*A pastor in Kenya feels that when women wear underwear, they are not as close to God as they should be so…
Off with your drawers and bras, women!
According to the Kenyan Post, Reverend Njohi said women who attend his services at the Lord’s Propeller Redemption Church in Nairobi are forbidden from wearing bras and underwear. Njohi said when going to church, people need to be “free in body and spirit” so they can receive Christ.
Now, I don’t mean any disrespect here but, can’t you just picture God shaking his head and saying, “Forgive him my people, this fool done lost his mind.”
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My wife’s pastor is ruining our marriage. My wife spends more time at the church then she does at home. And to make matters worse, her pastor is interfering with our personal life and making suggestions to my wife that affect our entire household. First her pastor convinced her to quit her job to do full-time ministry at the church. Now the pastor is pressuring my wife to sow a financial seed into the ministry which would mean tapping heavily into our savings. My wife and I have been arguing about her pastor for months and she just doesn’t see how all his suggestions are affecting our marriage. Regardless of who makes the suggestion, my wife should not make major decisions that affect our household without my input. I am her husband and I feel like she is putting her pastor and her church before me and our family! I also feel like her pastor is manipulating her and using his position to get what he wants.
Sick of These Preachers
While I certainly do not condone anyone using their position to manipulate others, especially in the church, I also think people need to take responsibility for their own decisions and actions. No matter what the pastor has suggested, your wife ultimately made her own decision to leave her job and pursue ministry full-time. As for tapping into your savings, I agree that this is a decision that both you and your wife should make, and agree upon, to avoid future arguments. Many times people hide behind others if they are afraid to make their own decisions or reveal their own intentions. Is it possible that your wife wanted to leave her job and pursue ministry full-time? Maybe your wife was afraid of your reaction and thought it was easier to say that the pastor suggested it! It is common for people to hide behind those who they feel carry a particular weight. Many times people hide behind ministry and clergy because they figure “who would argue or go against God and men and women of the cloth?
That being said, as a former first lady and ex-wife of a pastor/preacher, I know the inner workings of the church and I know how “church work” can consume a person’s time. Even in doing God’s work, we have to have balance. A person cannot spend all of their time working in the church and neglecting the ministry of family! At the same time, if your wife is passionate about church ministry, you have to find a way to support her work and passion and to meet her halfway on her journey. No one wants to feel “guilty” about doing something they love.
And while I know there are pastors/preachers who have abused their position and have manipulated members of their congregation, I do not believe that this includes ALL pastors/preachers. Don’t assume that the pastor is the sole problem in your marriage. You and your wife need to talk and communicate about what is really going on between the two of you. It might be necessary for both of you to meet with the pastor or seek outside counseling if meeting with the pastor poses an issue. But don’t allow the pastor to serve as the scapegoat for fixing what is going wrong in your marriage. If the pastor is an issue, this will come to light.
Tamara Hartley is Your Advice Guru and author of REAL Advice from REAL Experience: Advice, Tips and Strategies for Your Life Relationships, and Career. She uses her personal life experiences and lessons learned to give others a different perspective and help them make critical decisions in their life, relationships and careers. Read advice archives at www.YourAdviceGuru.com. Email questions to advice@YourAdviceGuru.com or on Twitter @DrTamaraHartley using the hashtag #AskTamara. Tamara is also a certified life coach and works with individuals to find balance, make moves, and live their dreams. Learn more about her coaching programs at www.YourPersonalSuccessCoach.com.
*This silly article (As written by Michael H. Cottman of Black America Web) reminds me of a story that I heard once.
Allow me to relate it here:
A potential pastor went to a church to meet with the current pastor and some of the church men. After conversing with them for a while, he surprisingly said that one of the things he believed was that in order for church services to go well on Sunday morning, the men of the church should not have sex with their wives on Saturdays. The men looked at him and then looked at each other and immediately disqualified him for the job. This potential pastor was talking straight for a while, but when he made this statement, they were shocked. -BCNN1 Editor
What’s the point of being married if you’re not having sex with your spouse?
I thought the reasoning for marriage, in part, was to spend quality time with your soul mate, which also includes monogamous sexual intimacy.
But Jon and Darla Crocker, who have been married for two years, never consummated their marriage. What do I mean? They have never had sex.
“If it was holy before,” Darla says, “it must be double-holy afterwards.”
What does “double-holy” mean anyway? Do they really believe they’ll get additional brownie points from God because they are not having sex after marriage? But Jon and (Darla) have been husband and wife for 25 months of marriage without any sexual contact.
Read more at Black Christian News.
*Dr. Victor Davis, a Baptist minister is sharing his perspective on the Black church in his ‘manual,’ “Ushering With A Mission.”
With insight from his African American congregation, Davis uses a non-traditional approach to give church leaders the tools they need to build the usher ministry. He presents a principle of growth that is biblically based, Christ-centered and missions-oriented.
Ushering With A Mission is a easy to read, hands on tools that explains the technical aspects of ushering, putting an emphasis on Bible study, prayer and personal evangelism. It was developed to help ushers become more devout and seek to better fulfill their roles.
Can I send you a copy of the book or arrange an interview with Dr. Davis?
*Get lifted in the power of praise and worship with the new release of One Sound, the new live album from Full Gospel Baptist Church Fellowship International.
Recorded live in Atlanta at the Georgia World Congress Center during the 2012 Full Gospel Baptist Church Fellowship International Conference, One Sound marks the chance to relive the glorious sounds of the best in praise and worship music from Full Gospel Baptist Church Fellowship International’s churches across the country, and sets the stage for their much-anticipated 20-year celebration conference this summer.
Under the leadership of William Murphy Jr., One Sound presents 13 invigorating tracks featuring beloved and fresh new voices, including special guest appearances from Full Gospel Baptist Church Fellowship International’s Founder Bishop Paul S. Morton, William Murphy, Jonathan McReynolds, J.J. Hairston and more.
Full Gospel Baptist Church Fellowship International’s first new recording following on the 2008 praise and worship release Embracing The Next Dimension, One Sound leads with the rousing single “Big” featuring Fred Graves and Vaughan Phoenix, a lively performance with a big sound and message.
Ushering in a new sound with direction from William Murphy Jr. as the Minister of Music and VaShawn Mitchell as the director, One Soundalso includes other elevating performances of awesome faith and reflection, from Bishop Paul S. Morton’s performance of the beloved gospel classic “There’s Something About That Name” on the track “There’s Something About That Name/Praise,” to “You Reign” featuring J.J. Hairston, and the sweet ballad “Still Amazed” featuring Jonathan McReynolds.
*”Several years ago I had the great blessing of having been selected as one of about 20 clergy who enjoyed an all expense paid self-care focused pilgrimage to Israel,” writes Rev Dr Melinda Contreras-Byrd of All Christian News. “At least for me it was life changing! I was shocked at what I learned (and now teach) about the lives of pastors.”
Dr. Contreras-Byrd’s report continues …
“Three of the major researchers into clergy life all voiced similar statistics:
The Barna Group reports that
90% of pastors report working between 55- 75 hours per week
50% of pastors report feeling unable to meet the demands of their jobs
70% constantly fight depression
50% of pastors starting out will not last 5 years
50% of pastors’ marriages end in divorce
70% of pastors do not have a close friend
Ellison Research reports that according to the results of their study:
71% of pastors say that they are overweight by an average of 32.1 pounds
52% say that they experience signs of stress on a weekly basis
Other statistics note that pastors’ physical health is comparatively worse than others in the areas in which they live, while pastor’s mental health is likewise riddled with increased symptoms of clinical depression, anxiety, stress and burnout.”
Read the full report at AllChristianNews.com.