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Name: queeniebunz

Comment: I am getting very tired of this conversation. All this concentration on finding a man. One's purpose in life shouldn't be finding a man. We were put here by God for an individual purpose - to create, to cure, to help, to educate or whatever. Why are we as black women so desperate/pressed/obsessed with finding a man? Especially when Biblically he is supposed to find us? Jeez but I'm tired of this!

Name: thebaddestchick

Comment: Yeah but a woman needs to put herself in the position to be found. I mean alot of women need to get right so when Boaz come she can be ret to go with him. You got women with their long list for a man, but when the man comes what is getting in a mate? God meant for us to have companionship, but there are alot of jezebel and delilah spirits in black women that they are content with.

Name: McNasty

Comment: Co sign Queenie, good point baddestchick. The fact that women want men to be attracted to them but put out the wrong message leaves them alone and lonely. For the record, God does not send men to women He works with you on self to put yourself in a position to attract a man. But if you think you're fine just the way you are rest assured that the men you've always attracted are the men you will continue to attract.

Name: ss69054

Comment: This is a very serious issue going on. I was on the plane the other day coming from the Black MBA Conference held in Atlanta and one of the big issues going on with successful Black women was being without a man or family. This same topic we were discussing. It is good to see our women prospering professionally and financially but can that really bring us joy? Alot of women are so successful and into themselves where they forget to live. Many Black women's perceptions has got to change including the nice-nasty atttitude that some of us carry. Men are not going to be interest in a sista who got the big head and who is cocky and arrogant. Very big turn off. I've seen alot of that over the weekend. Many are truly faking the funk. Alot of times, I look at the moments when I was young and the women in my community would say go to college and make something out of yourself and don't depend on any man to take care of you. Well, I am sure plenty of us have heard that same message from an older sista and it sure is true. What they didn't teach us is how to balance our life. Black women need to start prepping their girls at an early stage so that they can have a well-balanced life instead of teaching them just how to get by in life. Changes in the way how we do things is a must in order fr us to survive in this century. Women and men need companionship. It should be a basic need in anyone's life. There is no balance of livelyhood if you just go to work and make the money and can't enjoy your successes with anyone. I am not trying to say that you got to have a man in a desperate measure but sistas need to have a balance in life. Also, women need to stop being so needy. There are alot of delilahs and jezebels in the church opening their legs to every Tom, Dick and Jerry and then of course the Pastor of the church. Also, alot of our Black men are so far behind in every aspect of life and sometimes it is hard to initiate even a conversation when they can't even relate. But then, we need to re-evaluate the long list of a superficial man that we all dream about and get someone who shares a common ground. We also need to support our men in their endeavors instead of critizing and nagging them. And lastly, sistas may have to be open to dating interacially. I know some of you are cringing but love comes in different colors. Last but least, develop a strong relationship with God. Too many of us are "churchgoers" instead of "believers". Believers are winners at every point in life.

Name: rikyrah

Comment: Could you leave a note where one can buy this documentary on DVD?

Name: lucigo

Comment: There is a lot of blame toward the women in these posts. I look around and I don't see a bunch of black women with hostile attitudes toward men. Singleness among Christian black women is just a big a problem for the black female social workers and teachers as it is for the vice presidents of companies. It's also just a big problem for the women who are more passive in their demeanor. The fact is that there just aren't enough black men to go around abd men of other racial groups do not tend to choose black women. Frankly, many black women will have to face the fact that they are not getting married even though they may be attractive, outgoing, friendly, etc. I used to wonder why this issue was never discussed in groups of white Christian women and then I realized that it wasn't discussed because it wasn't a problem they faced.

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