May 23, 2013

Living in the Land of Make Believe: Finding Love before Finding Love

Boston businesswoman Monica Cost, an organizer of MassGap.org

*There are countless self help books that try to teach us how to love ourselves, accept ourselves for who we are and to find inner peace within ourselves. What they are really trying to help us do is to find true love. A love that begins within and one that I believe is the purest [...]




Living in the Land of Make Believe: Romantic Relationship Readiness

monica cost

*I believe that we, as humans, are meant to be in relation. We’re supposed to have relationships, romantic and platonic and they are supposed to be healthy. But the truth is, no one ever teaches us how to do that. There are no relationship courses in school that show us how to figure out our value system [...]




Living in the Land of Make Believe: The Symbol of Success

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*I remember the various things I used to indicate as a Symbol of Success (SOS). They were things like, a degree from a certain college, a house in a particular neighborhood, a sizable diamond, associations with particular people and groups, a “worthy”  job title, designer clothes and access, among other things. Some of them I [...]




Living in the Land of Make Believe: Play, Pause or Stop

monica cost

*Suffice it to say there are more than enough messages infiltrating our ears, eyes and thoughts. Many of those messages are coming from television shows, marketing campaigns and other media related outcomes. I thought I might offer my humble opinion on what I would like to continue, hold and what we should quit. BASKETBALL WIVES [...]




Living in the Land of Make Believe: So, What do I Tell My Boys?

monica cost

8There’s a conversation on the table. It’s about race. Actually, maybe we’ve been a little too polite in recent times. Maybe it’s time, we really say what is on our minds. Maybe we just tell the truth. (Are you a fan of EURweb? Like us on Facebook or Follow us on Twitter.) My oldest son [...]




Living in the Land of Make Believe: Challenging ‘Just Because’

monica cost

Something’s in the air in 2011. I’m not sure if the recession kicked up the “I’m unsatisfied and what are you doing about it” dust or if it is just the season we’re in. All of sudden, people are a little less comfortable than they were before. It appears to be happening in every aspect [...]




Living in the Land of make Believe: The Empowered You

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Empower is to give power or authority to; to authorize, to enable or permit. We talk much about empowering people in our society. We want to empower children, survivors of domestic violence, girls, teens, moms and more. However, we often struggle to empower ourselves. We struggle to give ourselves permission to relax, to treat ourselves, to [...]