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The Socialist’s Journal: Favorites of 2012
In chronological order, here are my favorite columns of the past year…
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Do you feel it has a negative or positive connotation?
Here’s an article from Essence’s Demetria Lucas on the issue:
I’ve been think a lot about feminism lately. You see, I recently wrote a book (maybe you’ve heard?). It’s an advice guide about living single that doesn’t tell women how to jump through hoops to get a man or bend over backwards to keep one, and it somehow manages not to throw men under the bus in order to help women discover how to live their best life. In the aftermath, I keep getting asked in interviews, “So, you’re a feminist, then?” Uh, am I?
If you asked me when I was ten, I would have given an unequivocal “Yes!” Like everyone else my age, I grew up on “The Cosby Show,” and “Rudy” (aka Keisha Knight-Pulliam) was about six months older than me and ten times as dope. Somewhere along the way (her TV-mom?), Rudy had picked up the spunk to confidently shoot down her best friend Kenny’s musings about his brother’s archaic thoughts about women and dating. She was very clear that she had no intention of catering to an undeserving man, or biting her tongue to consider his ego. Just a real clear-cut, take it and if you don’t like it, leave it! I’d heard someone call her a “cute little feminist once.” I deduced that to mean that feminism, as doled out by my favorite Huxtable, seemed to be about not taking any mess of a foolish man, or anyone else (except parents).
*I’m not a self-described feminist, but even I have noticed over the past few weeks how the American feminism has been fired up and ready to go over attacks from the political left and right.
Rush Limbaugh got the ball rolling by calling Georgetown University Law School student Sandra Fluke a “slut” and a “prostitute.” Liberal outposts like Media Matters were aided greatly by the National Organization of Women in targeting advertisers of Limbaugh, and to date, more than 100 have fled the show.
On the right, the conservative Concerned Women for America has been equally relentless in their criticism of Bill Maher, the liberal comedian and host of HBO’s Real Time, for calling Sarah Palin a “c—.”
So then why have these two female powerhouse organizations been missing in action on the two Los Angeles talk radio hosts who offended women, particularly Black women, when they called Whitney Houston a “crack ho” three days after her death?
The hosts of Clear Channel’s flagship Los Angeles Station, KFI/640 AM, were suspended, only I and other African- Americans denounced their actions. But those men are back on the air, and we continue our battle with Clear Channel over diversity efforts at the station—where out of 15 hosts, one is female, none are Black.
So what’s the deal NOW and CWA, because if white women are called out of their names and their character sullied by men, you’re quick to rally the masses. Yet when it involves Black women, you’re strangely silent. What gives?
Oh, I’m sure critics will be quick to say I’m playing the race card. But there is history here.
In 2007, when shock jock Don Imus called the Rutgers female basketball team “nappy-headed hoes,” it was the National Association of Black Journalists and Black civil rights organizations leading the charge.
NOW and CWA had to be dragged kicking and screaming into the debate. In fact, CWA didn’t issue a statement on Imus until a full week after the calls for his head were issued, and even that didn’t come down until after NBC took action against him.
Talk about late to the party!
The message these two groups, with their token representation of Black women on their boards, is clear: it’s not okay to refer to white women as sluts, prostitutes, or c—s, but it is however okay to call Black women crack hoes.
These attitudes prove once again that today’s feminist movement is no better than yesterdays, and even worse—share’s haunting similarities to the gay civil rights movement—a movement that also suffers from the same selective outrage.
Most women, regardless of race, will agree that Limbaugh’s comments were disgusting, distasteful, and insensitive. Similarly, the same can be said about Maher’s Palin comments.
Where I do agree with Maher is in his recent comments to ABC News’ Jake Tapper. In response to the ensuing controversy over his remarks Maher said, “I used a rude word about a public figure who gives as good as she gets.”
As a Black woman, I can relate to that.
Today’s feminist movement gets from Black women as good as it gives and the token Black on their boards, coupled with the Black children they adopt from Africa, and their support of the KONY 2012 on Facebook doesn’t represent diversity or their other favorite word–multiculturalism. Real talk.
The face of HIV/AIDS today is that of a Black woman. Do you see NOW and CWA rallying to our side and demanding attention be paid to this burgeoning epidemic? If so, let me know because clearly I’ve been watching the wrong cable news channels and reading the wrong publications and websites.
It is what it is, and Black women like myself, are sick and tired of white women dismissing, overlooking, and just flat out ignoring our concerns, while simultaneously and ever so self-righteously proclaiming to be the champions of diversity where women are concerned.
It’s clear through NOW’s and CWA’s deafening silence on the personal attack on Whitney Houston that when it comes to defending women, even multi-platinum, international pop icons, that groups like NOW and CWA are concerned only with sexist slurs hurled at white women.
