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Dear Advice Chick,
*I hired a stripper to my home for entertaining a ladies group which I am associated with. Everyone had a wonderful time and after the performance he was interested in keeping in contact with me. I was taken by surprise but agreed, we both are single. Over the months things have been ok, due to his schedule we see each other when we can, my dilemma is there is a 19 year difference in age, me being the elder.
Most people are surprised as it is not visible for me at all. For a long time I kept him a secret from my friends I guess out of shame, he is no longer a secret and he never cared if people knew about us in the first place. Frankly they all assumed there was something going on anyway. He performed for my Birthday, he has given private dances for me, he is far more mature than I had expected. I care for him dearly, he has no children, I have two, when we are together we have a good time. He often invites me to his show which it is really difficult to watch other women all over him but that’s what he does as a secondary income, and he is damn good at it too. My question is should I be concerned about the age difference?
Advice Chick replies,
Oh lawd. Another Cougar is in love with a stripper. Sweetie, a n-i-n-e-t-e-e-n (19) year age difference is a BIG deal. You have almost two d-e-c-a-d-e-s on this man! You’re already acting all “Cougarish” (old and dumb) with your insecurity over other women being all over him.
You said, “We see each other when we can.” What? He stops by to hit that when he has a few free minutes?
He performed for your party. “So?” He gives you private dances. “So?”
The two of you have a good time when you’re together, right? Wow. Life is happening while you’re having a good time. What about your two kids? I’m willing to guess that one of your children is close to his age. Would you want your child dating some old lonely loser 19 years their senior? Hell to the neezy! How about building a life and a future with a stable man who has something in common with you?
I happen to know many male dancers, boo. Your situation is nothing new. Many strippers have an entire zoo of Cougars willing to do almost anything for them sexually AND financially. He is putting it down and you are putting out – money. Don’t lie to me or yourself. In closing, yes – be concerned about the age difference and stop giving your money to this stripper who is young enough to be your son. I know the dykk is good, but have some pride. Damn.
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