen mother and then have another child w/o the benefit of marriage? JEEZ!!!!! Come on, folks?! Think!!!
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ImJustAsking
Comment: Speaking as someone who is 24 and firmly believes women mature faster than men (although you couldn't tell from this adviceseeker), I would NOT be thinking about marrying this little fool. There is NO WAY to keep a man who wants to see a kid away from his child short of changing your name and leaving the country. If he wanted to see the child he could so nobody needs to here her ignorant excuses for him. And if he doesn't know how to go about the process, that's even more reason to leave his triflin azz alone. Perhaps she and this man don't argue b/c she is too accomodating. The fact that she would consider having another child when she made up her mind BEFORE she met him that she didn't want another child just shows how far she is willing to go for him. She's obviously not challenging him on anything. I'm sure if he was truly taking responsibility for the child he has he may find that HE doesn't want anymore children either.
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McNasty
Comment: I know too many men that have fought tooth and nail to be able to see their kids. It matters not a damn what the baby mamma wants, thinks or says if that child is important enough to a man he will move heaven and earth to see her/him. To keep making and accepting excuses on any level is just enabling and that doesn't help anybody.
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McNasty
Comment: Queeniebunz this chick was 15 when she had her daughter. It explains a lot cause at 29 with a kid you should be more grounded than she sounds. This woman needs to grow up a whole lot otherwise her daughter will surpass her in life.
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queeniebunz
Comment: >McNasty - I did my math. That is why I mentioned the age. If she HAD the baby at 15, then she probably got knocked up at 14 - her daughter's age. I'm thinking that if mommy doesn't grow up her daughter will repeat her mistake. And for anyone who objects to my calling it a mistake - having a baby before you can legally get a job (most places won't hire you until you are 16 for insurance reasons). Having a baby before you get a high school diploma IS A MISTAKE. Having a baby before you can legally vote IS A MISTAKE. Having a baby before you can legally drive a car alone IS A MISTAKE. Having a baby before you can have your own bank account IS A MISTAKE. If her daughter imitates mommy, she might be knocked up as we speak and that is sad.
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ImJustAsking
Comment: I had to say this, b/c I don't want to sound overly suspicious or ignorant, but I would think LONG AND HARD before I brought a man in his 20s into the house with my teen daughter...
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ImJustAsking
Comment: I meant to say, I HATE to say this...
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CILLA8192
Comment: Man you guys are being alittle harsh on this poor child. I have to give it to her yes she may be a statistic with having a child so young but come on we all know girls that usually have babies that young usually have more than just one. At least she is thinking about it and have not or not doing it at all. I can give her that much. She really does need to reevaluate the situation before going foward with this decision but most teen mothers would not even be looking for advice obviously this one has some sence. And I pray sence enough not to have a man who will even look at her child like any more than that a child.
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StopBeingIgnant
Comment: You bring up an excellent point, ImJustAsking. Talk about a red flag.
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Winn30344
Comment: I agree IJA. It's been too many instances here in GA where the mothers boyfriend was molesting the girlfriends teen daughter. Especially since the writer pointed out that he has a problem with "responsbility" which could mean alot of things.
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queeniebunz
Comment: >IJA - good point...
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WhatEva123
Comment: I would just like to say to all you hatin %*$ bytches on here kiss my azz. I am the one who wrote the post and let me clear some shyt up right quick. First and foremost I thought very long and hard before I even introduced this man to my child. Then I assured my child that she comes before anyone and if he steps out of line with her in any way then she is to tell me and he will be gone and beat the hell down. Then I turned to him and told him the same thing. Next I may be a teen mother but I am not a dumb mother. I love my child and tell her all the time that I love her and don't regret her but I wish I would have waited to have her. My child knows the consecuences of having a child at a young age. As for my man we are currently going to court for paternity and visitation once paternity is established. He pays child support. The part about him not being responsible had nothing to do with work, child, or money. It was more for the fact that he don't like to cook or clean but before you start hating he does do it. We will be married and then have the child if I choose so b/c he will be happy either way. Everytime I read this post someone mainly the same someones got something nasty to say like their life is so perfect when half you bytches probably teen mothers your selves. And to the person who said I should have thought long and hard before I allowed a 20 somthin man around my child so if he was 35 and I was 40 and had this same situation it would be okay STUPID. I make sure I screen every and any body before they come around my child so nothing like that will ever happen to her. I ask my daughter all the time how she feels about having this person around and her opinion about us marrying and having more children. Now I have already sent a response to AC that is similar to this one but I couldn't wait till next week for all ya'll who is hatin to see that yes I am happy and in a loving relationship and if I choose to have this man's child then that's my business. I only asked for advice just to see what type of feed back I will get but I see that I done asked a bunch of men bashers who are obviously unhappy either in there relationships, marriages, or it's just don't nobody want them that they have to hate on anyone elses happiness. So ya'll can all kiss my azz and stop hatin.
