*Early one Tuesday evening, “Angie” got off from her middle-management job at City Hall in downtown Los Angeles, went home and changed from a beige Ann Taylor business ensemble and heels into faded jeans, tan wedge sneakers and a black fitted hoodie with a rainbow NORTH FACE logo on the front.
After scarfing down a Lean Cuisine meal and freshening her make-up, this mom who just turned 50 was off again, attending for the first time a monthly Neighborhood Watch gathering at a library a few blocks from her midtown home.
*In honor of Valentine’s Day 2014, I wanted to offer some personal insights regarding the precious custodianship of that ever neglected lover, your Self.
These nuggets weren’t gleaned from books or self-help seminars. Hard-fought and road-tested, they are the result of being in the trenches, often doing the same things over and over, yet expecting different results. In any case, over time and experience, I’ve learned that:
Despite what you might have heard, YOU are the love of your life.
photo by Brittney M. Walker
*Over the weekend we caught up heartthrob and Brooklyn native Rob Riley, known for “Bourne Legacy” and VHI’s “Hit the Floor.”
We ran into him during Rooftop 3100’s Annual Toy Drive in Los Angeles, where he told us about his latest work, the holidays, and what he wants for Christmas.
*Jada Pinkett Smith is posing questions lately that are both thought provoking and challenging.
She is considered a thought leader in society. Recently Jada spoke out on relationships.
Here what she posted openly:
Family I need help dissolve a debate between a few girlfriends and me in regard to this question, “Is great sex the only need, or primary need, for a man to have a good relationship with his partner?” More than half of you voted NO, on the question of whether a man’s primary need for a good relationship was ONLY good sex. We all pretty much agreed that good sex is important, but that a strong relationship must entail more than great sex.
Is true love real?
I believe true love is very real. The question is, are we prepared to CREATE it? Most of us are conditioned to believe that true love HAPPENS to us…effortlessly. My experience has been that romantic love happens effortlessly. The meeting of the eyes that lights you afire inside can happen without our consent, which could be the ENTRY point to true love or to a grand love affair that prepares you for the true love waiting in the wings. Many of us have equated that intoxicating, romantic feeling to true love. But true love is not created only in the intoxicating romance. True love is mostly created in the troubles, storms, misunderstandings, and deceptions where love is no longer romantic but excruciating. Love is created in forgiveness and in the maturity of accepting the human nature of ourselves and our partner. If you can survive these stages through your fight and growth for love…then TRUE LOVE will reveal itself because it becomes the stuff that CREATES long lasting…true love.
Remember this… When we engage in the dance of love…we are all dancing blindly. We are ALL students of love, learning ON one another. Be patient with the inevitable pains our ignorance delivers.
What do you think? Is Jada on the right path? Why or why not?
Novlene Williams-Mills, 31, wins bronze in London, June 25, 2012, after being diagnosed with breast cancer days before win.
*The Olympics is the height of an athlete’s career.
Some will not pass up the opportunity to participate in the Olympics no matter what their physical condition might be…look at Lance Armstrong.
Olympic runner Novlene Williams-Mills was diagnosed with breast cancer, but unbeknownst to any of her running colleagues, she took to the track in June of 2012, just days after her diagnosis, to win her spot on the Olympic team in the Jamaican Senior National Championships.
She won the 400 meters in 50.60 seconds to win her spot on the team. A month later, she went on to London with her team to win the 400 meter with the Jamaican relay team, according to the Daily Mail.
*Pop star and actress Jennifer Lopez has been through the pits of love and marriage, more than once.
After splitting with Marc Anthony, JLo admits divorce is tough but healing is possible.
She starred in “Parker,” playing the role of a woman struggling through a painful divorce. The role resonated with her in a healing way.
“The timing was crazy because when they offered me the role it hadn’t happened. So I was kind of just thinking about the character and that she was at the worst time in her life. But, when we actually started shooting the film, I was in the worst time of my life, one of the worst times in my life. You know, going through my own divorce. Jennifer continues, “When you have kids and you go through something like that, you can’t show them what you’re going through, you know. So you have to be so strong all day…and you know when you’re working you have to be professional all day…But, in front of the camera, I got to act like how I felt, you know so it was like therapy for me.”
She’s currently dating sweetheart Casper Smart. Although she’d like to be married one day and live that “fantasy,” she explains that when she met her beau, it was about having fun and enjoying life.