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Dear Advice Chick,
*What I want to know is why is it such a problem to defend a loved one, especially when that loved one is your husband? I personally am sometimes expected to defend certain people other than my husband, but as soon as I start defending my husband, I turn into someone others perceive as weak. Now, if my husband starts spewing negatives toward others, they get mad at me for not coming to their defense, but I am dead wrong for defending him when they speak negatively of him. I just cannot grasp an understanding on that. If people do not want me defending my husband, they should either be mature enough to go to him directly when they have a problem with him, while giving him a chance to defend himself or stop complaining about him to me. I guarantee that if he has a problem with someone, he will not go through me, he will confront that person directly.
Also, if it’s not ok to defend my husband then why should I defend anyone else? I believe everyone should recognize their own faults before casting stones at others, so what do you advise I tell these people who continuously berate my husband while expecting me to agree with their negativity?
Advice Chick replies,
It’s a new year, stop giving a damn about who thinks what about you or your boo. As a matter of fact, if these grown asses have a problem with your husband they are getting at the wrong person. Let them know you aint trying to hear it.
Stop them in their tracks by telling them, “I am not trying to hear your issues with Michael. He’s in the kitchen, tell him yourself.”
There ya go. People have too much time on their hands so they want to waste your time. If you prefer to argue, you can defend whomever the hell you want to defend – especially your husband.
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