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CILLA8192
Comment: See everyone I told you, ya'll being alittle harsh on this girl. Sometimes you have to read between the lines not just what's in front of you. Wow she is MAD.
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ImJustAsking
Comment: Whateva< before you posted, I always wondered what the people who wrote in had to say about our comments. Now, I see. LMAO!!!!! Your post has me rolling b/c clearly we can only comment on the part of your story that was presented to us. As far as my comment about not bringing a 20 something into the house with a teenager, many times 20 something year olds date teens and think nothing of it. When I was 15 I went out with a 23 year old and he didn’t consider himself a molester, and many other guys his age wouldn’t have either. They rationalize it b/c, unfortunately, they may have many more things in common with a teen then someone who is 30 years old. It’s not like the case of a 35 year old dating a teen b/c in that situation there is no way that he can’t know he is wrong. Screening somebody is a moot point b/c the issue here is that there is no way to tell which is why it’s better to be safe than sorry. But please calm your nerves. We are in no way affecting your life by these comments so you don’t have to be abusing your keyboard like that. And if you do get the urge to bang on the keyboard, perhaps you could send your man an email encouraging him to spend some time with the child he already has.
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McNasty
Comment: A fool wrote to AC and a fool came to this board with the rest of her shat! You don't want to know what folk think you should have gone to your pastor with your concerns. What you wanted was our permission for you to fukk up something, now you're mad cause you didn't get it. I wish you well and hope that if you do marry that youngun he doesn't end up schtupping the both of you. By the way you don't have anything for most of us to hate on especially in light of the fact that you would write to an on line internet entertainment site for life advice.LMAO you sick puppy.
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mayday
Comment: Whateva123....very nice post and on point except for your use of the B word. However, you must remember the forum that you are speaking/typing in and know that you are setting yourself up for direct unsympathetic ridicule. I didn't find AC advice to be to harsh or to far off point (this time)and she didn't make the advice personal...she simply just gave it to you....now for some other posters that always have a story to tell pertaining to their own life or situation....that point is moot....it is not about them. If you had already made a decision to not have other children and you have a 14 year old (that child almost grown LOL)then stick with YOUR decision. If you decide to marry this man then you already have a toddler because his child will become your child. Also know that you cannot change or mold a man into what you want him to be....so if he has responsibility issues......
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Winn30344
Comment: LOL McNasty. Wish she'd wrote when AC use to be downright vulgar. Yeah nice post..lmbao!!
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WhatEva123
Comment: Thanks for your feed back but you know what most of you have it all wrong and are not reading the whole thing because didn't I say that we are in court trying to get visitation for his child it's not that he doesn't want to see his child it's that she won't let him and that is why we are using the court system. And yes I will accept his child as my own because she is not wrong anywhere in this whole situation. As for me being a fool whateva your opinion doesn't really matter and I see that although this is supposed to be for entertainment then maybe you need another hobbie because your always the first one on here saying something like you or your life is so perfect when in fact i'm sure it's not. So really whateva is my name and my attitude right now and if you don't like it to bad I'm gonna live my life and now I hope that AC doesn't post the response that I already made to her before reading your comments but if she does atleast that will give you nobodies something to talk about but i'm the fool LOL.
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dani
Comment: Ya know, she is a rare commodity in the dating market. A 30 year old female who doesn't really want another baby. Shoot! She needs to chuck that fool and find herself a man closer to or older than her who has also had enough children and live a happy life.
