*Another week – another MSNBC apology…this time from Melissa Harris-Perry.
On her Sunday program, she and her panel joked about a Mitt Romney family photo — specifically about the Romney’s recently adopted black grandchild, Kieran.
One panelist drew attention to the large white family’s one black member with snatches of the “Sesame Street” tune “One Of These Things Is Not Like The Others,” while Harris-Perry went on to discuss her hopes for a future marriage of Kieran Romney and North West — Kanye West’s daughter with Kim Kardashian.
*There’s more to the story about Jonathan Martin and Richie Incognito than insiders are willing to reveal.
Most people who know the inside story say Miami Dolphins coaches knew Incognito was hazing Martin and possibly encouraged it to toughen up Martin and other new recruits.
Most players and coaches who defend Incognito probably do so because of his on-the-field contributions, because who can look at his off-the-field actions alone and endorse him with his history of derogatory behavior that went back as far as thirteen years when he played college football?
This dude is just plain rude, probably because he was allowed to get away with it. And when a Miami TV news crew interviewed him recently, Incognito said something to the effect that he just had to weather this storm that soon would pass. He has yet to apologize or even acknowledge any wrong doing.
I’m sure we all have been in situations where – whether it was a new job or a social setting - we found ourselves in new territory where cursing, racist remarks or sexist jokes were the norm. And we had to go along to get along until we were forced to either assimilate or rebel. People in different sub-settings operate under different rules of engagement. And those rules might allow for some behavior that would otherwise be unacceptable. That’s probably why some black people call each other the N-word but won’t accept non black people calling them the same.
Walking into the locker room as a high draft pick and met with behavior he apparently was not used to, Martin might have felt he had no choice but to accept it. Afterall, as a football player making it to the NFL probably was his ultimate goal that he wasn’t going to let pass him by because of some loud mouth bully who had the support of other players and seemingly the coaching staff. So he dealt with it for as long as he could.
But to whom much is given much is required. Could it be the price of making millions of dollars for a black man in the NFL (at least as a Miami Dolphin) is you might be expected to put up with racist bullies on testosterone overload? And even if every player on the Dolphins team accepted Incognito’s name calling as just another day at the office, if Martin felt harassed by him it’s not for anyone else to validate or invalidate his feelings.
Martin was bigger than Incognito and probably could have physically defended himself had it come to that. But maybe Martin is smarter than we have given him credit for. Sometimes the best defense is evidence. That and to give someone like Incognito enough rope to hang himself and possibly some of the people in authority who knew about it but didn’t stop it.
Steffanie is a freelance journalist living in the Dallas, Texas metroplex. For comments, questions or speaking inquiries email her email@example.com.
*(Via NBC News) – President Obama said Thursday that he is “sorry” that some Americans are losing their current health insurance plans as a result of the Affordable Care Act, despite his promise that no one would have to give up a health plan they liked.
“I am sorry that they are finding themselves in this situation based on assurances they got from me,” he told NBC News in an exclusive interview at the White House.
“We’ve got to work hard to make sure that they know we hear them and we are going to do everything we can to deal with folks who find themselves in a tough position as a consequence of this.”
In a wide-ranging interview with NBC’s Chuck Todd, President Obama discusses implementation of the Affordable Care Act, rollout of the healthcare website, NSA spying, Iran and keeping Joe Biden as his running mate.
Obama’s comments come 10 days after NBC News’ Lisa Myers reported that the administration has known since the summer of 2010 that millions of Americans could lose their insurance under the law.
Obama has made repeated assurances that “if you like your health plan, you will be able to keep your health plan” with Obamacare.
Consumers who buy insurance on their own — about five percent of the population — are at risk of being forced off their current policies because their plans have changed and don’t meet the new standards of the Affordable Care Act.
*Well, it seems that Sheryl Underwood‘s comments about black hair being essentially worthless has pissed off Najee Ali, along with other black activists, and you know what that means.
Ali, the director of Project Islamic Hope and a coalition of civil rights and community organizations are calling for an immediate public apology from comedienne Sheryl Underwood who is also co-host of “The Talk” which airs nationwide on CBS. On the episode which was aired on Aug 30th Underwood made disparaging comments concerning African American women who wear their hair naturally. Underwood who upon hearing that model Heidi Klum saves her children cut hair responded that “Why would you save Afro hair?” She went on to imply that nobody wants that type of hair, saying that you never hear of a woman in a hair shop asking for that “curly, nappy, beady hair.”
And as we reported, co-host Sarah Gilbert chimed in, saying she sometimes saves her children’s hair. But Underwood interjected, saying that it was “probably some beautiful, long, silky stuff,” implying that the type of hair is desirable and worth saving.”
