Dear Advice Chick,
*I have a problem, I have a friend that we've been friends since we were 6 yrs old, now we are both 32, my problem is that every time she has a problem I am there for her, morning noon and night/midnight whenever. When I have a problem or situation she cuts me off when I’m speaking like she doesn’t want to hear what I have to say. She never gives advice when I need it.
What do you think I need to do or should do? I don’t want our friendship to be over but it really bothers me when I want to talk to someone and or talk to her and she’s not there for me like I’m there for her. Hook a sister up!
Advice Chick replies,
Long ago and oh so far away … she may have been your friend. Now, she seems to be more of an acquaintance. Then again, maybe she is your friend, but just doesn’t know how to be a friend. Sometimes people think since they have known you all your life they are your friend. Not necessarily true.
Friends care about each other. Acquaintances care about themselves. Maybe, just maybe she isn’t aware of her selfish behavior. I say, talk to her about this when you don’t have an issue. Ask her if she is aware that she cuts you off, and makes you feel like she is uninterested in your problems. Let her know you confide in her because you trust her as a friend, but if you have it twisted for her to let you know – woman to woman.
Recently I read an article that stated, most of us only have one or two REAL friends IF we’re lucky. So, if she keeps acting up - keep your situations to yourself, and stop listening to hers. Then – get out and about, start mixing & mingling, and make some new friends.
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