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CCAYE
Comment: I'm weighing in a little late today but that is absolutely the best advice I've seen you give in weeks! I've been married 19 years; I have a 22 year old son, my husband a 20 year old daughter. We also have children together. We were married 5 years before we had children together. I wanted to see how he took care of the daughter he already had. My son was 11 when we began having children together and it has worked out better than I could ever prayed for. You have to make sure a man can handle what he has already been blessed with to know that he can handle more...
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queeniebunz
Comment: I kinda thought/hoped the people who asked Advice Chick for advice were ficticious. But you are real. And angry. Wow. I'm thinking that if you are holding things down so well, why would you even have to ask ANYONE for advice, much less an advice columnist w/no clinical training who calls herself professionally a "chick"???...and that's not anything against AC. I know it's an entertainment thing and not anything that should be taken so seriously. There is a saying "you doth protest too much" and all of that. Why get mad at us if you have things so together? We only have the few pieces of information that you gave. Fact - you are dating a man younger than you, 28 yrs old or younger. They tend to be immature and irresponsible. Fact - you were a teen mother. Teen mothers statistically have a tendency to have daughters who become teen daughters. Fact - YOU said he has "responsibility issues". Hmmmm. That's all you said. We took it mean that he is not responsible. How would we know that it means we won't cook some dinner? Fact - he does not see his child but wants another one. Hmmmm. Fact - you mentioned having another child and did not mention marriage. Now, given all of that we came to some conclusions. You didn't like our conclusions. So be it. Nobody said you had to. Don't get mad at us for %*$essing your situation that YOU invited us into by writing to AC and we won't get mad at you for calling us female dogs. Wow...
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ImJustAsking
Comment: I didn't address the calling people a b!tch comment b/c she was talking to the hatin azz b!tches, not the basing-their-opinion-on-the-information-provided ladies like myself. CTFU
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McNasty
Comment: Then she wasn't talking to me either. But she was in her last post. This is one of my hobbies whateva - checking dumb chicks. If you've been reading this board you know I share some of my stories but it's obvious that I've lived a much different life than you (wasn't no pis s y smelling boy diggin' around in my behind at 14) and I don't have kids (by choice). My life is not perfect it is good and I work for that. I'll leave you with this post cause you're as young minded as that 21 year old you're trying to make into a man.
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WhatEva123
Comment: You know what queeniebunz (yeah you wish) anyway your right why should I be mad you mean nothing and neither does your comment. But since you think you know everything i'm gonna address you. OBVIOUSLY YOU DID NOT READ THE WHOLE POST BECAUSE FACT IS we have discussed marriage and he is trying to see his daughter for the fifth time. He can't just go over there and snatch the child without getting him into so kind of trouble then what good is he gonna be to his child then. FACT I also said he has no problem with waiting until marriage before we have a child. All i'm saying if your gonna voice your opinion on the facts get them right.
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4462DG
Comment: You said:
“As for my man we are currently going to court for paternity and visitation once paternity is established. He pays child support.”
OK, some women lie and say “the child is yours” when it isn’t. Did you put the issue that the child wasn’t his out there? Or did he wonder while he was paying the child support?
You said:
“We are in court trying to get visitation for his child it's not that he doesn't want to see his child it's that she won't let him and that is why we are using the court .”
What’s really going on here, if he’s saying the child isn’t his, then I can see why the baby mama won’t allow him to see the child!!!!! Sometimes things happen to children, when daddy has an issue paying child support.
No disrespect to you at all, but give this situation some time OK,(before marriage and baby making)be sure everything he saying is the truth. Good luck to you.
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WhatEva123
Comment: And for the rest of you he is not that much younger than me he is 23 and very responsible. He gets up and goes to work and school everyday and is trying to handle his business. And like I already said he does pay the court ordered child support and once he gets visitation he will continue to do more if that is not enough for you all to see that he may be young but very mature then oh well because I do have something better to do with my life then sit here and listen to some people who swear they have never needed ADVICE from an outside source before. Half of you on here probably done wrote to AC your damn selves just don't have the ballz to admit it. So this is all you will hear from me because honestly I regret ever asking anything and I have better things to do like spend time with my good man. Maybe if some of you all did the same you would have one to. FUKK WHAT YOU ALL THINK YOU AIN'T AND DON'T MEAN SHYT ANYWAY. Now have fun talking and even laughing about me if you want since that is the high light of your day maybe even your stupid miserable lives all of you be on here everyday yapping about nothing get a life.