So NOW and CWA, please, spare us all the sidestepping, double talking, excuses and after-the-fact statements. Please, just make a simple modification to your names and add the word “white” before “Women.” Yes, I’m serious. It’s perfectly clear that today’s feminist movement is led by, for the benefit of, and about middle-class white women only. Period. The end.
If they’d just keep it real, us nappy-headed crack hoes would have no need to ever even look in their direction for coalition building around similar issues or even expect that they’d be offended when a Black woman is being called out of her name by a radio shock jock.
If adding the word white to their names is not a practical option, then NOW and CWA need to start defending all women, and not just Georgetown law students and former vice-presidential candidates. It means putting the same energy and resources into defending Black women airport screeners who are repeatedly called fat and lazy by white shock jocks; calling out men who routinely degrade the First Lady of the United States and her body; and the other shameful antics we see directed at Black women.
Yes, I am Black, and I’m also a woman, and I’m also a lesbian. I stand tall in fighting for respect for African-Americans, for women and for LGBT folk. I shouldn’t have to check off a box when insulted.
If the Black in me is offended, I expect the NAACP to rise up and fight it. If the woman in me is offended, I expect NOW and CWA to care enough about me to say something. And if the lesbian in me is insulted, I expect the National Black Justice Coalition to be there but I also expect GLAAD, the Human Rights Campaign and other LGBT groups to stand strong with them.
But what is increasingly clear is that when the non-Black groups see me, all they see is my skin color. And all too often, when folks like me need them to stand up, they are missing in action.
Instead of paying Blacks lip service, its time for white feminists to really see us for whom we really are: women.
*In my opinion, feminism is beginning to look like labor unions.
At the opening of the 20th century, unions were necessary to mitigate child labor, abuse in the workplace and to bring in uniform work hours and safe working conditions.
While some of those issues remain in minor cases, unions are still top-heavy, but really becoming purposeless and toothless. Much of what the unions raged against was set right by legislation.
There were real issues that feminism faced for a long time—discrimination in the workplace against women, lower pay for equal work to men, etc.
However, while some of those issues may remain in minor cases—according to the feminists themselves—there are now laws in place which have allowed women to make unprecedented gains.
Yet, there is still rage against a machine that has begun to work in their favor.
Feminism made great gains in forcing all of us to re-think our views on the genders, yet, after re-making the image of femaleness, feminism failed to bring anything concrete into the fray.
This explains why so-called evolved “Independent Women” still want men to pay their way.
It also explains why so many women have divorced themselves from traditional femininity, yet still want men to treat them as gentle, delicate creatures.
Feminist propaganda fails to provide any enlightenment, because its goals are conflicted with the desires of many women at their very core.
But here is some basic information that can prove to be quite useful for women who still want traditional relationships with men:
Don’t wear skimpy clothing that calls attention to all of your goodies while still demanding to be treated like a lady.
You may have the right to be in certain places, but that doesn’t mean it’s smart. Just because you like sports, why would you want to be the only woman in a crowded place where men are drinking and cursing and then expect them to be less boisterous because you are there?
No matter how cute some of your girls may think it is, toying with the emotions of men is not smart.
While some men are cool with having women hang around every man activity, there are still some areas where men will be men and women may not need to be there. Sometimes, it’s cool to hang with the girls.
Here’s a big one: Women should still be gracious when a man is a gentleman. We’ve seen too many of you get upset when we hold doors.
And, finally: Anyone with a decent mother in a household where there was a mother and a father or someone who has studied history knows that women have historically held the standard for morality and decency. If you are the primary caregiver to children, remember that they are always watching.
The bottom line is that feminist propaganda is confusing and conflicted. Hell, young women are probably the most confused, which is why they are beginning to reject the silly pursuits of their older counterparts who are lonely and bitter, claiming to be “free” from that which eludes them.
A New York tracking firm studied 3,000 women between the ages of 18 and 34. More than two out of three of them preferred to stay at home full time rather than stay in the workplace. Cosmopolitan magazine studied 800 women and got the same result: a strong majority of women want a full-time life at home with a husband and children.
Ladies, if you desire, find and seek to hold on to a traditional relationship and marriage, say so. And then tell any woman who berates you for it to shut her lonely ass up and play with her cats.
Really, they are jealous of you, but can’t get what you have.
Feminist propaganda told women that a career was more important than family, but today, many women have found the truth the hard way.
You’ve come a long way, baby.
Perhaps too far.
Darryl James is an award-winning author of the powerful new anthology “Notes From The Edge.” Now, listen to Darryl live on BlogTalkRadio.com/DarrylJames every Sunday from 6-8pm, PST. View previous installments of this column at www.bridgecolumn.proboards36.com. Reach James at firstname.lastname@example.org.