Tens of thousands of people gathered in the Nation’s capital, marching to the Martin Luther King Jr. Memorial and down the National Mall on Saturday, commemorating the 50th anniversary of Dr. King’s famous speech.
The event was an homage to a generation of racism, police abuse and activism, all to demand equal rights to African Americans.
A number of political notables spoke and attended the march including: Rev. Al Sharpton, Nancy Pelosi, New Jersey Mayor Cory Booker, the mother and father of Trayvon Martin, Dr. Martin Luther King III, Eleanor Holmes Norton, DC Mayor Vincent Gray, Congressman John Lewis, Tom Joyner, Jesse Jackson and Omarosa.
It is no secret that my coworker and I have conflicting views when it comes to politics. In 2012 we had a huge falling out during the presidential election. It got so serious that we stopped speaking to one another for almost an entire month. I am a strong Obama supporter and my coworker is a diehard republican. We are now on the opposite sides of the fence with the Trayvon Martin case and the outcome of the Zimmerman trial. To make a long story short, we almost came to blows in the office and we were both written up by our supervisor for the incident. I just don’t think I can continue working with someone who refuses to respect my opinion.
First let me say that you and your coworker are lucky to not have been FIRED for causing such a disruption in the workplace! I have always been taught that politics and religion are two subjects that are off limits in the office. You and your coworker arguing and not speaking to one another cannot be productive for your employer’s bottom line and it can affect the quality of work. It can also affect the morale of the other employees who have to listen to this bickering and maybe even have to step in to break the two of you apart.
Politics and religion are two hot-button subjects that seem to bring out the fight in people. There are many different issues and beliefs in these two areas. And as hard as you may try, you cannot force anyone to change their opinion and beliefs. This is a voluntary process. And while you may be able to affect change or shed a different light on a subject or a belief, and at the end of the day, each person is able to make their own choices.
Both you and your coworker are wrong for blowing up at each other. You should have agreed to disagree and walked away from any potential confrontation. I hate to see a friendship and/or working relationship destroyed because of a difference of opinion. I believe that everyone has a right to his or her own opinion and that there should be enough respect in a relationship to sustain any difference of opinion. And to get R-E-S-P-E-C-T, you have to give R-E-S-P-E-C-T. You need to have a conversation with your coworker and both of you need to apologize to one another and then agree to what subjects are off limits to your working relationship.
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*There are very few weekends when the Nation’s capital looks like Hollywood, but this weekend, almost every celeb under the sun put on their red carpet’s best for the ‘White House Correspondents Dinner’. Check out some of the photos.
Winnie Mandela is outraged after discovering the court is considering charges against her for the murder of two young activists last seen at her home 24 years ago.
Authorities exhumed the bodies of two victims who were stabbed to death recently and decided that Winnie could be a viable suspect.
According to reports, Lolo Sono, 21, and Siboniso Shabalala, 19, went to the icon’s home in an attempt to flee the country. But allegedly Mandela accused them of being spies for the apartheid regime and then ordered her body guard to kill them. The guard, Jerry Richardson, then allegedly ordered another to stab them to death. Their bodies were found buried in a makeshift grave.
*As he usually does, Lupe Fiasco got deep on NBC’s “Nitecap” when he discussed the duality of being a hit making star and conscious Hip Hop artist.
While playing two roles is never easy, the rapper explained he often has to perform a balancing act in order to get his message across and make money at the same time.
“I don’t know [if it gets tiring being a conscious rapper], it all depends on what your intentions are, what you’re trying to get out of it, how much you’re willing to put up with, how much you can actually take at the end of the day,” he said. “There’s all these different factors, so it’s not like a simple yes or no kind of thing; there’s certain things you have to do for the sake of sending your little sisters to college – that’s the greater good, and sometimes greater good means you have to go through a lot of nonsense to get there. But I don’t really look at the industry in those terms as black and white, conscious or not. Everybody do their piece and do their part – a lot of the most, that kind of ignorant music that people make sometimes, they can turn around a massive fortune off of that and… in one check, write away the ills of their community.”
*In the heat of gun control debates, VP Joe Biden made an assessment on the issue, opening up the doors to criticism and commentary from people like … T.I.
The Georgia based rapper/actor decided to share his thoughts about the issue. If you recall, T.I. was caught with illegal weapons and therefore has some experience in the area.
He offered to the world that yes, the laws should be revised, but said the blanket ban of guns is the wrong idea.
“I think there should be some adjustments made to the criteria that must be made in order for you to be allowed to have [a gun],” T.I. explained to DJ Buck & Nancy Barrow of Hartford’s 97.3. “The complete overall ban of firearms [is] a bad idea simply because if you do that, then you say the only people who are going to have guns, are the ones willing to break the law to keep them. That means you are putting the guns in the hands of only the criminals.”
America has been enthralled with gun issues over the years, but the issue was brought to front during mass shootings in Colorado and recently at Newtown, Conn. Sandy Hook Elementary School.