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WhatEva123
Comment: 4462DG I read your post after writing the one above. Thanks for your concern. But no I'm not the one who put it in his head. He has always had that dougt. Being that the child is only 1 he'd rather get it out now then down the line. But since there is a chance this child may be his he has no problem paying for her and that is why he wants to spend time with her now so he doesn't miss out on anything else with her just incase. He will never mistreat the child. The mother should know there is a question of paternity when they where never in a relationship. But believe me I did all my research about everything before agreeing to even sleep with this man I have to protect myself as well as my child and my heart.
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ImJustAsking
Comment: whateva< I know you don't want anymore advice. But 23 is WAY YOUNG. And certainly way younger than 29! I'm not saying it can't work out but dayum I hated dating 23 year olds when I was 23 and that was last year! A change takes place in your life between that age and 25-26, I'm going through it right now, and you went through it as well. So can't you understand why people would say, be careful with that? I don't feel like that's hating, that's just an observation based on what we know about the average 23 year old man. If anything, it's helpful b/c we're probably reaffirming something you are already thinking about.
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queeniebunz
Comment: You are funny! Here is some personal info for you that's not really your business but I don't mind sharing cuz it's harmless. My brothers used to call me "queeniebunz" because they thought I hogged the bathroom when we were younger - and I did! You are reading way too much into a silly annoying childhood nickname...As for reading your letter, which is what I was originally commenting on, you didn't call this dude your fiance. You only said you have talked about marriage and you didn't elaborate that you were going to wait to have the baby. But anyway, good luck to you and your boy-man and his responsibility issues, and his "mama's baby daddy's maybe" baby chissup issues. And in case you don't know what "chissup" is, that is the abbreviation for child support that will appear on his checks somewhere near FICA when his baby-mama garnishes his wages IF the kid is his and if he has a job. You did say you didn't have drama, right? You are getting way too mad for someone who has things together. Besides, you are right. You don't owe me or anyone else an explanation about your life. What you need to think about is this - who are you trying to convince? Us - a bunch of people you don't know and have never seen and will probably never meet? Or yourself?...Hmmmmm
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MzTee
Comment: I know reading is fundamental, but in the original letter AC posted there was NO mention of old boy going to court or paying child support. As others have written, we only commented on what was stated in the letter. Lord knows my life ain't perfect and I ain't never tried to act like it is. WhatEVA123...there was no need to call folks out of their names and blast them for opinions based on the information you provided. Now that you've come on the comment board, we find out there is more information to the story. Had that information been included or printed in the original post, the tone of the opinions others offered in the feedback may have been different. You're a grown woman and are going to make whatever decision you think is right for you...so chill out and take the opinions for what they are opinions and keep it moving. Because if you really didn't care what folks thought, I don't think you would have taken the time to write to AC NOR checked the feedback. Honey folks are NOT hating, just offering opinions which is your choice to take or to leave.
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queeniebunz
Comment: >IJA - You are right. 23 is way young. You don't know anything at 23, especially nowadays when you don't have to because parents now baby their kids so much. And young men are naturally immature anyway. Whew...
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WhatEva123
Comment: MZTEE; Thanks but have you been reading the same post as me. Even when all the info is provided the same people who be on here every day all have something negative to say so that is why I tripped. It was mainly the comments about my child I don't play about her and noone has the right to even mention her she really had nothing to do with this but like they do every tues. and thurs. they start something. Yes I can admit the I read AC but look back into the archives and tell me when I have ever posted negativity b/c that is what 90% of the people on here do and some people like my self may take it seriously until they calm down and realize that these opinions will not effect their life in anyway.
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McNasty
Comment: MzTee you rock!
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CILLA8192
Comment: Wow I missed alot why did I sign off. Oh well seems like this chick is gonna do whateva regarless so why even ask for advice. Can't wait to see if AC will post the new one to see how she be defending this man this time.
