*In honor of Valentine’s Day 2014, I wanted to offer some personal insights regarding the precious custodianship of that ever neglected lover, your Self.
These nuggets weren’t gleaned from books or self-help seminars. Hard-fought and road-tested, they are the result of being in the trenches, often doing the same things over and over, yet expecting different results. In any case, over time and experience, I’ve learned that:
Despite what you might have heard, YOU are the love of your life.
*After one marriage, one divorce and a failed union I thought was the sure thing I’ve been asking myself what it takes to sustain a loving relationship.
Like most people I’m good at starting them. I’m a good conversationalist, I’m smart, funny and a great cook (if I say so myself – and I do).
I’m educated, employed and easy on the eyes. In the beginning of a relationship these qualities are enough for myself and my intended as we seem to be evenly yoked. And all goes well for the first six months or so. But what starts out full of promise ends up full of questions.
*They may be twins, but despite the pic above, they don’t always see eye to eye, so to speak.
On the new season of the Style reality series, “Tia & Tamera,” the twins get emotional regarding issues with their business relationship.
While Tia doesn’t make it a policy to share every detail of her professional moves to Tamera, Tamera feels it’s a bad look for the ladies not to know what the other is doing.
Tia says that trying to work through those misunderstandings is a challenge for the sisters.
“I think the biggest conflict, for me, I think is getting your sister to understand where you’re coming from when you have a different perspective on something. What we’ve learned throughout the years is that we’re twins, so we’re very, very connected. So, when someone disagrees with the other one or thinks differently, you take it personally and you feel offended, and so you act on that which is not really healthy because we love each other,” Tia told “Access Hollywood.”
It’s very important that they learn how to deal with each other as professionals; especially while their business relationship grows with new product launches for moms, including Stretchy, a plant-based stretch-mark cream for new mothers, and Milky.
Their disagreements got to a point where Tamera wondered if they should continue a working relationship.
“Maybe it’s not right for us to do stuff together,” Tamera said.
While they have arguments and disagreements like everyone else, Tamera assured their viewers that there will be no table flipping on their show.
“We just have a little argument about it. We think it’s huge, but compared to everyone else, they’re like, ‘Really? That wasn’t such a big deal,’” said Tamera who admitted her new role as a mother has made her bit bolder.
“We’re moms now, so we’re naturally very vocal ‘cause that’s what happens when you become a mom,” said Tamera. “You’re a lioness now, especially me. Normally, I was very passive.”
According to Tia, the sisters’ issues result from a lack of trust, and that’s something they plan to deal with on upcoming episodes of the show, airing Sundays on Style.
In the meantime, watch Tia and Tamera below chat with Access Hollywood:
“I certainly hope Kim and Kanye’s whirlwind dating isn’t merely a ploy to drum up publicity. But it does seem like it’s already driven a tremendous amount of interest in Kanye’s semi-leaked new single, ‘Theraflu,’ in which he raps about falling for Kim and then disses [her ex-husband] Kris Humphries. In which case, the relationship is already proving lucrative publicity-wise,” Hollywood Life Editor-in-Chief Bonnie Fuller told The Huffington Post.
Over the Easter weekend, some outlets reported that the pair actually orchestrated a paparazzi stunt to reveal their alleged romance.
The two were first spotted together at a showing of “Hunger Games,” and the next morning she was spotted leaving Kanye’s apartment wearing the same outfit from the night before. Oh and she had some obvious hickeys.
As the news media continues to focus on Kim’s failed marriage to Kris Humphries, even going so far as to question the validity of their union, Kim needs to do something to deflect all of that negative attention.
“After the Kardashian wedding fraud, I don’t believe anything Kim does, so of course it’s a publicity stunt,” said “Cult of Celebrity” author Cooper Lawrence. “Every tweet, every word out of her mouth, everything she wears is geared toward publicizing herself or selling products. Celebrities with genuine relationships want to hide them, not flaunt them. They have more respect for their personal life than that, but as we learned from Kim Kardashian and her fake wedding, she’ll exploit anything.”
*Handsome couple Evelyn Lozada and Chad Ochocinco are getting ready to say those vows.
But in a recent interview, the reality show star shared some very personal information about her relationship with the NFL player.
She said they’re basically in an open relationship.
“I am a realist as to the world we live in. When your relationship is high profile and publicized like mine, I don’t put anything past anyone. Who is to say that either one of us will eventually fall into that temptation one day? We don’t know that,” Evelyn wrote on her blog.
“My thing is, I want to take my wedding vows and say, we want this to be forever, but you never know,” she said
In a recent episode of “Basketball Wives,” Lozada explained that she knows there’s going to be temptation, so she’s understanding to the call. She also said she’s willing to have an open relationship.
“I am not condoning Chad for cheating… There will be temptation, but it takes a strong bond to defeat it,” said Evelyn, who believes she and Chad have such a connection. “We do love each other and are both focused on making this work… I love Chad, my focus is him and vice-versa and we are going to do this thing and work it out,” she said. “There is an abundant amount of negativity and it isn’t easy. It has been a challenge, but this is my dude and I love him.”
Watch below as Chad and Evelyn discuss their relationship. It’s quite revealing.