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Dear Advice Chick,
*I am writing to you because I am up against a brick wall. I really like this guy that I recently started dating. He is so considerate, such a gentleman, and super fine. I haven't felt like this since....well since I have been completely grown and on my own. I am a 26 year old, successful black woman, no kids, Masters Degree, my own house and car and a very demanding job that pays a lot of money. I feel I deserve someone who can keep up. This guy that I have completely fallen for is the same age, has a 5 year old son, lives with his mother, works part-time but "looking" for full-time, and says he wants to settle down.
I also think he may have a problem with me working the hours I work and traveling so much...but is it to early for that to even matter?? I really, really like him, but am I sacrificing to much to get with him? I don't usually date guys with kids, let alone, live with their parents...but it is just something about him. The relationship is not a sexual, because we just met and I aint getting down like that, but I like him so much. I want to know what I should do in this early stage to know if it is even worth my time investing anything else in it.
Your Truly,
Ms. I might have to keep this title if this dude don't come thru"
Advice Chick replies,
Hi Ms. I agree; you deserve someone who can keep up. Ask yourself, what is so great about this guy? Why have I fallen for him? Why do I really, really like him?
You’ve told me about his son, part-time job, and carton of orange juice with his name on it in his mama’s fridge. You say there’s something about him, but you don’t say what that something is.
Also, if you think he may have a problem with your hours and traveling, I have a problem with that. You were working those hours and traveling before you met him, and they afford you your lifestyle. You just met the guy so slow down. Maybe he’ll step his game up and meet you half way. Maybe he’ll be so comfortable with you and your salary that his part time job may evolve into no job at all. I think you’re caught up in cute. Be advised, cute is around every corner.
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