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Exmun
Comment: WhatEva123, here are my stats before I even talk about your situation so you know where I'm coming from. I'm male, married (9 years), 33 yrs old, 2 children both girls (4, and 2.5 months). I'm a professional. My wife is also. I have no children outside of my marriage that I'm either aware of or have even the most remote reason to believe are mine. I did fine with the ladies prior to marriage (several girlfriends), but my life was not what one may have called the life of a "player." Personally, as the father to girls, I think it's a mistake to have a man 9 years older than your 14 year old daughter in the house. Love, in its infancy is passionate, and that may explain your need to justify to such a far extent your relationship (my opinion). But facts are facts, adolescents/teenagers are going through a lot of hormonal and social development. Young men in their twenties are also going though a lot of development, and are at the height of their sexual prowess. Even the most mature 23 year old man (which I considered myself to be prior to marriage) has a lot of growning up to do. Bottom line, there's a lot of hormones raging in that household, and I (personally) wouldn't tempt fate to see if your house will survive. Seven to ten will make "all the world" for this man. It doesn't mean that he would be less likely to molest your kid (if he was so inclined anyway), but his maturity in those 7 year WILL prevent you from being a victim of a chance encounter with your daughter ... which a lot of twenty somethings are more likely to have (let's keep it real) than say a more mature thirty something. Your age difference would have been an issue in and of itself even without your daughter. I just think with your 14 year old daughter, you're really playing Russian Roulette with your life and your daughter's life. I don't know your man. But I suspect that he will be fully grown in about 5-7 years. My suggestion... let that bun fully cook, before you have it for dinner. In the end, I'm sure that you'll do "you." So much success to you.
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WhatEva123
Comment: Exmun; I understand where your coming from. However I was not trying to let it all out of the bag because if AC prints my next post then it's gonna be simular, but he was already married before to a much older woman. He is not the type of man who plays either, he is looking for a serious relationship. I watch the way he and my child interact together and I am not the least bit worried. What I don't understand is how just because he is 23 he has the potencial to molest my child. But if this was a older man it would be okay and I shouldn't worry. Let me reassure you I would never put my child in a position like that. And if it's any concellation my older brother her uncle also lives in the home so you see they never have a chance to be alone together of anything. But even if they were I would not worry or even have that on my mind. Now I am not being nieve about this either it's that I know my child she is not even thinking about sex or non the less sex with my man. This is one of the luxuries of being a teen mother. I and my child have a very close relationship and talk about everything. I know alot of you probably don't believe that but she totally trusts me and I the same with her. She is also very mature for her age. Oh and I know what the lot of you are thinking all the more reason to worry no. By saying that she is mature for her age I mean we together have been through alot in life and I don't hide anything from her. Like I said she knows the concequences of sex, having a child at a young age, etc. As far as her letting any man take advantage of her it will not happen she knows she is first and foremost and she also knows how to defend herself. Besides that I know that my man loves me and is happy and satified with me. Besides we have been together for about 1 years and not once has he stepped out of line with my child.
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queeniebunz
Comment: 23 and has "already been married to a much older woman"????? WHAT??!!!! It just gets better and better...
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McNasty
Comment: LMAO@Queeniebunz - girl you caught that too?! This is a total recipe for disaster. He's not looking for a wife - he's looking for a suga momma and appears to be willing to keep testing the waters!
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WhatEva123
Comment: QUEENIEBUNZ; AND U CONTINUE TO PROVE THAT U HAVE NOTHIN BETTER 2 DO.
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WhatEva123
Comment: But I will indulge. Yes a much older woman he was married at 17 to 21 had a child that passed away and everything. I believe she was about 23 when they got married so if anyone was molested or taken advantage of. And i'm sure your wondering but she ended the marriage he would have stood married but she slept with his uncle after the death of their child and now lives with the uncle. So this is why I say he is mature and has been through alot in life. To loose a child is something I could never even think that I can survive but he did and now this other chick is trying to keep this baby away too how fair is that. But i'm sure you QUEENIEBUNZ will have something cute and sarcastic to say about the whole situation.
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WhatEva123
Comment: McNasty; for your information did I not say he works and goes to school. He also hands over the whole paycheck every week and lets me decide how to dispense it so WHATEVA.
