May 22, 2013

Jokey Joke: Relationship Advice in the ‘Hood … Set to Music (Video)

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*There are a lot of young people out there blowin’ up YouTube with all kinds of video. We’re glad this one has nothing to do with violence. In fact, this young man took it upon himself to try and save some relationships out there with his unique brand of advice to young men and young [...]




Ask Tamara: My Husband Doesn’t Want Me to Cut My Hair!

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*Dear Tamara: My hair is to the middle of my back and I really want to get it cut short, but my husband doesn’t want me to. He says he prefers long hair and doesn’t think women look good with short hair. I have never had a short hairstyle before and really want to try [...]




Ask Tamara: He Broke Up With Me on Facebook!

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Dear Tamara: My boyfriend and I recently had a heated argument. I was sure that after a few days things would calm down and we would be able to work things out. That was until a mutual friend told me that my boyfriend had changed his relationship status on Facebook. When I went to check, [...]




Ask Tamara: Should I Ask For a Raise?

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*Dear Tamara: I have not received a raise or cost of living increase in three years. This year we were told that because of the economy annual increases are again, “not in the budget.” During this time the cost of living has greatly increased. My rent has gone up and my son’s daycare went from [...]




Ask Tamara: Out the Closet!

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*Dear Tamara: During a recent family gathering, my youngest brother announced that he is gay. The entire family was shocked, including me. I never suspected that my brother was gay. Growing up he had plenty of girlfriends and didn’t show any signs of being gay. I haven’t spoken to him since his big announcement and [...]




Ask Tamara: Betrayed by Family Secrets – Everyone Knew But Me!

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*Dear Tamara: I just found out that my father has a daughter with another woman. Apparently he had an affair on my mother shortly after they were married. The woman contacted my father and now wants to have a relationship with him after all of these years. I also found out that my mother and [...]




Ask Tamara: Boyfriend Spends Too Much Time With Son!

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*Dear Tamara: My boyfriend has a toddler son who lives an hour away. Every time the child becomes ill, he runs out of town to be with him. Even if the child has a simple fever or cold, my boyfriend will run to see about him, and even take time off work. Early in our [...]




Ask Tamara: My Best Friend Disapproves of My New Relationship

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Dear Tamara: Shortly after my divorce I began dating a man of another race. When I told my best friend about the relationship, she freaked out and didn’t hold back her disapproval about man that I was seeing and the fact that he is white. Since then our friendship has changed. We have been best [...]




Ask Tamara: Should I Tell My Boss I’m Looking for a New Job?

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Dear Tamara: I want to find a new job and I don’t know if I should tell my boss that I am looking. On one hand I would like to use him as a reference and possibly get a recommendation. On the other hand, I do not want to create a hostile working environment. I [...]




Ask Tamara: My Girlfriend Wants Me to Get Fixed!

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*Dear Tamara: My girlfriend and I have been having a revolving argument. She wants me to get a vasectomy! We have been together for seven years and have two children together (two daughters). She doesn’t want any more children and thinks I should be the one to get fixed. I, on the other hand, do [...]




Stan Sheppard: ‘What Makes You Think You Can Have a Successful Record Company?’

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*Each year that goes by in the music industry, there are hundreds of small “start up record companies” across the country that experience what I call “The Big Let Down” as it applies to their new business venture within the first year of operation. In a majority of these cases, the owners of these new [...]




Ask Tamara: My Family is Still Friends with my Ex!

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Dear Tamara: My boyfriend and I broke up six months ago after dating for seven years and he just won’t stop coming around. He pops up at family functions and constantly stops by my mother’s house. The other day I went over there and he was helping my mother paint the living room! When I [...]




Ask Tamara: Should I Quit My Day Job!

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Dear Tamara: I want to start my own cleaning business, should I quit my job and devote all of my time to building my business? Be My Own Boss Dear Be My Own Boss: Being your own boss and owning your own company can be very rewarding, but please do not underestimate the hard work, [...]




Ask Tamara: My Boss Wants to be my Facebook Friend!

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Dear Tamara: My boss sent me a friend request on Facebook and I am really not sure if I should accept it or not. On one hand my boss is really cool. She is down to earth and really tries to get to know everyone on the staff. I think we have a good working [...]




Ask Tamara – My Husband Disciplines Like a Drill Sergeant!

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Dear Tamara: My husband and I have two different parenting styles. He is from a military family and grew up getting spankings, or as he often calls it “whoopins” I did not grow up getting spanked and think it is unnecessary to hit a child to get them to obey. We have had this argument [...]