*It’s hard to root for a guy who specializes in being a jackass.
But in the disheartening case of former-NFL-wideout-turned-sorry-sap Terrell Owens, there might be room for an exception.
Aside from crafting a hall-of-fame, 16-year career, Owens’ life is a tire fire, flaming out rapidly, in desperate need of intervention. After an ongoing series of locker room disputes, poor sportsmanship during games, trades to several different teams, and chronic injury, the poor guy finds himself on wrong end of retirement. Take away the myriad of reception yards and touchdowns he amassed on the field, and Owens becomes just another statistic–basically broke, owing thousands in unpaid child support, unemployed, disillusioned, not having the slightest clue of what to do next.
It’s clear he has issues, so many in fact that he appeared this past weekend on Iyanla’s “Fix My Life” in hopes that she could provide sound advice and a sense of positive redirection. To understand why Owens sits on the brink of self-implosion requires understanding of his past. Growing up dirt-poor in rural Alabama, the future pro-bowler’s mother was only 17-years old when he was born. Unable to provide a stable home environment for her newborn boy, she sent Owens to live with his grandmother, a stern disciplinarian who offered tough love, but refused to speak the words, he said. Tears in his eyes, Owens recalled moments in his youth when he was abused by the woman chosen to raise him. He also revealed that his biological father, who lived across the street, hadn’t come into the picture until he was 11 years old.
The hour-long episode proceeds to navigate through Owens’ childhood beginnings, starting in his hometown, where he and Iyanla attempt to connect his past issues to his present drama. She even reunites his broken family. If you have a soft spot for sob stories, get your tissue ready–this one’s a tear-jerker.
*If you missed the DMX episode of Iyanla Vanzant’s OWN show, “Fix My Life,” you missed some real drama and a harsh reality.
The rapper made a big fuss on the show when he and the life coach went at each other’s throats and he also blew up at his son, Xavier.
The show didn’t end well, but Iyanla addressed an open letter to the troubled rapper.
I know we haven’t spoken since our time together in Yonkers. And what I’m hearing is that they are just waiting for the call. They are waiting for the day they get the call. And you know what I mean.
But I’m not waiting for that call. I’m calling on you, and I’m not going to give up on you. I will not stand by and watch my brother die.
Over the years, I’ve worked with many, many people who’ve struggled with addiction.
With help, healing is possible.
I want you to remember the person you became in the final months of your grandmother’s life. That’s a clean life. You can be that man today and every day. Just remember what your son said to you, “ I want a relationship with you that is not toxic.
My brother, Earl, DMX, I support you. I love you and I’m calling on all of my beloveds…to send you their love and support.
I know that there is no valley deep enough, no gap wide enough that love can’t conquer.
EURweb associate, Cherise (CNikky) Nicole caught up with Iyanla during the Essence Black Women In Hollywood. She spoke to us about her mentor Oprah Winfrey, her She-roes, bad relationships and her insecurities.
While many of us are identifying and learning to overcome our insecurities during our 20s, 30s and 40s, Iyanla says that at 60 years old, her insecurities have become her new normal.
“You know when I was 20 and 30 they were insecurities. Now they’re just a new normal. I’m 60 years old, so my expectations of who I am and how I look and how I show up in the world had to shift. Not because I couldn’t help it, or not because I did anything wrong, but because I had to get into the natural flow of my being as a woman. So, I no longer have insecurities. I have new normals. You know, the new normal that I can’t read the writing on the cereal box. The new normal that I’ve gone from a thong to a spanx! It’s wonderful! It’s a new normal! Who am I to be insecure about these things? I know they didn’t make spanx just for me so there’s some other women out there that have the same normal as me.”
Love Her! Tune in to the explosive Season 2 Premiere of “Iyanla: Fix My Life” tonight, Saturday at 9pm on OWN!
Watch the interview below:
As we alluded to above, tonight (04-13-13) at 9pm on OWN, Iyanla takes on what looks to be a real, real interesting challenge/assignment with rapper/actor DMX.
Vanzant meets the embattled rapper on the season 2 premiere of “Iyanla: Fix My Life” to offer “support” around his issues with drug abuse, women, his extensive arrest record (“roughly 30 times,” he tells her), and his relationship with his family, particularly his son.Vanzant spoke to ESSENCE.com about the episode, where she thinks DMX went wrong, and what we can all learn from him. ESSENCE.com: Where do you think DMX went wrong? VANZANT: I don’t think that he went wrong. All of us have ways in which we mask and cover our pain. This is a man who is in a tremendous amount of pain. Some of us eat; some of us shop or eat chocolate. What he is doing is a less socially acceptable way to mask and cover his pain because he doesn’t have the skills and the tools to deal with it otherwise. So I don’t think he went wrong, it’s just a defense mechanism.
ESSENCE.com: Where do you think that pain came from? VANZANT: It came from his upbringing and the breakdown in the relationship with his father. It came from a breakdown in the relationship with his mom, who was struggling and trying to raise him. She ended up putting him in a juvenile detention center because he was acting out and she didn’t have the capacity or the tools to deal with him. What he made up about that is that she was abandoning him when the truth is that she as doing the best that she could.
ESSENCE.com: There’s a part of us that may want to be voyeuristic when watching this episode because we’re watching yet another celebrity breakdown. At the same time it feels like there’s something we can learn here. VANZANT: All of us can learn something from this. We can learn how to have hard conversations; how to not let people die when we see them engaged in bad behaviors. We can learn how to have compassion for someone when they’re being a total butthead because compassion is what will help open their heart. We can learn how to create powerful, strong boundaries, and not allow people to cross those boundaries.
*Iyanla Vanzant has been a catalyst of change for many celebrities. Her next clients include troubled rapper DMX and seemingly lost reality show star, Sheree Whitfield.
The celebrities will be the focus of the show’s first two episodes of it new season on OWN.
In the season opener on April 13, the life coach will visit DMX at his home in Yonkers, NY to help him through a whole bunch of issues.
To say he’s got issues is an understatement. Need more proof, watch the explosive preview below. For a hot second, we thought he was going to straight up assault Iyanla. But then, for a hot second we though she was gonna flip the script and put a whippin’ on his arse. In other words, this is must SEE TV. Whoa. In fact, it’s so riveting, it’s going go for a full 90 minutes. Still, that might not be enough. Dude may need a few more sessions just to scratch the surface.
Then, in the second episode of the new season on April 20, Iyanla will dig deep into Sheree’s past relationship with ex-husband and former NFL star, Bob Whitfield. Iyanla sits down with the couple to talk about the role of co-parenting in spite of their contentious divorce. Secrets are revealed, truths are uncovered and emotions run high as Sheree and Bob reveal how they really feel about each other.
From the secrets buried in the past to the long hidden emotions, it’s going to be a roller coaster.
Tune in for the season opener of “Fix My Life” on April 13 at 9pm E/P on OWN.
*Who’s next on Iyanla Vanzant’s fix it list? Rapper DMX, that’s who.
The man known for his hot temper and shouty, emotional rap style, is about to get a breakthrough, or something.
At 42 years old, DMX is still dealing with the darkness of his past and at this point, it has taken a toll on other areas of his life. During a session on reality show, “Couple’s Therapy,” he had a real breakdown, exposing that he didn’t feel loved by his mother as a child. During his marriage with Tashira, he’s admitted to infidelity, as well as drug and alcohol abuse.
It’s time for all of that to go away. So DMX will appear on the show soon.