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ImJustAsking
Comment: whateva< girlllllllll I suggest you stop now, cause telling somebody that a man who is spose to be grown let's some woman he ain't even married to decide when and how his money is spent makes him sound even worse. I think this conversation would flow more smoothly if you didn't sound so angry, although I do realize it's hard to convey emotion over typefont.
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CILLA8192
Comment: MAN It's gettin serious out here you guys got this girl pulling out everything why is she on here telling all this personal stuff about her man to a bunch of strangers. I could have sworn she said she was done why she still on here defending get over it honey, it's done. It sure is entertaining though.
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WhatEva123
Comment: I didn't mean it like that or am I angry anymore. But she try to say like i'm taking care of him. Whateva his ex did is her business, my momma (r.i.p.) taught me well. And let me to certainly not let no man live off you. But she also taught me not to be totally dependant on a man either. But hey when bills need to be paid he need to hand over the dough. But he ain't no punk in the least he just knows how to treat a woman.
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CILLA8192
Comment: IMJUSTASKING; You are so crazy but true. She really need to stop.
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Name:
WhatEva123
Comment: Cilla; Now see you need to mind your business. I was alright with you until you got to say some negative shyt. Anyhow this is just a way to make my work day go faster now. Like I said before ya'll opinions really don't matter. It is very entertaining for me to just to see how many people out there are so pathetic. Two inparticular, about to be three you keep talking.
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queeniebunz
Comment: Thank you, Whateva - you have just helped me shape a character for one of my stories...by all means, tell us more. You can't make up stuff like this! Married to "an older woman" 23 to his 17, who slept w/his UNCLE (probably a more appropriate age) and if I do the math, isn't this older woman YOUR AGE? If she was 23 to his 17 then she is 29, too, right? And he gives you his check. So he moved out from mama's house and in with wifey and then left her at the ripe old age of 23 and now he's shacked up with you. This cat has got it made...he needs to apply for a job at Playa University and teach "How to Pimp a Suga Momma 101" cuz he's good. I can just picture his fine lil self. Sittin' on the couch in front of the TV in a wifebeater and some boxers eating a bowl of cereal with half his hair platted and half out cuz he's taking it out so you can braid it when you get home from work. You and your daughter get ready for school and he's watching The Tyra Banks Show, about to play his PS2 or does he have an X Box?...yeah, you've got it made, honey. We should all be jealous.
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CILLA8192
Comment: WOW I guess I really hit a nerve. But hey I really don't have much to do on this tgif so if I can sit here and laugh at your dumb azz then so be it. COME ON PLEASE RESPOND I WANT TO BE PART OF THE LOSER CREW TO, LOL.
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ImJustAsking
Comment: whateva< whew *wipes forehead* I thought you were gonna say FOUR. LMAO I've been nice right?
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Name:
ImJustAsking
Comment: whoa whoa whoa whoa...whateva< did you say y'all already live together? Let me scroll up.
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Name:
WhatEva123
Comment: Stupid all of you especially QUEENIEBUNZ (LOSER). Like I said he was 21 when he got divorced so which means he was already seperated for awhile. And I also said I believe that she was 23 at the time and alittle more info mama hasen't been there for him either. Yet he still goes to SCHOOL & WORKS and has never been to jail or any thing so you try to make him look any way you want. Oh and by the way he doesn't own any video games he is to busy studying on his spare time to waist time on that or anything else like oh lets say sitting on a column all day probably in your bathrobe with your six kids running around asking for some food but your fat azz is to busy on here giving your opinion to get up and get them some thing to eat so you just sit them down in front of their babysitter the tv and walk you azz in the kitchen and stuff something in your fat mouth.
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Name:
WhatEva123
Comment: Imjustasking; Your nothing that's why you have gone unoticed.
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Name:
CILLA8192
Comment: This girl is really mad damn maybe we should leave her alone. Don't cry of nothing girl.
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Name:
ImJustAsking
Comment: whateva< unnoticed by whom? You know the more you type, the more I think this young man may be in an abusive relationship. CTFU Please tell him I said he is young and he should get out while there's time left.
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Name:
WhatEva123
Comment: What gives you that idea. No actually I am usually a very nice person until I encouter dumb bytches like you shut up hoodrat.
