Unidentified father and 3-year-old son perform outside Chicago’s Wrigley Field.
*The talent on the streets of America should be reflected on the show “America’s Got Talent,” but there are plenty of acts we catch in the downtown metropolis of most major cities.
One unidentified father and son made the rounds on YouTube and Facebook when they were posted a few years ago drumming on buckets in front of Chicago’s famous Wrigley Field.
The son is a 3-year-old phenomenon that has obviously been trained by dad…quite successfully.
The video, while it may have been posted back in 2009, is still amazing as it has popped up on Facebook over the weekend.
I am getting married in less than two months and I still have not decided who will walk me down the aisle and give me away. This has been a huge issue in my house and has been causing a tremendous amount of stress. I cannot choose between my biological father and my stepfather. My parents divorced when I was 2 and my mother remarried when I was 6. I did not have a strong relationship with my father growing up, but we recently reconnected and have been getting pretty close. On the other hand, my stepfather raised me and we have an extremely close relationship. My biological parents do not get along and my mother doesn’t even want my biological father at the wedding. My stepfather, who is paying for the wedding, claims to be neutral. He told me to make my decision and that he would support it no matter what. He has held this position from the beginning, but I know he really wants to walk me down the aisle. I am his only daughter and I don’t want him to feel left out or displaced because my biological father is back in the picture.
Bride to Be
Dear Bride to Be:
First, congratulations on your upcoming wedding. This should be a time of happiness and celebration for you and your family. This should be a time for everyone to come together rather than an occasion to divide. Dealing with blended families and managing relationships can be stressful and many family situations are complicated. While I do not know all of the details, it seems that both relationships are important to you. I encourage you try and find a way to include both your biological father and your stepfather in your wedding in a way that makes you happy. Maybe they can both walk you down the aisle, if not together, maybe one can hand you off to the other. I realize this may not follow normal tradition, but this is your wedding and that means you can alter and customize tradition as you see fit!
And while I am sure your mother has her reasons for not wanting your biological father at the wedding, her relationship and experience with him are very different than yours. She may no longer be his wife, but you will always be his daughter. Therefore, you have to manage that relationship. It sounds like your stepfather is a wonderful man as well and I can understand why you do not want to leave him out, especially since he raised you as his own from a small child. You are blessed to have had a wonderful father to raise you and even more blessed to reconnect with your biological father and mend a broken relationship.
I’m saying all of this to say that it is not father vs. stepfather. I don’t think you have to choose. I believe you can include both of your fathers and they both will be honored to walk you down the aisle and/or participate as you see fit.
Tamara Hartley is Your Advice Guru giving REAL advice from REAL experience. She uses her personal life experiences and lessons learned to give others a different perspective and help them make critical decisions in their life, relationships and careers. Email your questions to email@example.com. You can follow Tamara on twitter @drtamarahartley and check out her column and archives at www.youradviceguru.com.
*We are sitting on the precipice of the George Zimmerman trial set to begin on Monday, June 10, but we hope that people remember Marissa Alexander when the trial begins.
Marissa Alexander is the Florida mother and abused wife that fired a warning shot in her home to keep her husband, Rico Gray, from killing her –as he promised– and was sentenced to a mandatory 20 years in prison.
The Stand Your Ground law that she thought would protect her did not…and she didn’t kill anyone. Her children were present and she was trying to protect herself.
She didn’t pursue him. She did not kill him. She was simply protecting herself and she is still waiting to see the community outraged by the extreme punishment.
George Zimmerman, on the other hand, stalked Trayvon Martin and willingly disregarded the authorities instructions for him to leave the 18-year-old alone and let them handle what Zimmerman, in his twisted thoughts, conveyed as a threat.
Dorian Joyner, Jr., and his dad Dorian Joyner Sr., graduate Morehouse College together this weekend.
*The graduation season is here and it’s off to a brand new life and career for students all over the country.
Some will be nostalgic remembering their first day of their college journey and being away from their parents for the first time…well, some were left by their parents.
Dorian Joyner Jr., didn’t have that experience when he started his collegiate journey at Morehouse College in Atlanta, Georgia. His dad, Dorian Joyner Sr., joined him.
They were classmates and Junior didn’t mind. Now, they have completed the requirements to graduate and will officially become Morehouse men walking across the stage with President Obama at the helm of their ceremony.
Father beats daughters for making a “twerking” video.
*The internet is littered with videos of women and girls turning their butts to the camera and twirling it around for everyone to see.
But while we complain of the lewd behavior, more and more of them populate YouTube and/or social media sites.
Most people are upset with the younger girls, teenagers and children, doing what is called “twerking” for the camera. The twist of the hips and butt are the moves of a stripper, but many amateurs attempt the moves as best as they can.
But, according to the Daily Mail, one father discovered his daughters twerking for the internet and he was not havin’ it!
Valerie Spruill, 60, of Akron, Ohio, found out after her husband’s death that he was her father.
*There’s a book by J. California Cooper called “Family.”
In her book, she discusses how the people of America are all one big family because of the mixing and mingling of slave owners with those they had enslaved.
But as time went on in America, there are many more stories of intermingling in families, but one of the worse would have to be having a relationship with a parent that you didn’t know was your parent.
Valerie Spruill, 60, of Akron, Ohio, knows too well how this can happen. She had been married to a man by the name of Percy Spruill, who had later been identified as her father.
Percy Spruill died in 1998, at the age of 60, but Valerie didn’t find out until (more…)