In part 4, Bey elaborates on losing 65 pounds after the birth of her baby, Blue Ivy, and how she wanted to celebrate that fact. In other words, she’s very proud of her assets.
*She’s married and pregnant, yet questions about Kerry Washington’s sexuality persist, and the “Scandal” star addresses them in an interview with The Advocate.
“It’s interesting how much people long to fill in the gaps when someone in the public eye doesn’t share their personal life,” she told the magazine.
The actress, who is married to NFL player Nnamdi Asomugha and is pregnant with their first child, brushes off the rumors as non-offensive. Washington says although she understands “their frustration,” she doesn’t get why people are still so hung up over sexual preference.
“I like how people will post pictures of me with other women that I adore, hugging on red carpets, and say, ‘See?’” she continued. “Are we so uncomfortable with love between two people of the same gender that we immediately label it as sexual?”
The TV star, who will host “Saturday Night Live” on Nov. 4, said she’s proud of the diversity of sexual orientation on her hit ABC series, which includes gay married couple Cyrus Beene (played by Jeff Perry) and James Novak (portrayed by Dan Bucatinsky).
“It’s really exciting that millions of viewers each week are living life with this amazing, complex couple, stepping into their gay marriage and adoption experience, which is such a vital storyline in our show,” she said.
The new bride and soon-to-be first-time mom, who is reportedly about four months into her pregnancy, has taken on the role of a lesbian in a few films like Spike Lee’s “She Hate Me” and as a transgender in “Life is Hot in Cracktown.” In order to prepare for the roles, she spent time in lesbian clubs.
“I always approach a role like an anthropologist, so I like to lose myself in a culture and an identity,” she explained. “It was amazing to spend time in that world.”
Still, Washington dismisses any notion that she’s a lesbian in real life.
“I’ve never been bothered by the lesbian rumor. There’s nothing offensive about it, so there’s no reason to be offended.”
Read Kerry Washington’s entire interview in “The Advocate” here.
*Writer Thomas Mambande discusses the matter of dealing with sexuality and homosexuality in the church in an opinion piece published on Afro.com:
As I read Reverend Lamar’s opinion piece (“Sex, Not Same-Sex Marriage, Should Be Topic of Debate”), my heart sank. For, while reading about the hypocrisy of the black church in America from the distance of my office in South Africa, I was reminded painfully of just how tragic are the ties that seem to bind us as black people around the world – particularly those of us who seek solace within the church. Blacks number among the most enthusiastic Christians on the planet, with Africa fast-becoming the seat of global evangelism. Yet, sadly, black churches and communities on the continent have grappled with sex and sexuality as poorly as their U.S. counterparts, with devastating consequences.
The parallels are as strong as they are disheartening. Homosexuality remains the focus of ire within the bulk of African churches and communities while frank, faith-based discussions on heterosexual conduct are largely ignored. Yet, on the continent as in the U.S., it is sex between men and women that yields a far greater impact on black life.
In Africa, heterosexual couplings are the main drivers of the HIV/AIDS pandemic. And the sole factor behind stubbornly and persistently high rates of unplanned pregnancy among young women. In these countries, the majority of which are wracked by widespread poverty, the burdens of sexually-transmitted disease and unwanted pregnancies place additional strain on communities that can ill afford them.
South Africa, the continent’s “Rainbow Nation,” brings into sharp and embarrassing focus not only the contrast in sexual trends between the races, but how such trends impact the different ethnic groups and the nation as a whole. A mirror image of the U.S. in many ways, South Africa is a country of great ethnic and racial diversity, yet one in which blacks are generally clustered at the bottom of society, economically as well by other criteria of life quality. Global recession notwithstanding, whites here continue to enjoy one of the highest standards of living on the planet, with Asians and mixed-race people tending to occupy various strands along the economic spectrum. And, in spite of pockets of religious diversity, a majority of South Africans refer to themselves as “Christians.” Just like the ‘good ‘ole U.S. of A. Not for nothing is South Africa often referred to as ‘the U.S. of Africa.’
Read more at Afro.com.
*Four women have accused popular Nashville pastor Bishop Joseph Walker III of Mount Zion Baptist Church and five other church leaders of sexual misconduct and violating their trust over the past 10 years.
The women specifically allege contact with Walker led to sexual assault, and in one case, a forced abortion.
The women are suing for $5 million, according to Newschannel 5.
“I believe that it was time for me to say something,” said Valencia Batson. “I felt like I was dead. A walking person that had no life that was spiritually bound. My soul was in turmoil,” said Batson.
The lawsuit also claims leaders in the church participated in sexual exploitation in counseling, sexual battery, aggravated sexual battery and sexual harassment, assault and false imprisonment.
“It’s wrong. It’s not the right thing to be happening — especially in a place like a church,” said Batson.
*Generally speaking an individual or nation should be very sensitive to dismissing others because of a difference in outlook or methods. I am the same person that wrote against colonization because indigenous peoples should be able to use their natural resources how they see fit – not as colonizers see fit.
Still there are limits to this philosophy. Attitudes about sexuality are often bring about exceptions to this rule.
For instance the populations of some states in this country would rather not recognize marital unions of homosexual couples. The live and let live stance of cultural relativism does not apply here because individuals are being held back from living their lives to the fullest potential.
Some countries in Africa attempt to control women by controlling their sexuality in the form of cutting off part of the clitorises of adolescent girls. Cultural relativism should not be a reason to ignore the harm being done in these instances.
In Afghanistan people are arrested on the mere suspicion of having premarital sex. The Afghan people should be able to live however they choose as a society so long as segments of that society, that are not harming anyone, be able to pursue their desires.
Sex and relationships can inspire some of the strongest feelings (positive and negative) so it might be understandable to attempt to control sex lest a society spiral out of control. Except that we have seen that each generation of elders attempt to control the sexuality of the younger people with a degree of failure and much handwringing. And when the younger generation matures and takes on positions of responsibility the society inevitably chugs along. No revolution, no zombies in the streets, nothing. As powerful as sex seems, in reality it is really quite impotent (I couldn’t resist). Strong feelings do not always lead to strong actions.
Sex and sexuality are never a core element when a society goes astray or thrives. The best example of this is the sexual liberation movement of the 1960s and 1970s. Many conservative pundits would have you believe that it marked the beginning of the end of the United States as a great country. In truth the national economy has seen the regular distribution of ups and downs since then including the booms of the 1980s (finance) and 1990s (technology) and the current recession (real estate).
Sexuality simply should not be a reason for disfranchising a segment of society because its effects are never large enough to affect society at large.
Trevor Brookins is a free lance writer in Rockland County, New York. He is currently working on a book about American culture during the Cold War. His writing has appeared in The Journal News. You can reach him at firstname.lastname@example.org
*There seems to be a consensus on not needing a reason to have sex.
Most are happy with the remote possibility or a simple grazing of the genital area to get the party started.
No real reason is needed. But, nevertheless, someone has took the time to form a list of reasons and they’re pretty good!
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