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Name:
CILLA8192
Comment: IMJUSTASKING; You are hilarious but she probably do beat on him. I mean she sound like she likes raising men. I can just wonder what her past relationships were like.
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Name:
WhatEva123
Comment: I should have said hoodrats cause here comes this one with her stupid azz remarks. CILLA you best watch out cause you getting to QUEENIEBUNZ statis.
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Name:
CILLA8192
Comment: OOOH and what you gonna come through the computer screen and cause me bodily harm. Unlike you honey I could care less about what a stranger on some gossip column could say about me. This is just fun as hell.
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Name:
ImJustAsking
Comment: CILLA< yeah girl, but then again, a lot of women who are angry like this don't take it out on the man. They tend to take it out on EVERYONE else but him. I work with a girl like that. Whateva< I know you were referring to me as a hood rat and a dumb bytch but b/c I know who I am (and like who I am) I really don't feel offended by that. Perhaps if you had a better perception of who you are, you wouldn't feel the need to defend yourself either.
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queeniebunz
Comment: Ms. Whateva - you are making my freakin day! I hope you are just "funnin'" us because if you aren't - WOW!...oh, and if you are gonna call people losers, at least proofread your comments. You cannot "waist" your time because it's a body part, not a verb and you can't be "nieve" because it's not a word but you can be naive and you can't be "seperated" but you can be separated and you can't be "dependant" because it's a noun but you can be dependent and you can't have "potencial" but you can have potential...it's called spell check, honey. Indulge yourself...If you are going to call people names at least do it intelligently...and if you are gonna keep putting all of your business out in the street don't get mad when people trip off it...Cuz believe me, I'm trippin! TGIF!!!
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queeniebunz
Comment: And I do thank you for giving me such high status in this discussion. The others can only hope and dream to reach my status in your eyes...You are threatening complete strangers with what? More mean words? Baby girl, you are a hot mess. Truly.
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YLawdY
Comment: WhatEva123 ....I'm jumping in all late, but I'm going to try to express what that mean, ignant azz IJA is trying to say. I'm sure your honey is a nice person that means well, loves you and sincerely believes all the things he thinks he stands for. However, he is 23. Though he may have been through some hard things in his short life, he isn't seasoned or reasoned yet. Marriage, a ready made family and the possibility of a new baby IMO is too much for a 23 year old male, working full time, going to school and having a custody issue. By all means keep the man you love and who loves you. I would advise making this a long engagement to give you both time to make better informed decisions. BTW, yes an older man could very well be a molester. I don't think the posters were saying he would molest your daughter, just that because of the proximity in age and general maturity levels of SOME young men, it would be easier for a "mutual" attraction to develope between the two as a 14 year old is not going to see a 23 year old as a father figure. Might be hard to keep the boundaries clear. That's what IJA an nem was trying to say. LOL
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Name:
YLawdY
Comment: queeniebunz ...it aint nice to be picking on people's grammar and diction and stuff. Just cause Mo Kelly let you guest in his column don't make you all that. You make typo's too. CTFU
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Name:
ImJustAsking
Comment: YlawdY< Thank you...I think. Maybe if I was MUCH MUCH MUCH MUCH older, like you, I could have expressed myself in a more articulate and mature manner.
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Name:
queeniebunz
Comment: >YLawdY - there you go. I didn't say anything about any article. I was getting tired of seeing the language mangled from the perspective of a former teacher. And, I was saying that if you are going to insult people at least don't look like an idiot in the process. Such hostility from you and on a Friday 2 hrs from quitting time...
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Name:
YLawdY
Comment: ImJustAsking ....I don't even have to say anything...you know the words that come next.
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Name:
YLawdY
Comment: queeniebunz ...I'm not hostile. I'm much too mellow on this fine Friday for such foolishness. I'm having fun. BTW..I liked your article and there's room in this world for idiots too....ask ..... LOL
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Name:
queeniebunz
Comment: >YlawdY - and it's payday, too?...that's what I'm talking about...but why do the last 2 hours go by so SLOWLY?!!!....Dang!!!!...Come on, Ms. Whateva. Insult me some more and make the time go by...
