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(March 14, 2006)
I can't believe Gedeon was sent home last week! Advice Chick what do you think happened?
Advice Chick replies,
I used to love Idol and now I am boycotting it. While I am sick to death of Randy (what’s up Dog), Paula (you are really great), and Simon (if I can be honest, that was awful), I loved watching the talent portion of the show.
Gedeon was the only African American male contestant, and the only male contestant with true talent. The brother can saaang! Was he a little too confident? Perhaps, but what is a man without confidence in himself? He is talented, he knows he is talented, and many of us couldn't stand it. So ... instead of voting for the brother with the real talent, we voted for Ace with his weak-ass rendition of Butterflies. We voted for Chicken-little with his laughable-at-best vocals. We voted for anyone and everyone except the man who actually deserved our votes because he vocalized his opinion of having "it."
Gedeon does have it and he deserves a record deal. The twins got one, I'm sure he will get one too.
Gedeon went home last Thursday because he had the second lowest number of votes and that is a shame. I think it was Mase who said, "You’d rather see me die than see me fly ..." and unfortunately, in many cases, that is true.
Dear Advice Chick,
I have been seeing a man for 2 years, we never really classified our relationship, but we got into it once and he claimed it was over. I was confused because I never knew we had a relationship for it to be over. I was one of the women that played it cool and let our relationship be what it was which I thought was just a special friendship. I had feelings for him but played it cool & acted like it was not a big deal & played it off good for a year. When we have sex it’s always very passionate & feels like there is more than just a sexual connection. When he kisses me he kisses me extremely passionate & I can always tell when he gets really into me because he then starts to kiss me very deep and holds me very close & tight. I love this & am no longer able to hold my feelings back although I am not really going forward with them. What I need to know is some friends tell me a man does not really kiss a women he only considers a fast F*&k. Is this true? How can I tell if he has feelings for me? I love the way he makes me feel & he always makes reference to if we were together, but should I let it go?
Advice Chick replies,
When a man tells you its over, even if it was never really on – believe him. It can feel like there is more than a sexual connection and still be JUST a sexual connection. What else did the two of you do? If you were more that a fu*k to him you and he would do things other than have sex. Some men go down on prostitutes, so why wouldn’t they slob down the benefits-booch?
If he had feelings for you he would be wooing you and trying to win you over instead of trying to shake you like a bad habit. Baby girl, when its right you don’t have to play it cool. When it’s right you don’t have to pretend it’s not a big deal. When it’s right he will want you and you won’t have to ask a soul. You will have a glow on your face instead of tears in your eyes and doubt in your mind.
He claims it’s over, so let this thing be over! The next time he calls you looking for benefits tell him to call the H.R. department at his J.O.B!
Coming Thursday!
“What kind of advice can you give to black men who so badly want to be with black women?”
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