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(May 9, 2006)
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Dear Advice Chick,
What is wrong with men in today’s world? I met this guy from Nigeria near my home, coming out of the store. When I was walking into the store; I really didn’t notice him coming out…but he noticed me. So, when he worked up the nerves to ask me my name and telephone number; in which I did give “my cell number”.
Not within seconds he called me and he was really on my coat tail. So you know me by being a women I let him chase me for a couple days. I finally did decided to call him, and the conversation was going really cool. UNTIL….he kept stating that “trust me you are going to like me, trust me.” And me knowing myself, and dealing with men in the past “trust me you’re not getting this” I am saying this to myself. Two weeks has gone by and I decided to meet up with him in an open space “Nigerians” I had to be safe…. It turns out since I wasn’t putting out, he decide that we should not talk anymore! I am totally cool with it, but why did men think that they can have there cake and eat it too!?
I am outdated with men who only want one thing; would you please give me some suggestions on where I could meet different men other than the store?
Advice Chick replies,
Many women put out immediately; so many men have come to expect it. If I’ve said it once I’ve said it 1000,000 times – ladies, stop leading with your na-na! Men know that if they can’t get laid by one, they’ll get laid by another. If we all stop being so casual with our sexuality men will have to get right, or get a blow-up doll.
The guy you met at the store kept saying, “Trust me”. Your response could have been, “why? Why should I, “trust you” when I don’t even know you? Girl you did the right thing by leaving him alone.
So – where can you meet men? I suggest going to places that are not “usual.” If you do usual things, you meet usual people. Does your location have the “Time Out” magazine? It lists hundreds of unique events weekly. The following places are usually frequented by men who have something going for them. I’m in Chicago, so some of these places may not be nationwide. Stop by these, or similar places two to four times weekly. Notice the men, and hopefully they’ll notice you too! Remember; please leave the attitude (IF you have one) at home.
Make sure you’re looking good, ok? Put some effort into looking effortlessly nice! Have some personal cards (1.) on hand so you don’t have to search for a pen and paper when you are approached by someone.
Starbucks, Caribou Coffee (and local upscale coffee houses)
Political Events
Popular Plays
Art Galleries
Museums
Book Signings
Lectures
Jamba Juice
Corner Bakery (and local small sandwich shops)
Potbelly’s
Borders Books
Flat Top Grill
Chipotle
Burrito Beach
Cheesecake Factory
Upscale Bowling Alley
Movie Theater
Social Networking Events
(1.) Personal Cards
Like business cards, but printed with your name, cell phone number, and/or email address only.
Not within seconds he called me and he was really on my coat tail. So you know me by being a women I let him chase me for a couple days. I finally did decided to call him, and the conversation was going really cool. UNTIL….he kept stating that “trust me you are going to like me, trust me.” And me knowing myself, and dealing with men in the past “trust me you’re not getting this” I am saying this to myself. Two weeks has gone by and I decided to meet up with him in an open space “Nigerians” I had to be safe…. It turns out since I wasn’t putting out, he decide that we should not talk anymore! I am totally cool with it, but why did men think that they can have there cake and eat it too!?
I am outdated with men who only want one thing; would you please give me some suggestions on where I could meet different men other than the store?
Advice Chick replies,
Many women put out immediately; so many men have come to expect it. If I’ve said it once I’ve said it 1000,000 times – ladies, stop leading with your na-na! Men know that if they can’t get laid by one, they’ll get laid by another. If we all stop being so casual with our sexuality men will have to get right, or get a blow-up doll.
The guy you met at the store kept saying, “Trust me”. Your response could have been, “why? Why should I, “trust you” when I don’t even know you? Girl you did the right thing by leaving him alone.
So – where can you meet men? I suggest going to places that are not “usual.” If you do usual things, you meet usual people. Does your location have the “Time Out” magazine? It lists hundreds of unique events weekly. The following places are usually frequented by men who have something going for them. I’m in Chicago, so some of these places may not be nationwide. Stop by these, or similar places two to four times weekly. Notice the men, and hopefully they’ll notice you too! Remember; please leave the attitude (IF you have one) at home.
Make sure you’re looking good, ok? Put some effort into looking effortlessly nice! Have some personal cards (1.) on hand so you don’t have to search for a pen and paper when you are approached by someone.
Starbucks, Caribou Coffee (and local upscale coffee houses)
Political Events
Popular Plays
Art Galleries
Museums
Book Signings
Lectures
Jamba Juice
Corner Bakery (and local small sandwich shops)
Potbelly’s
Borders Books
Flat Top Grill
Chipotle
Burrito Beach
Cheesecake Factory
Upscale Bowling Alley
Movie Theater
Social Networking Events
(1.) Personal Cards
Like business cards, but printed with your name, cell phone number, and/or email address only.
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