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Name:
McNasty
Comment: Queeniebunz I was gonna let this child know if she was going to keep calling y'all names and shat the least she could do was spell check her post.LMAO I can't believe she places so much store in what has been said especially after she said she wasn't coming back. You know since she has another post coming next week, y'all better save some.
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Name:
CILLA8192
Comment: IJA; Very good point she probably wants to beat his azz sometimes but because she fears him she has to take it out on everyone else.
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Name:
CrzyLdy16
Comment: HAHA, thank you all for the laugh! But on a serious note- is the 23 year old looking for a mama?
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Name:
WhatEva123
Comment: Okay I have dragged this out way to long but you guys are really gullible. I don't even have a man let alone a 14 yr. old child. It's just that Iv'e been reading AC's column lately and it's been so boring. So I figured I spice it up alittle I'm saying she's even been having repeats so I threw something fresh in the water. Now I did respond to her and I wasn't expecting it to get this out of hand but hey all in good fun. The situation that I mentioned is something simular to what a friend of mine is really going through, except the 14 yr. old daughter. Instead she has a 5yr old and he does have a 2yr old and they are about the same age he is just alittle older then her. He does want more kids and she isn't sure if she does right yet. They have been together for about 2yrs i'm not completely sure, but they are engaged and will be married next summer. The other things that I put in some of the posts were references to thing that some people that I know have gone threw. I really did have a friend who married a much younger boy and they did lose a child. My mother is truly passed away also. SO SORRY TO EVERYONE ESPECIALLY QUEENIEBUNZ. But you have to admit you were the most gullible in this you fell for it girl McNasty & Cilla more toward the end but I AM SORRY FOR CALLING YA'LL OUT YA'LL NAMES JUST KIDDING. Hey maybe I can publish this shyt and make some money. Ya'll have to admit it did help the last couple of days go by quick, and that's good to because my workload is picking back up next week so thanks to everyone for their opinion good or bad. AND IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE ME NOW OR THEN WHATEVA!!! GOT YA LOL.
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Name:
CILLA8192
Comment: AW HELL TO DA NA! I really thought this chick was serious. What does everyone think she bullsh!ttin now or was before. Give me some feed back cause I just don't know now. But she did have a point AC has been off her game a little lately.
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Name:
ImJustAsking
Comment: Whateva< personally, I’m glad if the story is not true. Because regardless of whether you wrote AC in gest or in regard to your own situation or someone else’s, judging by your cumulative posts, YOU PERSONALLY should NOT be raising a child. Not even a 23 year old one. However, call me a gullible dumb hoodrat bytch, but I find it hard to believe that you would come on this board and type heartfelt soliloquy after soliloquy just to pass the time away. But, If you would, once again, please do not have any children.
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Name:
McNasty
Comment: Whateva reminds me of the other silly female that told of the basketball player and the almost beat down she got. Both lack the intelligence to spin a yarn for the purpose of entertainment. Whateva, it's your life but understand that I don't take the posters too seriously so for damn sure anyone writing to AC is strictly entertainment to me!
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Name:
McNasty
Comment: Y'all have a good weekend cause McNasty is out.
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Name:
WhatEva123
Comment: IJA; Fukk you I said that I don't have a 14yr old but never said I don't have any kids. I do have a baby and I know that I am a good mother to my child. My job is very boring and I really did make this stuff up. I am a good faker come on I don't even know any of ya'll why should I care what you think. And for your info like I said before whether or not you believe me WHATEVA!
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Name:
WhatEva123
Comment: FUKK MCNASTY TO;
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Name:
ImJustAsking
Comment: whateva< your language is very harsh, how old is your child? Was her first word one with four letters?
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Name:
WhatEva123
Comment: No you dumb bytch it wasn't I can refrain from using this type of language around my child. It just dumb bytches like you that gets me going. Look I guess some of the things that I said on here was true as far as someone not having a life. You even made sure to offend me when I didn't mention you. How PATHETIC is that.
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Name:
queeniebunz
Comment: I was about to exhale (whew!) but then you said you reproduced...you sure were awful mad for somebody making stuff up. All that pent up anger. Glad you got it out...Y'all have a good weekend...
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Name:
McNasty
Comment: No thank you, I don't do funky azz females. Whateva you kiss your kid with that nasty mouth?!
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