“Oh really. Say what!?” — a flabbergasted Najee Ali probably said to himself. Well, obviously we don’t know exactly what he said to himself, but here’s what he’s saying publicly about the matter:
“Underwood essentially spit in the face of every African American who wears their hair naturally. She unfortunately is obviously filled with self hate. Beauty comes in all shades and hair texture. Our coalition isnt going to allow Underwood or anyone to mock and ridicule African Americans who choose to wear their hair naturally. Were demanding a public apology from Underwood those that we’re offended by her disparaging remarks.”
Also, the Compton NAACP isn’t please with Underwood, either:
“On behalf of the NAACP of Compton Underwood comments were in poor taste .Its difficult enough giving encouragement to African American women who choose to wear their hair naturally , but Underwood comments which were broadcast nationally we’re very painful and hurtful to listen to,” stated Paulette Simpson Gibson President of NAACP of Compton, CA.
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*After being asked by BET to scale back on his normally feminine look to host the pre-awards show, TV personality B. Scott is not accepting the network’s “apology.”
B. Scott, an openly gay fashion and advice columnist, claims that the network pulled him off the red carpet coverage for Sunday’s show to change his appearance. He says they made him pull his hair back into a ponytail and take off his heels and long flowing black shirt in exchange for flats and a suit.
BET stated the incident “was a singular one with a series of unfortunate miscommunications from both parties. We regret any unintentional offense to B. Scott and anyone within the LGBT community and we seek to continue embracing all gender expressions.”
However Scott feels the apology is insincere as he was always forthcoming about what he planned to wear on air.
“I want a real apology from BET. This was a not a mutual misunderstanding or miscommunication. I pride myself on being very professional,” he said.
BET has used Scott as a personality in the past with him typically sporting feminine attire. However upon arriving to the pre-show, Scott says he was under the impression that he would be hosting the fashion segments alone but was met with a different plan by the network. According to him, he was yanked off the carpet, made to dress more conservatively and then paired with singer-actress Adrienne Bailon.
“This was my day to come out in one of the biggest days of my career and I was publicly humiliated,” he said. “I’m just hurt by it. I just want people to know that it’s Ok to be who you are.”
Luckily for Scott he said he had some supporters at the network but he believes that a single executive made the last minute changes. In terms of working for BET again he said he would “if I knew for sure that they wanted me to be there and I could express myself how I normally express myself and my brand.”
BET expressed that it had worked with several LBGT personalities in the past without incident and said it “embraces global diversity in all its forms and seeks to maintain an inclusive workforce and a culture that values all perspectives and backgrounds.”
Williams claims that she personally apologized to Sharapova for her the day before the games began this past Monday. During a recent Rolling Stones profile, Serena made obscure comments that were interpreted as a stab toward Maria. In the same profile William stated that a 16-year-old rape victim from Steubenville “shouldn’t have put herself in that position.” She made an apology to the victim and her family last week.
“One of the first things I did was reach out to the family. Not only that, I made it a point to reach out to Maria, as well, because she was inadvertently brought into the situation by assumptions made by the reporter,” Williams said Sunday during her pre-Wimbledon news conference. “I personally talked to Maria at the player party, incidentally. I said, ‘Look, I want to personally apologize to you if you are offended by being brought into my situation. I want to take this moment to just pour myself, be open, say I’m very sorry for this whole situation.’ ”
The situation Williams referred to is her recent talk with Rolling Stone where she stated that a “top-five player who is now in love…begins every interview with ‘I’m so happy. I’m so lucky’ — it’s so boring. She’s still not going to be invited to the cool parties. And, hey, if she wants to be with the guy with a black heart, go for it.”
The reporter from Stone, Stephen Rodrick, added, “An educated guess is she’s talking about Sharapova, who is now dating Grigor Dimitrov, one of Serena’s rumored exes.”
After Sharapova learned of Serena’s veiled comments she addressed it in her press conference Saturday.
“At the end of the day, we have a tremendous amount of respect for what we do on the court. I just think she should be talking about her accomplishments, her achievements, rather than everything else that’s just getting attention and controversy,” Sharapova said.
“If she wants to talk about something personal, maybe she should talk about her relationship and her boyfriend that was married and is getting a divorce and has kids. Talk about other things, but not draw attention to other things. She has so much in her life, many positives, and I think that’s what it should be about.”
William’s coach, Patrick Mouratoglu, is Serena’s alleged boyfriend in question. Serena or Patrick has not confirmed a relationship outside of work.
“I definitely was told of the comments,” Williams said Sunday. “I definitely like to keep my personal life personal. I think it would be inappropriate for me to comment on it. But, yeah, I’ve always, in the past — you guys have known — I’ve kept my personal and professional life very private. I’m going to continue to do that.”