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*As you go throughout the week that we celebrate our Independence as a Nation, please understand this one thing on a personal level; hurt people, hurt people. I say this because it will allow you to understand not to take things so personal as many people have. This sort of thing happens all the time, and many of you may be like me, I'm one who can be quite retaliatory when someone does or says something that offends me. I am, personally, working on my tongue constantly because I refuse to allow others to get away with anything when it comes to either "telling me off" or trying to manipulate situations to end up on top! I can't explain what happens to me but I totally lose my cool, send an email to voice my anger, or will flat-out call and tell the person myself!
Now, what I should do when hurt people hurt me? First and foremost, you have to keep your mind focused on the bigger picture. The bigger picture has nothing to do with the insecurities of those who try to hurt you. Furthermore, you have to understand that the attack is not personal; that there are other issues involved that need to be addressed that is causing them to attack you.
The second thing you have to do is remember that everybody hasn't been called to walk where you have been called to walk. You can’t allow yourself to get distracted with minute issues that people bring your way. It’s a set up to get you to take your eyes off of the prize of the higher calling“ THE BIG PICTURE. It's hard to do but with all that's in you, you have to go for the gold! Strive to do greater! Determine within yourself to achieve greatness, do not, by any means settle with mediocrity. For those who are walking with the Lord, it is said in the word of God that you would endure many trials and tribulations so you have to be of good cheer because in the end, if you do not lose heart, you will reap a wonderful harvest.
The third thing is that you and have to understand that they don't mean to hurt you but they can't help themselves because they have obviously either refused to admit that they've been hurt and have problems trusting, which cause them to do crazy and stupid things which offend you or they know that they're hurt but they don't want to accept the fact and strive for inner healing.
Either way it goes, understand that hurt people hurt people! In order to NOT become someone who hurts others, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE make sure you deal with the insecurities you have and free yourself from the dependance on others. Confront your fears and make a clean break otherwise you will open yourself up to becoming the very thing that you hate. I challenge you to make this Independance Day mean something!
Now that's real talk!
Pastor Rich aka B.Real, AMERICA'S YOUTH PASTOR, has become a potent voice to this present-day fatherless generation. He is driven by his passion to cover the youth and young adults of this nation and to bridge the gap of understanding between the Civil Rights Generation and the Hip Hop Generation by placing an emphasis on dialogue, patience and understanding on BOTH sides. He recently completed his first book, The Diary of a Priest, where he takes the reader on a candid journey inside his mind and life, revealing his personal day-to-day struggles and triumphs, while concurrently, refusing to deny his call to the Priesthood. Preparations are now underway for the book's tentative fall 2006 release. Please visit his blog site at http://reallyfe.blogspot.com .